Yeah ! let's see them handle what you have been through. Let's see if they are as brave and strong of a person as you.. Or maybe it's just the mouth that is big and not the strength to go thru all this.
It's like slapping you on face after all you have been through. Hopefully they will experience much harder times than you. Let's see how they would feel about it.
Please keep that photo and ignore those retards.
OK, enough is enough... As it is wrong for people to judge others before walking in their shoes, it is even worse to wish pain and hardship on others... I really feel these two threds are getting way out of control. Please everyone take a deep breath, stop judging and lets get back to CAKE DECORATING!
Twooten,
My heart goes out to you.
I read something yesterday about a post on an inappropriate pic and I don't see anything wrong with your avatar at all. Your baby IS beautiful!
I've never had a loss, I can't claim to know what you've gone through. I had a friend who was due the same time as me and she lost her little girl and she posted pictures of the most beautiful little girls I've ever seen. My heart sank for her as it does for you.
I admire you for your strength. You ARE truly blessed!
We ARE supposed to be a community and support each other, I hope that we can all go past this and strengthen each other in the future.
(((HUGS)))
Twooten,
I, too, was unaware of the first thread but was horrified when I began reading this one and found that there were such insensitive, mean spirited "friends" here on CC. I've seen other such threads and rarely come to CC anymore because of it.
Words will not come about your precious son. Even trying to imagine the depth of your sorrow is impossible. Your testimony is the most powerful statement of God's love for us that I've heard in a long time. Please know that I am thinking of you and will lift you and your family up to the Lord. You are already blessed, as you said. I'm praying a very special blessing on you now and know that the God who sustains you will also heal you.
In Him...Judy
Twooten,
Taylor is such beautiful baby. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. May you continue to find strength and comfort in God's love.
I too have seen the picture many times and always thought he was a beautiful baby...Never did I know the circumstances.My heart goes out to you to have to endure such loss and many more after that!! I'm not sure I could do it! As a long time member here I am saddened and embarrassed that people are so insensitive and rude.Please accept my apologies for them!! Hold baby Taylor's memory high and be proud! LOL
Twooten,
A mother's love is never "inappropriate". I'm saddend by the other thread and hope that other's can be inspired by you and your strength. There are many of us here on CC who are praying for your family and knowing that Taylor will live on forever in your heart. Many blessings to you.
Susan
I've had many losses in my life as most of us have., including two precious babies...and I live my life with this thought at the forefront of my mind and I think everyone should as well
"NO ONE KNOWS THE WEIGHT OF ANOTHER'S BURDENS"
I'm so sorry for your loss and what is going on here. Your baby is so beautiful!
I have lost 2 babies in an 8 month span. For people who haven't had that kind of loss, it's crippling. I only wish I had pictures of my babies to show the world. People tend to "forget" those babies.
If you ever need to talk, just pm me!!
Missy
WOW....
I reada portion of the other post and I must say that people are so often making mountains out of molehills that they often lose sight of the bigger picture. While I understand that freedom of speech is important....I do realise that they have a right to voice their opinion, regardless of how stupid and insignificant it is. But you have huge support which THIS thread clearly shows. Cakecentral is a place to share our love of cakes and all that it involves and I thought that from all I have seen and read over the months sine I joined that all members were proud to call it a family. As with all families, we share the high's and lows in life and a child is a beautiful gift that no one has the right to criticise. I cannot begin to imagine the grief you have gone through and I applaud your strength to deal with it publicly. Sometimes we gather strength from those around us and it is that strength that keeps us going...
your putting up the pic is a small thing in the grand scheme of things, but it is huge in the impact the experience has had on YOUR life. As my mother always said..."small things amuse small minds". It seems that what they find inappropriate is NOT the picture but the story behind it.
For all those who have bothered to comment negatively and unnessarily on the pic, what you should have done, the appropriate thing to have done, is to PM the person putting up the pic and simply ask what the reasoning was behind it. Then perhaps, just perhaps, the human being inside you would have realised how hard it was to show their immense grief in such a public fashion, and maybe, just maybe, have some empathy and see the beauty in it all. Life is too short to bicker over nonsense... People just do not like being exposed to the realities that is life....the harshness that is nature....and the compassion that is love....
My heart goes out to you during this time and although they say, time heals all, I know that it can take a lifetime to soothe the pain it has caused. and SHAME to all who has contributed to your suffering and emotional wellbeing.
I totally appreciate and agree with your unwillingness to remove the picture at this point and may god bless you at this time of struggle....
