Big Baby Here? ( Kinda Long Rant... Sorry)

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andiesweet Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 5:30pm
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Ok... so i spent a week after work and late nights working on the display cake (Mardi Gras cake in pics), and 3 sheet cakes for my daughters 5th grade school social. IT was all a gift for the school and I really enjoyed making the dummy and they way that it turned out.

Well, on the way to deliver all this stuff to the school, I was at a red light when a man on his cell phone hit me from behind.My daughter was holding the dummy in her lap, because she was so proud of it. Well a lot of the sugar work was destroyed, the big mask on top was a total loss. And the sheet cakes which i had already cut up and put inside the domes for transport, ended up on the floor. My daughter is fine, a few minor scratches, but fine.

So after the police came and handed him a ticket, I had to quick get back to my house to try to salvage what i could of this mess. i was alble to save 3/4 of the cake pieces (thank goodness I made more than I needed) and made the dummy look presentable.

I made it there before the party started and was greeted with ooohs and ahhhs and thanks so much for the cake. etc... Skip to yesterday when they had the graduation. They had all the moms who helped with the social stand and get special recognition and they totally left me out! They thanked all of the businesses who supplied food, and skipped me again! I was floored... after all I had been through witht he cake. i felt like I was punched in the gut.

I didn't do the cake for the glory, but dang... it still hurts. icon_cry.gif

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Kimmers971 Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 5:40pm
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So sorry they treated you that way icon_eek.gif Even though you aren't looking for the glory, it would still irk me too and I'd probably say something to one of the teachers.

You and your daughter know what you did and I'm sure she is super proud of you. That's all the recognition you really need (right) thumbs_up.gif

Glad to hear you are both okay icon_smile.gif

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CakesByJen2 Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 5:43pm
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I don't blame you for feeling that way, and no, you're NOT being a big baby! While we don't necessarily do things for the purpose of getting recognition, we still want to feel our efforts are appreciated.

If they hadn't singled out anyone, that'd be fine, but if they thanked everyone else but me, after all that work, I'd be hurt and pissed off, too. Most people have no clue how much work and expense goes into a cake like that, and they rarely appreciate it icon_sad.gif .

I quit doing freebies like that along time ago, primarily for that reason (and lack of time).

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finnsimm Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 5:48pm
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Well, I guess that is the last time you put in that much effort for the school. By all means, keep supporting your daughter and her class, but screw the school (and I'm a teacher!)

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mackeymom Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 5:58pm
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Is it just me or is there alot of theses kinds of posts? Ones with schools ordering cakes then backing out becuase the cake is out of their budget, or wanting freebies, or complaining about the freebies?! I know its graduation season, but I thought If anyone would be happy to have that kind of donation, it would be school!

I'm sorry about how they treated you. And the wreck! I'm glad everyone is ok and I hope that guy had insurance!

Hope things go better for you!

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loriana Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 6:23pm
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Im so sorry too!!! I hate it when special recognition is passed over when you worked *so hard* on these cakes and even worked through this accident. Keep your chin up!

The good thing is you are a wonderful role model for your daughter who learned perservation, control and charity. Also she knows how much you did and is likely never to forget it. You probably could say you got paid in character (for her sake)

Kudos to you and foo-foo on the lousy school social committee!!!!!! icon_mad.gif

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CoutureCake Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 6:36pm
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This is why if you ever go to the business boards the mass conclusion is NEVER donate a cake EVER again!!! Substantial discounts not withstanding, no one EVER recognizes you or gives you the credit that they told you that you WERE going to get for doing it.

For the future, support her class, bake her a cake for her birthday, but never ever donate cakes again to larger school functions, because it's just a recipe for disaster...

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kakeladi Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 7:58pm
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Ooohhhh I hope both you and your DD are o.k.! A read-ender accident can cause problems that don't show up for a couple of days icon_sad.gif
What a great design well carried out that cake was! No wonder DD was so proud of it. It is really bad that you were passed up on the special recognition. We all would feel hurt (I'm sure as I know I would have been). Now you are just going to have to let go of that hurt/anger and know you did your very best and your DD is proud of you icon_smile.gif

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cylstrial Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 8:44pm
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I'm glad that you are both ok. And I think it's natural to be upset when you were so hard on something and then don't get any recognition. Especially, when they recognize other people. I'm sorry that they left you out. That wasn't right!

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CristyInMiami Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 9:16pm
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I would have been hurt and upset too. I am glad you and your dauhter are fine.

Not that I am sticking up for them, but maybe it slipped their mind? If this is true I would hope they would send you some kind of thank you note or something apologizing for their mistake. Thats what I would have done in my class.

The most important person knows how hard you worked and all the love you put into it. I'm sure your daughter will never forget the cake and probably felt awesome bringing in such a cool cake the whole night! thumbs_up.gif

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adven68 Posted 4 Jun 2009 , 11:31pm
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Aww...that really stinks. That's sometimes the only thanks any school volunteer ever gets. Everyone wants to be recognized for their hard work, so, no, you are not a big baby.

You know what, just remember all the ooohs and aaahs....people loved it and that;s what matters. BUT...the most important thing is that you were not injured by the rear-ender!!

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mcaulir Posted 5 Jun 2009 , 1:15am
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I'm a teacher, and have learned never to start thanking people by name at these things because you'll always forget someone. People just get a general 'thank-you everyone who helped' from me now.

Glad the accident wasn't more serious!

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mombabytiger Posted 5 Jun 2009 , 11:27pm
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I have older kids who remember incidents like this more significantly than the warm, fuzzy times when everything goes perfectly!

Look at it this way: you've provided fodder for every Thanksgiving dinner hereafter! ("Remember the time mom and I were taking all those cakes to school and we got in this HUGE accident and cake went flying everywhere but mom fixed it? That was so COOL!")

There's your thanks!

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Deb_ Posted 6 Jun 2009 , 1:26am
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Isn't it funny how people always seem to remember your name when they need to ask you for a donation but then those same people will forget your name when it comes time to publicly thank you.

There is no excuse for ignorance like they displayed. The speaker should be prepared enough to have a list of names in front of him/her so that nobody is left out. (aren't teachers always preaching to their students to be prepared and organized?)

I'm sure you weren't the only one overlooked.

Shame on them thumbsdown.gif

I'm glad you and your daughter were not injured in the accident.

Beautiful cake by the way!

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OfficerMorgan Posted 6 Jun 2009 , 3:43am
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No, you weren't a big baby at all! That is terrible, and my feelings would have been very hurt as well. icon_sad.gif Sorry this happened.

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