How Rude!!

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lizziegirl Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 9:39pm
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I find it very rude and insulting that people read a post and don't bother to answer. All I'm asking is just a simple question, why can't someone answer.

We all come here to help each other, at least that's what I thought.

Don't forget that we can see how many people read our posts.

My feelings are a little hurt.

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susies1955 Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 9:46pm
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It happens! Maybe no one could answer your question. Maybe there is no one in that area. It isn't anything personal it is just no one has an answer for you that has seen the message. At least people are looking to SEE if they can help.
Susie

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OzCookie Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 9:51pm
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I think Susie is right on this.
It's not that we're not interested in helping, but when I read a question it's with the intention of posting a reply IF I CAN!
Please don't tell my kids, but I don't know everything! icon_wink.gif
Often, I will mark a post that I couldn't answer with "watch this post", so that I can learn, too.
If everyone that reads your post were to reply with "sorry, can't help" it would take you a week to find your meaningful response icon_confused.gif
Hope that makes you feel better - and here's a (((((HUG))))) to let you know that we care!

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mbelgard Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 9:53pm
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Maybe someone can't answer because no one is in the area you're looking for.
If you look most posts have way more views than replies, people look at them and sometimes don't have anything to say because they either don't have the answer or anything to contribute to the converstation.

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serialbabe1968 Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:07pm
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Phew, I am glad to know that I am not the only one who gets little or no comments on my posts. icon_smile.gif)

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crisseyann Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:09pm
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Please don't take it personally. People here are generally VERY helpful, if they know the answer. I used to "bump" a post if I found no one responded to it. However, that practice is looked upon rather poorly, so I stopped doing it.

I sometimes go to the forums and scroll to see posts that have gotten no response, to see if I could help. More likely than not, being an amateur, I leave it to wiser heads to answer.

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omaida Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:12pm
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I agree!! Everytime I read a post, I answer even if it's a "I don't know", "wish I could help" or other.

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keonicakes Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:13pm
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I only see one post that you made in the last month that didn't get a responce. It's the one about nephew going to college. I'm betting that people haven't responded to that one because they just don't live close enough to that college to be able to help you. Seems your other topics are getting replies, so don't be offended. With the views, it proves people do want to help you, but after getting more details, they aren't in a position too is all. Don't get your feelings hurt.
Amy

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ceshell Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:14pm
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OzCookie makes a perfect point. Sometimes I read a post because the topic in the subject line is something that I'd like to know about too, so I want to watch the topic for an answer. Or it's something I think I may know about, but when I read the question, I realize I have nothing useful to add. Even if the post was just a gripe or "can you believe what happened to me" I might not feel I have anything valuable to respond with.

Yes, I know that people can see how many people read a post, but I'm not going to NOT read threads just because I may not be able to answer the OP's question. It would be overwhelming to think that I should be prohibited from reading any post on CC unless I am planning to add my own response to a thread??!

Hang in there, give it time, and if it's been several hours or a day, CC policy is that it IS ok to give your question a polite bump.

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pidge Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:16pm
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Well, I took a moment to look at your posts ... sorry, I am in WI and I have really no idea of where you live ... which is a bummer -- I would love a new kitchen aid!!! icon_lol.gif
Just thought you'd like to know that it was 42degrees when I got up this morning!! icon_confused.gif
Hope some people in CA can benefit from and contribute to your posts! icon_biggrin.gif

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cakesbyamym Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:16pm
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I don't think that it's anything personal. I, personally, have benefited immensely from simply reading posts and comments. I can say for myself, that lots of times, if something catches my eye in the subject line, and I THINK that I may be of some help, I'll read the post. Sadly, I find that I don't have an answer that I feel good about giving, unless it's something that I have personally done and can comment on my own results. Again, don't take it personally. The same has happened to me. I just chalk it up to interested CC'ers who are like me...not wanting to comment and give information that they haven't personally tried for themselves.

Amy

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ShortcakesSweets Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:18pm
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I didn't see your post. What was your question?

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justme50 Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:19pm
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Ok, I guess I'm not sensitive enough because I didn't even know you could see how many people only looked at a thread that's been posted. I have to go find out how to do that. I may be being ignored and don't even know it! icon_lol.gif

If you're talking about your request for someone who lives in a specific area...I looked at that thread. I couldn't help you out and I saw no reason to waste space by posting that I couldn't. My guess is a lot of people felt the same way.

I don't see where it's rude to read a thread and not post.

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pidge Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:20pm
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I'm a dork!! icon_redface.gif Where in the world did I get CA from!!! icon_confused.gif(Point made -- don't answer posts unless you are sure of your answer! icon_redface.gif ) Never been to Boston either ... been to Massa ... Masse ... Masichusets ... but can't spell it! icon_lol.gif

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dezzib27 Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:20pm
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I agree, I often browse posts to see if there is anything that I might be able to answer or learn from. I read alot of posts that I simply don't have an answer for or somebody else has said the same thing already. I dont want to chime in and say hey sorry but your SOL on this one! icon_wink.gif It nothing personal, dont let it bother you.((((((HUGS)))))))

P.S.
I have gone into a post a couple of times to look something up and then comment also, so the same person may be in that particular post more than once! HTH

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AmandaPanda Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:23pm
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I don't feel the need personally to answer every post. If I ask a question and it has 15 views and no answers I asume that people just don't know the answer and when somebody does know the answer they will post it. I open posts oftenthinking I may have an answer and I don't. Posting does not take a LONG time but often I am just browsing the site looking for tips and hints and even just reading what others have to say, if I stopped and posted to every post I opened I would be on this computer all day and I just don't have that kind of time. It happens on every board in every cite on every website. It just isn't reasonable to ask that everyone post a response to every topic they open.