Nicole
yesterday I was very curious to find out what the avatar everyone was talking about looked like. I thought in my head that is was something very nasty by what everyone was saying there was so many people saying they agreed with it being distasteful.. This morning I get on to see this thread and I read what she had to say about her avatar and I was very thrown back on how someone could even look at that as distasteful that is a wonderful picture there is nothing nasty about it at all. I walked away from the computer to make breakfast for my children 7 and 1 and thought the whole time about how people could be so mean.
I looked at my kids as I was serving them French toast and I just couldn't imagine my life with out them and to hear people talking mean about someone how has lost such a special thing in life really upsets me.. I did not post on the other post because I did not know what was being talked about. and I am very disappointed in the people that did post and said hurtful things.. You may think that was a distasteful picture but don't you think that is very distasteful to put her down for showing off her child. I could not imagine how it felt to lose her baby, My 7y old almost died because of bad allergies his throat closed on him when he was 3 I got him to the hospital as he was turning purple I am blessed to say that he survived and is here today, my 1y old lost his temp when he was born and went into shock and was not taking to food or the doctors and went into ICU I am a very healthy women and did no drugs or anything like that during pregnancy and to have almost lost my newborn after 9 months of carrying him I was devastated and had the hardest time in the hospital.. They did get his temp up and did get him to eat so he is a big healthy boy now, but to see someone that lost their little one at such a time that is suppose to be of joy and happiness and then to see someone bash down the picture I am so so angry.. the people that did not like that picture I feel are being very selfish you have no idea what is going on in this womens life and how she is handling the whole thing.. I would be so hurt if I gt on here to see I thread so big about my little man that did not make it.. If you are unhappy about a picture that is just a picture, she is the one that no longer has this baby..
This is why so many Americans fight and have problems in the world cause no one can mind their own business if its something that bothers you, you have to find a way to nag about it or change it to fix your wants and needs what about the person that is going threw this.. If you do not like something turn your check to it cause the world is not going to cater to everyones needs, we all has freedom of speech and will.
I think your picture is very pretty and If this happened to me I would have done the same thing do not take your picture down to fit someone else's wants you are the one going threw this not them you do what makes you happy and what makes you feel better about what has happened.. I pray for you and your family, God bless you and all around you..!! 
I am truly sorry for your loss! You are a very strong person!
I never thought of your avatar as inappropriate.... to be truthful I just saw a cute baby and thought how wondeful all your cake are!
I read the OP and when you came on I had to look twice/read at what the big deal was!
I wish you all the best! I am glad you did not take your beautiful sons picture off! He is your son and a part of your life... Thank you for staying true to him.
God Bless You!
I had my say earlier but want to say one more thing. As you share here please be careful that references made to the first thread don't end up slamming the posters there. I commend Theresa for having the courage to stand her ground but let's not start making unkind comments directed towards the first thread and send this thread in the same direction. I haven't experienced a loss like many of you but 3 of my 5 sisters have. I do know it's heart breaking. Not agreeing about an avatar doesn't mean others have no sympathy/empathy for those who have had a loss, so please don't let that get started and turn into 10+ pages of slamming in the other direction. Theresa said she's not going anywhere, especially over a silly post and it's certainly not her intention to provide another place to breed unrest on this lovely site.
CC is loaded with wonderful people with a willingness to share and have fun baking and decorating cakes etc. Let's keep it a fun and sharing place for everyone please.
twooten
I am so sorry people feel the need to tell us we have to hide our angels. Through this last year I have learned so much about people and it's not always good. People I thought were my friends have shied away from me and people I never expected would understand or be there for me have become the most awesome friends. I wear a dog chain every day with Olivia's picture on it, 1 on each side. I don't care if people want to see it, if they don't then don't look. She is my daughter just as Taylor is your son and you have every right to show him off. He is beautiful!!!! I always think that our angels are up in heaven playing together and laughing at their crazy cake moms LOL
Again, if you EVER need someone to talk to, yell at or just blow off steam I am here for you. Email me and I will send you my phone number so we can talk. I have unlimited long distance on the house phone so if you call I can call right back and we can talk/cry/scream together. I also have verizon for our cell service with text if you have them too we can really talk/text up a storm.
Have a good day.
Amy
ps, I got rid of my penguin avatar and put Olivia's up now that I figured out how.
Hi! Don't take your avatar down. I've seen it so many times, and thought I was looking at an angel. What a beautiful baby!
This is an open "public" (join if you wish) forum for the sharing of our love of confectionary arts, as well as other (personal) ideas. I feel sorry that you were put in a position of having to address this and defend yourself. But I'll say that you did so with grace.
You are an inspiration to us. You set a high example for what it's like to go through so much and still have the strength to go on and thank God for all of his blessings. May He continue to watch over and bless you.
