My "inappropriate" Avatar And Ticker

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kentuckyjode Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:41am
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Good for you for posting your beautiful baby's picture. Too many people are too uncomfortable with death. Death is the most important part of life and people need to deal with it. Bless you and your baby!!

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summernoelle Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:42am
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Janette-you've stood up for me in the past, when no one else did, and I loved you for it! Don't leave. I greatly disagree with you here, but we still want you around.

Although, I have noticed recently that CC has become a pretty mean spirited place. I'm not too happy with that.



Thanks a lot, I made it this far and it took your post to make me cry. My heart is touched. There is a small ray of light in the darkness after all.




Awww. ((((hugs)))))

It will be OK. Can't tell you the amount of times I've been attacked on this site. I get soooo upset about it, and it always blows over.

Please stay.

((((hugs)))))

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:44am
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Now, I have to go find some tissue.

Why is it when someone uses the last tissue they leave an empty box instead of getting a new one out.

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Zooie Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:50am
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Now, I have to go find some tissue.

Why is it when someone uses the last tissue they leave an empty box instead of getting a new one out.




That's when I go poke someone else who has tissues... icon_lol.gif

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karennayak Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:54am
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The other day I was at my aunt's place, flipping through a family album, and suddenly came across a picture of my uncle (passed, a year ago), laid out in his coffin.
I was surprised, yes, felt awkward, yes. And yet, for my aunt, it was perfectly natural, to have a picture of his death, in an album that celebrated his life.

For me, on the outside of her grief, I thought it would have been more appropriate to have it in a separate album.

And that is what I feel in this case too.

On a side note, in Hindi where the word avatar originates, one of the meaningsof the word is ...The physical embodiment of an idea or concept; a personification.

So the avatars that show insects/poop etc are the ones I find "strange"!

Karen

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 1:57am
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So the avatars that show insects/poop etc are the ones I find "strange"!

I just did that a little while ago for another member kinda joking around. Long story.

I thought of the real thing and then thought better of it.

Besides I couldn't get my camera to work. Just kidding.

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kurn Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:05am
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And I think him being with you on here is great, and who cares what other negative people think. You seem like an amazingly strong woman.

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Because we are bothered, we are being negative people?

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:10am
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Ok, I'm calling it a night before I get all worked up again.

Why are we negative people. I don't get it. Just because we find it depressing. We are not negative people, maybe we have too much heart and it is painful to see. But, negative, no.

Negative is an over used word.

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Wjk Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:16am
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Now, I have to go find some tissue.

Why is it when someone uses the last tissue they leave an empty box instead of getting a new one out.


To spite you! When I'm visiting in Oct. I'm going to empty all your tissue boxes before I leave, as well as the toilet paper and paper towels icon_twisted.gif

Sorry to highjack, I just needed to send some love to my friend, please get back to your originally scheduled program icon_biggrin.gif

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Wjk Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:18am
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The other day I was at my aunt's place, flipping through a family album, and suddenly came across a picture of my uncle (passed, a year ago), laid out in his coffin.
I was surprised, yes, felt awkward, yes. And yet, for my aunt, it was perfectly natural, to have a picture of his death, in an album that celebrated his life.

For me, on the outside of her grief, I thought it would have been more appropriate to have it in a separate album.

And that is what I feel in this case too.

On a side note, in Hindi where the word avatar originates, one of the meaningsof the word is ...The physical embodiment of an idea or concept; a personification.

So the avatars that show insects/poop etc are the ones I find "strange"!

Karen




Wow! Way to stir the pot right when things were calming down! Great job! icon_rolleyes.gif

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:22am
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wjk, I took it wrong too. She pm'd me, she wasn't referring to mine. I really am going to have to find a different one it is strange.

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:24am
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Now, wjk

Would you call me a negative person.

Remember you can lie for friends.

BTW where is your WHFC2 rules

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Lisa422 Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:26am
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Now, wjk

Would you call me a negative person.

Remember you can lie for friends.

BTW where is your WHFC2 rules




I got your "WFHC2 rules" right here sista!!!

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FeGe_Cakes Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:27am
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Hey you ladies (and gents). Go to this website and relieve some stress.

http://www.doodie.com/anger_management.php

I'm going to bake cake now.

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Kim_in_CajunCountry Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:27am
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OK, this may sound nerdy and off topic, but bear with me. (Sorry it's so long). I had read the original thread and I was watching the news as I was reading this thread and I had a light bulb moment. Let me preface this by saying I'm not a political person and I'm not going to voice my opinions on our government or the wars we wage. I'm also not a very religious person, although I do consider myself spirutual. I'm not a mushy person. I'm not a treehugger. I do belive in ghosts and psychic abilities and maybe even aliens, because, hey, can you prove they don't exist?

So this is the thing...I just realized that this is a forum frequented by many people, mostly women, from around the world of different races and cultures. And, while this thread has revealed the good, the bad, and the ugly - the DNA of human nature - one thing rings true. We were all FREE to voice our opinions without fear of retribution (or censorship, thank you, moderators). And while many have pointed out that this is a forum for discussing all-things-cake, someone else said it well (I'll paraphrase) - you get this many people together and you're going to get a variety of topics up for discussion.

We are a sisterhood (with a few brothers thrown in). And, as with any family, literal or figurative, there will always be those who listen to conversations, but don't participate. Those who voice their opinions, (some who are wishy-washy always seeming to agree with whoever is "winning" an argument), those who will always go out of their way to find an argument, those who will always come to the defense of others, those who lead discussions and those who follow. It's human nature.