I do know the frusteration though sometimes I do get those feelings about why is nobody answering my post, but I just remember that I don't answer everyone's post either and the right person with the answer will respond.

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justsweet Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:27pm
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No need to have hurt feelings. As stated not everyone can answer a question being posted. I read a lot of posts sometimes I can not help every person who posts but I know someone will help them. Sometimes you need to wait a 30 minutes or even an hour but help does come to all.

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lizziegirl Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:38pm
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The hurt feelings was actually playing around. I'm not mad. I just REALLY wish I found somebody to make that cake for my baby's 18th birthday.

Thanks for taking the time to respond to my little tantrum. I love this place and all of my fellow CC friends!

I guess I have to contact a bakery in Milton.

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manders Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:41pm
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i open alot more post then i can make a comment on. Being a newbie sometimes i am just as interested as the person who wrote the post, sometimes i think i might be able to help but realy i cant, and sometimes someone else has already said what i was going to. i dont think it is rude at all not to answer and just look. i try to answer when ever i can sometimes i just cant.

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Cake_Princess Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:47pm
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Originally Posted by lizziegirl

I find it very rude and insulting that people read a post and don't bother to answer. All I'm asking is just a simple question, why can't someone answer.

We all come here to help each other, at least that's what I thought.

Don't forget that we can see how many people read our posts.

My feelings are a little hurt.





I don't think your feelings should be hurt by this. Sometimes a number of people read the thread and they don't the answer so they don't respond.

I personally try to answer if I know the answer. The only time I don't post a replay is if it's a question that's asked over and over and over and can be found if the person asking bothers to search the forum.

So having said that, "How do you make red icing red?" icon_biggrin.gif

What I find rude is people that post a question but never bother to say Thank you when they get an answer. Oh by the way, thanks in advance does not cut it either. I find that really rude. If you can take the time to come back to read the response saying thanks at that time should not be an issue.

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avenje Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 10:57pm
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You might be just kidding but considering you only have 53 posts since 10/06, you must understand that you don't have the answer to every post yourself and so you just don't post a reply and perhaps "watch it" to see what the answer is. It's what most of us do. Like a previous post said, would you rather have a bunch of "I don't know" posts? I don't think we have a right to whine about postings if we are not "forum addicts yet." icon_cool.gif Now get to caking... thumbs_up.gif

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aswartzw Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 11:00pm
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I read a lot of posts but I rarely know an answer to anything since I'm a newbie. I find it really interesting to find what answers are posted and what kind of problems others have. Sometimes I'll watch a post and just pop in multiple times a day, too, so I'm sure that ups the count on the view list too. I don't mean anything by it just like everyone else. I just don't know what to say and if I do, it's usually already been answered by all the experts out there. icon_biggrin.gif

Since I've read lots of posts since joining, I'm so sorry if I've hurt someone's feelings by not posting. I didn't mean to ignore you. icon_eek.gif

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roxxxy_luvs_duff Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 11:18pm
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Well the main reason I dont post in every forum I read is because I open the topic and its usually just someone complaining about someone copying their cake and not giving credit or someone whining because one of there cake pics didnt get enough comments or something else that isnt very important. When someone needs help and I think I have a way to help I always reply. So I dont think its RUDE to open a post and not reply.

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noley Posted 30 Aug 2007 , 11:20pm
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i wasn't going to post, but I didnt' want to seem like a mean uncaring person who read a post and didn't reply, sometimes I just haven't got anything to say I haven't the foggiest idea and why have six hundred replies from people who say sorry i just don't know... i figure when i make a post, if someone knows or has something to say they're going to reply otherwise, they read it and move on cuz they might not know either... can we all take a deep breath?
it's almost friday... does that help?
Jen

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ShortcakesSweets Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 4:18pm
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Lizziegirl,
I posted a reply to your post asking what your original question was. You DIDN'T answer MY question. Should I be pouting now? icon_cry.gif LOL

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delta95 Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 6:44pm
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I'm sorry, but I just find this childish.
There...I responded.

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ldydb Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 6:53pm
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I don't think it's rude. Personally I would rather people say nothing than say "Bump".

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Katrinagarrett1980 Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 6:53pm
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I rarely post comments....but I read tons of posts and comments. I am a beginner and am learning tons from the information I am reading. I think sometimes you just have to listen to learn more....in this case read!!!

When I do post I hope I can contribute, but if I can't then I try to find out more.

Just be patient....or repost with a question that is clearer...sometimes people just aren't sure what to answer.

Katrina

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strawberry0121 Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 6:58pm
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By the way, you should check the post count on THIS thread. It's over 900 views now.

This is a free site that is FULL of people who want to come together to make a great cake community. People who cause ripples get their accounts cancelled or eventually the site becomes a not fun place to be.
I say be grateful for what you do get and try to have some patience to get your questions answered. All is costs is a little time. Hit Craigslist if you are trying to hire someone or better yet, phone a bakery.

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tiptop57 Posted 31 Aug 2007 , 6:58pm
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Maybe the actual topic doesn't match the title.....believe me that happens a ton!

Then I think I might be able to help with an answer and find out the thread wasn't going in the direction where I could be of use so I close out of it.......that happens a ton also!

Sorry can't help you on this thread either.

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