I am not slamming anyone (in case anyone is referring to me) I did say they had the right to voice their opinion...but I was brought up believing if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. even though they may have the right to voice their opinion, it was more of a matter of whether they should....that's why I suggested that the proper thing to do was to ask through a PM. now there is this runaway of heat and stress....I simply support the decision to keep the pic and her reasons for putting it up in the first place. we as a society are so caught up in what everyone else is doing that we lose sight of the fact that our very own REACTIONS maybe just as inappropriate given the situation. I did not mean to stir the hornets nest.
Sometimes life can be extremely hard, and each of us try to find a way to cope and endure our tragedies. If Taylor's picture helps you find some peace and comfort, then it absolutely needs to be there. When I first saw his picture my heart went out to you and your family. I myself, found his picture to be comforting. I realized that this was a child who was wanted, welcomed, cherished, loved, embraced and missed very much! There are many children born into this world who are not so fortunate. Even though Taylor is not able to live in your home at this time, his spirit will always be there.
"Someone you love is in heaven,
So heaven is in your home."
I'd just like to share my deepest sympathies with the CC members who have mentioned personal losses: "love never dies."
And, I'd like to share this link, if it has not come up already:
SHARE: http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/
I hope some of the people who were uncomfortable with the image of a dearly loved child might visit the site, and gain a sense of what others have gone through. I was quite angry when I skimmed over some of the posts in the "other thread" but then realized that the comments undoubtedly came from a lack of knowledge. Here's a little bit from the SHARE site, that helps explain:
"Iâve never experienced the loss of a baby. What am I supposed to do to make my friends feel better?
No matter what you say or do, there is nothing that will make your friends âfeel better.â Fortunately there are some ideas that will help you be a part of their experience and will help them through their grief. If you donât know what to say, donât say anything. Sometimes just being with them or offering a hug is enough. Itâs all right not to know what to say. Say, âIâm sorry this happened,â or âThis is so awful, I donât know what to say.â Respond to your friendsâ grief just as if anyone other member of their family had died. Send flowers, sympathy cards, share special remembrances, and make a phone call, make or bring dinner. Even though this babyâs life was short, your friends lost their hopes and future too."
Yeah ! let's see them handle what you have been through. Let's see if they are as brave and strong of a person as you.. Or maybe it's just the mouth that is big and not the strength to go thru all this.
It's like slapping you on face after all you have been through. Hopefully they will experience much harder times than you. Let's see how they would feel about it.
Please keep that photo and ignore those retards.
Shame on you fondant girl 
How freaking old are you? 12?? I cant believe I just read that.
Petit-four...that was beautifully written.
I wasn't going to write anything because sometimes I just feel words aren't enough. I had a miscarriage when I was only 10 weeks along. The day after I miscarried I was supposed to have my first appt. to hear the heartbeat. Obviously my appt wasn't of that but instead I brought in the miscarried baby in a small cup. My biggest regret in life...was not asking for it back. They had to look at it to make sure I passed it and I'm sure they either threw it in the garbage or down the disposal. Still...to this day when I think about it it brings tears to my eyes. I would have lovingly buried that baby in a special place.
Anyways, that was over 7 years ago and I still have my moments of deep sadness and loss. Moments of wondering if it was a boy or girl. However, I do have a personal relationship with Jesus and I do believe that He holds my baby. I believe with all my heart that I will some day hold my baby again.
Obviously I never felt my baby move inside of me and I never got to hold my baby in my arms...but a life is a life and when it's taken from you it's painful. I too am very sorry for your loss. BTW, your baby is beautiful. I love his cheeks!
I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for yor loss. The picture of your son is very beautiful and peacefull. There is nothing wrong with taking pictures like these. www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org
Thank you for posting that, natascharenee. I just spent the last 30 minutes reading every last story and looking at those precious pictures.
It was there that I saw little Baby Olivia and read the story, then was so touched to see her mom add her to the avatar.
Every baby is a priceless gift from God...no matter how small or how many weeks along...each one is a wonderful miracle.
As a mother, this thread touched me deeply and I hope you (and Baby Olivia's mommy) know that I want to join you in celebrating their life!
Mo
I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for yor loss. The picture of your son is very beautiful and peacefull. There is nothing wrong with taking pictures like these. www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org
Thank you for posting that, natascharenee. I just spent the last 30 minutes reading every last story and looking at those precious pictures.
It was there that I saw little Baby Olivia and read the story, then was so touched to see her mom add her to the avatar.
Every baby is a priceless gift from God...no matter how small or how many weeks along...each one is a wonderful miracle.