The great thing about all this is that at the end of the day no one will come knocking on your door to take you away because you opened your mouth. We, as women, should appreciate this freedom and remember those women who have no voice. Let's celebrate our diversity and agree to disagree. Let's rejoice that we are women who lead very different lives, but have been brought together by our common interests.

Let's celebrate our freedom, our differences, our womanhood.

OK. I see many of you rolling your eyes. I'm getting off my soapbox now.

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Lisa422 Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:28am
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Janette I would describe you as a realist! You tell it like it is. And I love you for that. You know where you can say what you feel and never be judged. And that's what REALLY matters! Don't ever forget that!

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:36am
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Originally Posted by Lisa422

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Originally Posted by Janette

Now, wjk

Would you call me a negative person.

Remember you can lie for friends.

BTW where is your WHFC2 rules



I got your "WFHC2 rules" right here sista!!!




First the tissue box and now I have friends that arrive late. Where were you guys when I was knocked to the ground and kicked.

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karennayak Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:36am
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I'm really sorry,
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I was trying to explain that the word "avatar" meant something different to me, as I come from a different background from most of you.


I definitely DID NOT mean to stir up trouble. I do apologise if it did.

Karen

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MeMo07 Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:43am
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Originally Posted by Kim_in_CajunCountry

OK, this may sound nerdy and off topic, but bear with me. (Sorry it's so long). I had read the original thread and I was watching the news as I was reading this thread and I had a light bulb moment. Let me preface this by saying I'm not a political person and I'm not going to voice my opinions on our government or the wars we wage. I'm also not a very religious person, although I do consider myself spirutual. I'm not a mushy person. I'm not a treehugger. I do belive in ghosts and psychic abilities and maybe even aliens, because, hey, can you prove they don't exist?

So this is the thing...I just realized that this is a forum frequented by many people, mostly women, from around the world of different races and cultures. And, while this thread has revealed the good, the bad, and the ugly - the DNA of human nature - one thing rings true. We were all FREE to voice our opinions without fear of retribution (or censorship, thank you, moderators). And while many have pointed out that this is a forum for discussing all-things-cake, someone else said it well (I'll paraphrase) - you get this many people together and you're going to get a variety of topics up for discussion.

We are a sisterhood (with a few brothers thrown in). And, as with any family, literal or figurative, there will always be those who listen to conversations, but don't participate. Those who voice their opinions, (some who are wishy-washy always seeming to agree with whoever is "winning" an argument), those who will always go out of their way to find an argument, those who will always come to the defense of others, those who lead discussions and those who follow. It's human nature.

The great thing about all this is that at the end of the day no one will come knocking on your door to take you away because you opened your mouth. We, as women, should appreciate this freedom and remember those women who have no voice. Let's celebrate our diversity and agree to disagree. Let's rejoice that we are women who lead very different lives, but have been brought together by our common interests.

Let's celebrate our freedom, our differences, our womanhood.

OK. I see many of you rolling your eyes. I'm getting off my soapbox now.




Very well said.. icon_smile.gif

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:43am
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Karen, I am glad you chimed in you gave us intreresting information.

I've always wondered where they came up with that word.

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Lisa422 Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:44am
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Originally Posted by Janette

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Originally Posted by Janette

Now, wjk

Would you call me a negative person.

Remember you can lie for friends.

BTW where is your WHFC2 rules



I got your "WFHC2 rules" right here sista!!!



First the tissue box and now I have friends that arrive late. Where were you guys when I was knocked to the ground and kicked.


Making dinner. Remember, I'm a Cali girl!

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Janette Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:46am
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Originally Posted by Lisa422

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Originally Posted by Janette

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Originally Posted by Lisa422

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Originally Posted by Janette

Now, wjk

Would you call me a negative person.

Remember you can lie for friends.

BTW where is your WHFC2 rules



I got your "WFHC2 rules" right here sista!!!



First the tissue box and now I have friends that arrive late. Where were you guys when I was knocked to the ground and kicked.

Making dinner. Remember, I'm a Cali girl!




I always forget we have that time zone thing going on.

I'm pooped (pardon the pun) this roller coaster has taken too much energy out of me.

Peace out

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OCakes Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 2:48am
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My first reaction to your picture (which I've seen before this post), was "oh, cute baby!", and then I read your signature line & I cried for you & said a prayer for your heart. I have never lost a born child, however I had a miscarriage & I found out that a LOT of people don't know how to handle it. I was told some pretty harsh things - but those people meant to be supportive. What I tell people now is that if they have not been through the situation themselves, they should just be really good listeners! Then, a close friend lost her baby at 12 days old, and people were "dumb" around her too - so my advice to her was that people just get dumb around these situations and don't take everything to heart. It sounds like YOU already have that well under control & I can't help but to feel sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry that he was stillborn, but you felt his life & I'm so happy that you celebrate it! You ARE a great mom, and you're going to be a great mom to future children.

I didn't read the other post regarding inappropriate avatars, however my gut tells me that the person just didn't realize what they were doing.

I'm really glad you responded. "The World" needs to realize that it's not "voo-doo" to talk to someone who's suffered loss.

Much Love,
Christina

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Heath Posted 5 Aug 2008 , 4:51am
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Ok this thread is now locked, I think both sides are ready to move on.

To those who want to criticize the moderating staff for not censoring this thread as quickly as some threads have been in the past, as I always say, when you manage to keep a community this size 100% civil, happy, and perfectly balanced, feel free to send me your playbook. Until then you will have to accept that the moderators do the best they can, they cannot be on the site 24/7, read every post, and come to an immediate and 100% correct decision all of the time. We do the best we can, and if that is not good enough, feel free to go somewhere you think is better.

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