I have HAD IT! I had stopped dec-ing cakes for a couple of years before, and just got back into it recently. I swear I will quit again!
I spent 5 days planning and making 3 bday cakes for a family party. The party was yesterday, or at least it was supposed to be. We get a call that the party had been postponed - two hours before the planned time! These are my first fondant covered cakes, so I let Mother Dearest know they may not freeze well (her solution for this.) She wanted to know if they would keep if she rescheduled the party for 10 days later!!!!
The cakes were delivered, so she could deal with them. Then we get a call at 11pm asking why we never showed up for the party. We had not been told that it was back on!
Today we stopped over since we were going through town. I get a ten minute tale that everyone thought it was so funny that the two-year-old totally DESTROYED ALL THREE CAKES before the party even started!
I am about thisclose to bawling my eyes out. I mean, this is my fiance's family, and, besides my daughter's bday, the only cakes of mine they had ever seen. They weren't great, but I had worked really hard and put a lot of thought into them.
To top it all off, they straight out said that the mmf (which dh tried and loved, that's why I made it) tasted like *@#$. The boys (teenagers) then proceded to take the chocolate cake and make a visual of the explitive that they had used.
I am furious! The cakes were ruined, and I feel totally disrespected. Besides our family of four, there is no one I know here to make cakes for. 
That is just about the rudest response I have ever heard of! I don't even care if your cakes tasted like crap, which I am sure they did not, the actions here were totally uncalled for and just plain rude!
I am so sorry that you are marriying into this family! Keep making cakes and don't give any to them anymore! Take them to work, to church, to friends. If you don't have anywhere else to take them donate them to shelters or next time you go into the bank ask if they would like a free cake. Keep your head held high, and definitely don't offer your cakes to that family again!!!
That is just awful!!! I'm sorry you had to go through that....but I wouldn't stop baking cakes if you enjoy it!! Just stop making cakes for them!!! 
The cakes in your gallery are really great! I love the coffee cup!
Posted by Melissa, Genna's sister:
Run...FAR AWAY!!! Just kidding! The answer to your question: Some people get it. Other inconsiderate people will never get it. Since this is not your immediate family I would tread lightly. Maybe they will benefit from you saying something, maybe they won't.
When I married my husband my in-laws thought it was "cute" that his 2 yr. old neice did everything from squeeze between us during our bride/groom dance to stealing/wearing my veil while I was distracted to poking/licking her fingers into my wedding cake before it was served...they even took pictures! I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but the truth is that if they didn't already see how disrespectful they were being then who knows if saying something will do any good?
Please don't stop decorating! Inconsiderate future family members should not be a reason to quit something you love!
I am so sorry to hear about what happened. That is incredibly rude on so many levels! I know that we put alot of ourselves into making and decorating a cake that has really got to hurt.
Is this typical behavior for his family? I agree that you should just not make cakes for them anymore. Find friends, coworkers or a church to take your cakes to. They will truly be appreciated.
Cindy
What is wrong with people??? ARGH! 
I posted a similar situation last week after making a "thank you" cake for a friend...her husband stuck his finger waaay down into one of the 18 freakin' roses I had put on the stinkin' cake right after they got it home and then let their daughter mess with it, too. To top it off, he took it into his office the very next day and gave it to them. Whatever. No cakes for them anymore and I wouldn't make any for your family, either, if I were you. Why bother if they're not going to appreciate it? So sorry this happened. People can be such jerks. 
Yikes! I sure hope they don't treat you and yours like this all the time! Good grief 
Simple manners, folks!
I completely agree with Euphoria, under no circumstances offer cake to these people again. And guard your heart against whatever they may say to or about you, EVER!
Happy baking! How about sending cake to school with your daughter for special holidays/events (if she's school age - don't know)
All the best,
Bekah
What kind of people do something so rude!? I won't even get into the fact if my son cursed or used cake to demonstrate an expletive I would probably either knock him out or die of embarrassment! Definately don not bake them any more cakes. I know how it feels when you put everything you've got into a cake & people think that "oh, it's just a cake". Wrong. I usually get emotionally attached to my cakes & very dissapointed if the person's not excited as I am.
sorry you had to go thru that, I will go with euphoriabakey said, but once in a great while do make a small cake and let you future familly taste it so they can see what they are going to be missing.... and make sure that you charge then if they whant to order any cake, time is money 
... take care and good luck
Everyone's right. You really should not make cakes for them anymore. Resist the urge b/c something this horrible will probably happen every time. Instead, donate cakes like euphoria said. Donating a cake to a local elementary school worked wonders for my biz!