As a mother, this thread touched me deeply and I hope you (and Baby Olivia's mommy) know that I want to join you in celebrating their life!
Mo
Amen to that Mo! I wish more people felt that way.
terri
Yeah ! let's see them handle what you have been through. Let's see if they are as brave and strong of a person as you.. Or maybe it's just the mouth that is big and not the strength to go thru all this.
It's like slapping you on face after all you have been through. Hopefully they will experience much harder times than you. Let's see how they would feel about it.
Please keep that photo and ignore those retards. Shame on you fondant girl
How freaking old are you? 12?? I cant believe I just read that.
Thank you for pointing out how out of line fondant girl was for posting this. In spite of what anyone in the original thread said, you should never hope that anyone will experience this kind of pain. In addition, I find it extremely offensive to call people "retards." My daughter has cerebral palsy and is mentally retarded. This word shouldn't be used as an insult. Mental retardation is a medical condition and a developmental disability. It is not a disease, but a wide range of conditions with many causes. You wouldn't have said "ignore those diabetics" or "ignore those asthmatics." Next time, think before you speak, or in this case type.
twooten,
I am so sorry for your loss. Your baby is beautiful and a gift from God, no matter how little the time you had together was. I had friends whose daughter was stillborn several years ago. Her dad wanted to get her a huge marker for her grave and there were so many people who never understood why. He told me that he'd never be able to buy her toys, or even a wedding dress, but this was one thing he could buy her and he wanted it to be special. You and your family are in my prayers.
Chrisy
As a mother of two small children, my heart aches for you. Not only for your loss, but for the pain you've felt over the original posting. Taylor will always live on in your heart and in God's kingdom, and we are blessed that you chose to share your beautiful baby with your CC family.
As with most families though, there will always be misunderstandings and hurt feelings, but at the end of the day the simple truth is, we're all still family. As you can see from all the postings, you have alot of support and love from your fellow CC'ers and I hope you will continue to be a member of our family.
Robin
I've only read a few of the posts about this but here are my 2 cents.
Who has ever had to be forgiven? 
Who has ever had to forgive? 
*Fight the negetive thoughts! 
*Is your pride more important than your peace? 
*Begin with, withholding judgement! 
Recommended books:
*Getting Over Getting Mad 
*Difficult Conversations 
*Life Would Be Easy If It Weren't For Other People 
*Thought for the day:
-Forgiviness is loves toughest work! 
-You don't always forget but you look at it in an alternative way! 
The End
There is nothing wrong with taking pictures like these. www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org
Coincidentally, I saw your avatar for the first time a few weeks ago, on the evening after a coworker gave birth to her stillborn baby girl when she was 8 months pregnant, having had a normal, uneventful pregnancy. She hadn't noticed any movement over the weekend and went to the doctor on Monday and was given the heartbreaking news. She delivered her angel on Monday afternoon and a local non-profit organization provided her with a handmade gown. Then, members of nowilaymedowntosleep.org, a wonderful organization, came in to take pictures of the baby and her family. These people are angels in their own right.
I think my friend's father said it best, when he said at the hospital, "Heaven must have had a shortage of angels today."
There are no words to express what I feel for you and anyone who has endured such a loss. I am in tears as I write this (and I'm at work; CC addict).
God bless.
I never read the orig. thread and to be honest I try to avoid threads like that.
I knew the picture was of your beautiful child in heaven, but it never bothered me. I think it's wonderful that you are celebrating his life. He was a beautiful child.
Many times I wanted to PM you saying that I was sorry for your loss, but I just couldn't find the right words. What words could I ever form to say that I was so proud of a mother who would celebrate their children's live who are here and those who are not.
I too feel the need to apologize, I requested the information on how to block your image. I never posted anything because I could never live with the fact that I wasn't allowing you to grieve in the way you needed to. I just didn't know how to deal with the emotions that came with seeing such a harsh reality.
One that almost became my reality, same circumstances with my oldest daughter, I almost lost her. I understood very well how much people can be "disturbed"(for lack of a better word). Your picture "disturbed" me so much it brought me to tears, not because it was inappropriate or distasteful but because I didn't know how to handle my emotions and the pain I felt for you and your loss.
As I read your post I truly admire your strength and courage. I understand now that your not grieving your loss but celebrating your beautiful baby. I truly am sorry for everything that has happened to you. I also am sorry that I couldn't see beyond my own emotions.
Nicole
re fondantgirl's comment -- people, I don't think she was ACTUALLY wishing that other people lose babies -- she was probably just so upset and outraged at the hurtful/insensitive comments that she posted as she did. Has no one else ever said something under strong emotions that they might not have actually meant?
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