wow, just wow. Thank you Dsevens for being so very professional. I'm someone who, in your shoes, would never have been able to be so cool even when I was in the right. My guilt complex would've kicked into overdrive and I would've delivered the cake to that rotten, undeserving, horrid, bride. So, thank you so much for giving me a good example of how to stay strong under pressure and do the right thing. You are my hero!!!!
Well, that and you decorate some beautiful cakes! 
I can't believe people can be so rotten in real life. The MOG must've had some other incidents before this one. Trying to scam a cake is horrible, but not really worthy of taking back an heirloom engagement ring. Sad.
OMG! I'm still reading this thread! WOW! what nerve of this gal! So, far to me what I'm reading is that perhaps this chick thought mommy and daddy were going to end up paying for the cake. And bets are, this chick never mentioned anything to hubby to be. Guess that tells you how that marriage will go.......
Good tootles for MOG! It probs did create a rift between her and her son..
Now, if this was in my situation, I probs would have just made copies of the stop payment item and had it on a plate on the to be wedding cake table.
Wonder if this chick is now going to say her wedding was ruined because of no cake........
I'm the same way, if you don't pay in full for your cake with in the time frame specified, you don't get cake! I don't take the "excuse" (if you pardon the pun), "I'm going to pay as soon as I'm done with the hair dresser or what ever it is", because more than likely there is not going to be a payment of any sorts.
One final Q..... "call me dumb" but have you all seen the wedding cake photo?, I read that it has been shown, but I can't find it.... would love to see the beautiful work done.....
And at least those who got some cake bet it was good cake!
So happy for the great outcome! And so saddened to read that there are still nut jobs like this "beyond bridezilla" chicks out there.......
Good on MOG from being able to have the courage to stand for her convictions - would have been very hard thing to do but at least her son will never be able to say that no one warned him. Me thinks this wasn't the wedding of the Bride's dreams and she did it to herself. Maybe the Groom did know - after all, dsevans did leave a message on his phone too or maybe he felt that the mess would be sorted out in a couple of weeks and they'd end up getting married anyway so why throw away all the other money they'd already forked out. Who knows. If his relationship with his Mum suffers, I suspect it will be a short term hit (which is still far too long for a mother). You just can't imagine a marriage starting out this way standing the test of time.
I do really feel for MOG - it must have been one of the most devastating days of her life and she has probably hasn't stopped crying.
OP- you are a class act all the way girl! You rose above the poop, still kept a backbone, and right will out in the end.
MOG- yes, I have to agree that this is obviously not the first red flag signs she has seen from this girl and I am glad she now has her heirloom ring back. Sounds like this girl would pawn it or worse for spite.
IndyDeb- please tell your nephew that more than one person is cheering him on for his stance on the paper. He has guts and a strong spirit (is he a wee bit like his aunt's backbone is? ).
Ok....I've been lurking for all 51 YES 51 pages eargerly awaiting each new update. I agree with everyone else that OP handled this whole situation with true integrity!!!I certainly will remember this, if I am ever in this situation. (hugs) to OP....time to relax. I really feel sorry for MOG, as most have said, I'm sure this isn't the first red flag that has gone up, and you just want your children to be happy. To leave the wedding must have been a very difficult decision. Its a shame that we live in a world where people think its ok to cheat others and only think of themselves. Yea for MOG in taking a stand and to OP for also taking a stand without resorting to rolling in the mud with Bridezilla and her mom 
Well, I think it was a smart thing for the MOG to take that ring back, because if for some reason the marriage fails, that girl would do something with it in spite, and if its a family heirloom, than its irreplaceable. And the rif will be temporary....when they need bail money, they will call her!
Thanks for the update dsevans. I have to say again, you handled yourself with such grace and composure and it sure is great to see you did not let them steamroll over you.
You obviously have a great network established, made up of people who looked out for you and in the end ensured that you weren't taken advantage of. Only those who have earned the respect of others, would be able to set up such a network.
The bride chose the wrong person to mess with!
Thanks also for sharing your ordeal so others will be able to learn from it!
I wonder if there would be a way to let the MOG know that we are all on her side in this saga! With a raised voice, I said OMG! (when I read OP's post about the MOG) Naturally, hubby came ruinning over to see what got posted! He's into this topic as much as the rest of us! Wow, huge thumbs up to MOG for having the nerve to take a stand! Good for her! This topic is so much better than tv! This could easily turn into a movie if you ask me! I have to wonder what people were discussing at the wedding....maybe taking bets on how long the marriage would last? Now we need to know what happens when it goes to court and such!
Well, I think it was a smart thing for the MOG to take that ring back, because if for some reason the marriage fails, that girl would do something with it in spite, and if its a family heirloom, than its irreplaceable. And the rif will be temporary....when they need bail money, they will call her!
Absolutely they will need to call the MOG because if the MOB is not in jail with Bridezilla, MOB will tell the police "NO way! That's TOO MUCH to pay for bail!"
You were a class act from beginning to end.
You took the words right out of my fingers...was thinking the same thing as I was reading all of this.
I really have to give kudos to MOG also. It takes some real guts to do what she did. But, like an earlier poster stated, this could have been the last in a series of events and was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I really do wish I could have seen those Wally World sheet cakes sitting on that table in their Walmart boxes at the venue hall though...
if the MOB is not in jail with Bridezilla, MOB will tell the police "NO way! That's TOO MUCH to pay for bail!"