Oops, just accidently posted my last post again. But while I am here I will add just in general that you should be aware that these people will probably not change. So not just with cake but everything you need to be prepared to deal with them one way or another.
Cindy
Zmama,
My heart goes out to you!!!!! I wish I had some magical way of making this all better but I just don't =o( I do know how you must be feeling if that helps at all.
I can tell you my first thought when I read this though.......
THEY ALL NEED TO READ EVERY WORD THAT YOU JUST WROTE HERE!!!!! They should be TOTALLY ashamed of themselves for the lack of respect for their future in-law!!! And I see a lack of parenting and supervision of that 2 yr old who got a hold of the cake's....all 3 of them!!!!
I wouldn't blame you if you never do another cake for them and if they ask you to do one, I would simply repeat what happened to the last ones you made and that you are not willing to take the chance of that happening to your cakes & feelings again.
As far as "they" being the only other people for you to make cake's for, it doesn't have to be!! I'm sure there are many many people who would appreciate cake's made for them like....the local fire station, Sr. Citizen homes, local hospitals for patients and Dr's/nurses...even the local vet!! People that need to be shown they are appreciated who work so hard at what they do....LIKE YOU!!! Who knows, it might even spawn some business for you! Word of mouth is the best advertisement!!!
When you put your heart into something like you did, just to be smashed down along with your cakes, hurts more than those people could ever realize or understand. When you put your heart into something like you did, and offer it to someone you don't know, just out of pure thanks, the appreciation you would get from them would put you on cloud nine!! And, you would be making someone else feel sooooooo good!!!!
Sharing your cakes with people who deserve the thanks would eventually get around to your family and because of your example, they would soon start to feel the guilt rise about how they treated you and your cakes! I think they would learn a valuable lesson from it!!!
Just an idea I wanted to give you to turn everything around. I hope you don't feel that my suggestions are out of line or anything. I just feel that why should you give up on something you love to do that you're passionate about just because these people don't have a heart or respect for it when you could be using your gift to bring some joy to someone who would get soooo much out of it!!
Ok, I went on too long. Know that I sincerely feel your pain and will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
blessings,
elly =o)
Thanks, everyone. I talked to df about it, and he agrees - no more cakes for them! He has volunteered to eat all the cake and frosting and fondant I can make. 
As for the rudeness, his mom has 7 kids by 3 fathers, plus raises one of her grandbabies. There is absolutely no discipline in that house! Luckily, df left home asap and is NOTHING like his family. I still just don't get their behavior. I know there won't be an apology, as they think they did (and do) nothing wrong. How can people be like that?
O. M. G.
My jaw is on the floor.
This rudeness takes the cake, so to speak. No more cakes for them!
WELLLL...some years ago I did a wedding cake for a family member.I worked for about 2 weeks making over 250 Royal Icing Roses..Blue of all things..any way it was a huge cake several tiers..had to be delivered to a church way out in the country over rail-road tracks..down a hill ..then down a long twisting stairs in the basement .After all that we set it up and I ask the girl serving the cake if she knew how to cut it.She says "oh yes I have cut many"..OK..I sneak up the stairs to watch the wedding ..just had a feeling that I should make a check on everything before the guests start down to the reception..and WHAT do you think I see?This girl is taking HANDFULLS of the roses off the cake and placing them on a plate.Then she starts cutting the cake in Birthday Cake size pieces.I COULD not believe what was happening...and THIS WAS BEFORE ANYONE EVEN HAD A CHANCE TO LOOK AT THE CAKE !Not even the BRIDE & GROOM.I had worked well over 2 weeks on that cake.This was my gift to the couple and they did not even get to see it.The only thing anyone saw was the top.She had sense enough to remove it.But when everyone came down to be served all they saw was this big pile of bule frosting pilled high on a plate.I had taken pictures or they would not have had one to put into their wedding book.What a mess.So.all I can say is chances are something like this has happened to all of us one time or another.
How Heartless! Your future family in laws are so rude (well some of them). I know how in laws are and from 14 years of experience, it's best to just stay away and to only visit if you have to. Believe me, I tried with my husbands family (it's the sister in laws and 1 brother in law). I tried and tried with them (my heart is big and i'm too too kind) and at 32 years old, I give up! I am tired of trying and If I could take back those 14 years and start over with his family, knowing how they are, I would. I would be a real you know what to them, and just stay away as much as I can and not try.
I wish I knew then, what I know now!
Oh, when I lived in Texas, I would take cakes and candy to this home that housed about 6 elderly (it was kinda an old folks home (sorry I can't think of the right words right now) and anyway, they love sweets. I also took my small daughter with me and boy did that bring them back to smiling, they say it makes them feel young. ~Josie
Hey, what a civic minded bunch you all are! Think I'm going to start a post in the Lounge, to see what great ideas people have had for donating cakes! Would love to hear how that's affected other people and get some ideas myself. There's a fire station right down the street from us and it took you all to make me think they might like a cake. (I know a neighbor who will make them a great meal as well)
Happy baking!
Bekah
Wow, my kids aren't even allowed to get near my cakes, let alone touch them, let alone DESTROY them! Beware of family gatherings I guess!
I am appalled at the lack of basic manners in today's society. But hey, next time they want you to make a cake...say "Sure! That's be $100 please. Prepayment."
Bet they won't let the kids destroy something they paid $100 for!
Wow, my kids aren't even allowed to get near my cakes, let alone touch them, let alone DESTROY them! Beware of family gatherings I guess!
I am appalled at the lack of basic manners in today's society. But hey, next time they want you to make a cake...say "Sure! That's be $100 please. Prepayment."
Bet they won't let the kids destroy something they paid $100 for!
I wish that were the case! These were the gifts from us to the birthday celebrants. The Christmas gifts we gave (mostly games) ended up all over the house in pieces within a week! I figured with cake, at least the gift would be appreciated before it got destroyed. How wrong I was!
I dont want to become the Grinch, but will soon avoid gift-giving opportunities with them like the plague!
That's awful. I also agree with everybody....I wouldn't bake them a cake even if they did pay me. Too bad so sad for them.
Loveme, I would have shot her. What person in their right mind would cut the cake during the wedding ceremony. Evidently, she has never cut a wedding cake.
Oh, loveme, what a heartache!
Z, go ahead and get them presents. But make sure you only buy the best the Dollar Store has to offer. 
I mean, it sounds like that's the way they treat everything, anyway. And it's pretty hard to completely avoid gift giving occasions with your fiance's family.
If they're that careless with nice quality things, don't bother. And if they complain about where their gifts came from, too bad! Can anyone think of a good polite way to put this; I don't cast pearls before swine... ?
don't ever doubt your skills, though, Z! They clearly haven't got a clue what a good thing they have in you!
Ok so maybe I am mean but I would say next time there is a party volunteer to bring the cake...then 'forget'. 
hee hee hee Ok I am evil but I got it out of my system for the day. Seriously these people suck. Hopefully you don't have to deal with them TOO much.
My husbands family is the same way. Up until 6 months ago, which is when we stopped speaking to them. No matter what we did it was never good enough. We never spent enough on Christmas (I think $100 per kid is enough) especially when they all have 5 and we had one. When we came to visit - we were imposing if we stayed with them and snobby if we stayed at a hotel. We just couldn't win. When they started talking behind our backs with lies and got caught by many family members, we cut ties. It saddens me to have to do this, but when it becomes a choice of my marriage or them - I'll pick my husband every time. Now they like to plot my MIL to have to pick sides. She agrees with us, but wants to see her other grandkids.
My brother in law was a chef (went to school but never worked) and thought he was the only one in the family allowed to cook or who could cook. Hello - Jealousy!!!!!
Good luck with his family! Hope it gets better - I agree to confront them when the problems begins - I wish I had!
Wow! How rude! At least I don't feel like i'm the only one of us out there with a mis-fit family! Just make sure the next time they ask for a cake - and i'm sure they will - just tell them "I'm sorry, I thought my cake tasted like $#@!. Why would you want another one?" and send them to the local grocery store!
Chin up! It isn't worth giving up something you love for them!
Debbie
Wow! How rude! At least I don't feel like i'm the only one of us out there with a mis-fit family! Just make sure the next time they ask for a cake - and i'm sure they will - just tell them "I'm sorry, I thought my cake tasted like $#@!. Why would you want another one?" and send them to the local grocery store!
Chin up! It isn't worth giving up something you love for them!
Debbie
I can honestly say that I am not above telling them that! Today, I am still seething at the thought of it. His mother called today, and didn't even mention it, like it never happened! If my kids did this, well, there would be some slave labor for a couple of weeks!
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