ROFL! No wait - she'll write a check for bail then put a stop payment on it! Because it may be her daughter but that jail cell really isnt worth all the money they're asking for!
I might have missed this when reading all of the entries, and with what the MOG did ( YES, GOOD FOR HER ) Did the groom know what the bride was going to do ?? what he apart of this I wonder ??? Im just curious.
You did handle this whole thing so professionally, and it sounds like you have so many people around you looking out for you. Like you said, "KARMA" will definately happen in this situation. Tho, I wouldve loved to have watched the MOB try to "hide" the walmart cakes. I can just see it in my mind. and good for the venue for being honest with everyone and not making you look bad for something that you did not do.
if the MOB is not in jail with Bridezilla, MOB will tell the police "NO way! That's TOO MUCH to pay for bail!"
ROFL! No wait - she'll write a check for bail then put a stop payment on it! Because it may be her daughter but that jail cell really isnt worth all the money they're asking for!
Do bailbondsmen accept checks?? If not, she'll have to do a computer generated fake cashiers check. She's on a roll...why stop now? He he...
i hate to say this and don't shoot me for it lol.. the groom probably went along with it cause he probably held the concept "its just cake,whats the big deal"
(now. mind you.. i'm here on cc.. supporting our fellow members above and most especially our beloved OP lol so *I* don't carry the Just cake sentiment) 
now .. cake porn?? hehe i like that .. *waggles eyebrows*
I wish I was the fly on the wall at the reception when all of this was happening. My goodness, how sad.
if the MOB is not in jail with Bridezilla, MOB will tell the police "NO way! That's TOO MUCH to pay for bail!"
ROFL! No wait - she'll write a check for bail then put a stop payment on it! Because it may be her daughter but that jail cell really isnt worth all the money they're asking for!
....After she calls the jail the night before to make sure all the arrangements have been completed
When I first got my SugarShack videos my husband referred to them as my "cake porn". I LOVE that someone else uses that too!
To the OP: you show a great example of how we should all conduct ourselves! Thank you! Your cake was beautiful! That bride will never be happy in her life because she is aways looking for a "cheaper" way. Or a way to get what she wants by screwing others over. Not a good way to live, and it will catch up to her.
ok, I know I'm probably crazy for stepping in on page 52 (!!) and saying this ..but feel bad for the bride. What she did was totally inexcusable, wrong, illegal..etc..BUT..
She's no axe murderer, she's no Bernie Madoff..
To have your wedding ruined, ring taken back, Mother in law leave the wedding, embarrassed in front of guests...It's really just sad.
I am in no way saying the OP did anything wrong. I think she handled it exactly as it should have been, but I still feel bad for the bride. I know ..she brought it on herself..but still. What a way to start a life.
it just goes to show the total shelfishness that younger people think is due them-it's all about me and to heck with anybody else-if i can't pay for it who cares, we can find a way around it (there's lots of people around my community who are proud of how well they can cheat people/services) it still astonishes me though.
I was reading last night and hubby kept interupting for things like you need to go do your Easter shopping because he comes tonight. Doesn't he get it??? I didn't want to stop reading but did. Didn't get on today until tonight. Now hubby is saying we have to sign the tax papers and get them in the mail tomorrow. Taxes, what taxes? Oh!! Those taxes. We can't mail them tonight. Have plenty of time to do that before I mail them tomorrow. There are more important things to do. You had your computer time earlier on Craig's list. Now it's my time. 
I guess you need to read the entire post. I do not feel the bride deserves any sympathy what so ever. She intentionally tried to rip off the OP. There is just no excuse in that.
She should have known there would be consequences if she did not pay for things that were agreed on. It sounds to me as if she was trying to get a really nice cake for free.
Don't feel bad for her all!
I thought the cake was beautiful and worth way more than 1100.00. 
Girlfriend ruined her own wedding and embarrassed herself. People need to hold themselves accountable for their own actions. We dont know the whole story behind the MOG thing, but for everything else, she did it to herself and paid the price for it. Hopefully she learned a life lesson from this.
Also, thanks for all the PMS sorry if my relpies were short trying to get through quickly before my husband does his eye rolling "you're on the cake porn site again"
HAHAHA. I'm glad my husband isn't the only one. I consider the home improvement ads in the sunday paper his porn ... he was so happy to find out that I had my own version of "clean" porn.
I can't say that I feel overly sorry for the Bride at all. She chose the way the events of her wedding went. She was given the opportunity to right her wrong and none of her guests would have been any the wiser - she could have claimed it all a silly misunderstanding in the saloon and paid what was owed and had it sorted out in 5 mins straight but she chose her course of action from which everything else flowed. Clearly the MOG would have loaned them the money there and then if they'd needed it and come to her. But she was deceptive to dsevan and her MIL and the consequences which flowed to her are the logical consequences of those actions. I personally think she chose to ruin her wedding day, not anyone else and it may be a hard lesson to learn but it was a lesson that needed to be learnt.
I, too, am feeling sorry for the bride... for not knowing, realizing or acting like an adult and being a responsible, accountable person. That has to be a sad way to live through life. Always remembering your lies and trying to find the angle. I can't imagine the energy it takes to always be the victim and on your toes. But then again she had a good teacher who is there to still mentor her. And they have just recruited a live-in student in the groom.
Let's just hope that they wise up by some miracle or divorce before they have a chance to infect another generation.
We need more people like the OP and the MOG in this world!!
(and indy's nephew - he truly does get it!!)
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