Hmmm, why do I picture your sister holding a glass of liquor in her hand qhile spouting all those hateful words?? And then she says "TRUST HER"??? Why would you put your trust in someone who would glady knock your self-esteem down like that? I mention the liqour because I have a relative who always makes stupid comments like that when he's drunk. I don't know if your sister drinks, but it brought that image to mind--no offense meant.
Seriously, though, your problem is seriously low self-esteem, and you have to learn to block out noise like that. Like someone else commented, if this is what makes you happy then keep on doing it. When your CUSTOMERS start complaining THAT'S when you start worrying. If your work is this good after only a few months then you'll be a Collette Peters in no time. Put some distance between you and your sister. Don't set yourself up for insults. If it were me, I wouldn't make her cake. That will keep her from being able to knock you down some more, which she seems to enjoy doing.
Believe in yourself and your work, and the ten pages worth of compliments that you got from this one topic. Better yet, print them out and show them to her. We can't ALL being lying to you.
Mickig 
If one of my 3 daughters said something so hateful to either sister I would reach for the soap, and they are all married adults.
I loved this! 
I don't know why but this kind of fierce family loyalty made me cry....
I am sorry your sister is so painfully jealous of you to be so cruel.... and I can completely understand how you must have felt with one telling you how bad you are and the other saying "I'm not going to get involved", like that is somehow taking the high road.
Believe it or not, my Mom is my biggest critic and can often make me doubt myself.... I have finally learned to not ask her opinion nor do I allow her negativity get to me. It is odd but she will often act like I can't do things well, but it is always "creative/artsy" things that get 'bashed"....If it was an academic thing, she would sing my praises from the rooftops but cake decorating, singing, drawing... these are all things that I enjoy doing and are actually o.k. at but she always snubs it...very strange. 
BlakesCakes hit the nail on the head - don't ever, ever, ever express anything but happiness and pride in front of your sister!
I have 4 kids and called them in to read the main points of this thread to them as an example of how destructive words can be and how family should stick together - yada, yada, yada. I like to teach them however I can 
They were all completely baffled when I showed them pics of your cakes.... even the girly-girl 9 year old said how cool the airplane cake was!
I agree with everyone, you sister was just being mean. I just looked at all of your cake and you are AWESOME. As everyone is saying, your
sister is VERY jealous of you. I did not read everything posted by everyone but I don't know why she would try to hurt you so much. That is so sad and I am so sorry to hear that.
Don't let anyone (even your sister) stop you from doing something you love.
Okay, I'm really trying to read all the posts before I reply but I'm just boiling myself.
First off - there will always be someone better than you and you will always be better than someone else. That's life.
Don't let that discourage you from quitting what you enjoy so much. You are great and just imagine with practice you will become what you want to be. When you get to that point you will even have higher expectations for yourself.
I'm really curious.....Is your sister this negative about everything? Your new hairstyle, new furniture, new car, etc.?? I have a sister JUST like her. She will never have a positive thing to say about anything. She will look for the negative in everything. She has been like that since we were little and she will never change. I really don't put much into what my sister says to me because I do realize that she is jealous of me (I have no clue why, she is 9 years older than me!). My sister took a cake class 10 years ago and never did anything with it. Last year when I took my first class and everyone commented on how cool my cakes looked, she was EXTREMELY jealous and told everyone that my cakes were horrible. She eventually has been a bit better lately and even admitted that my cakes are starting to taste better now - I haven't changed a thing though! That's just her way of letting me know she kind of likes what I do.
With how she treats you - I wouldn't even buy her a cake for her birthday!!! Why is it up to you to buy it?? Does she have a spouse or something??? Don't do a single thing. Why put any effort into her!!!!!
Big hugs,
Sheila
I would, just out of spite-buy her a cake mix and provide the ingredients, including a CANNED icing-let her know if she wants a cake from you that is what she is getting-since she does not like what you produce-she can produce it herself and know it is perfect-but that's the mean in me-that and only that would be her gift. Hugs from all of us honey-you keep doing what you do best-that is making yourself happy with what you do so wonderfully!! CAKES!
Oh, don't even get me started on that 'Oh, you can make me a carrot cake.... don't even try to decorate it 
'....... I swear, I am about to throw something across the room! 
Ok, I'm goint to be a bit harsh but please, please, please do not continue to be her whipping boy by providing her with a cake. She has insulted you and your work and at this point, is being so truly mean and patronizing that to provide her with anything other than the phone # of a local bakery would be a travesty!
I just needed to add one thing.
I fully looked at all your pictures and I do have to say one thing...you have to stop being so negative about your own talent! Every picture I looked at you always say how bad it is. You have to get some self esteem and realize that you are very talented at what you enjoy doing!! I really don't want this to sound harsh but I think it needs to be said.
Once you start realizing you are good and NOT comment on how bad you are, maybe your sister can shut up because she won't have YOU giving her all this ammunition.
You're great and keeping on decorating!
If you do make the carrot cake for your sister, you should definitely decorate it. Show her she can't stop you. Don't give up!
And by the way, I think she's jealous that you have talent.
Oh, yes - decorate it with one giant green eyed monster!!
Okay, I think you have the same sister as me 
After years of verbal abuse, I came to the conclusion that my sister is just a very bitter person & loves to bring me down. I think the kids now days call them "haters". I finally just stopped speaking to her. The lesson here is that there are a lot of people who are so bitter about life in general that they love to say mean things to others & make you as miserable as they are. Just ignore her (them) and keep doing what you love. You sound like you love to decorate for the same reason we all do, for the LOVE of it so you keep on baking & let those mean remarks just slide right off your back. Your cakes are great! And on the evil side, make her that carrot cake and put some garlic powder in it and if she say's anything, say you heard it repelled evil spirts 
Some people don't like to see other people succeed. Your sister may not even realise why she is doing this. Your cakes are great. There is no reason why you could not do this. The best thing you could do is prove her wrong. Don't have doubts, get better, don't be sad, prove her wrong. Go out there and do it and tell your sister you are doing it because you enjoy it- end of story. It is mean to take someone down like this. You can see that so many people feel that you have been wronged by what she said. Listen to us!!! Maybe you should sit her down and show her some of what people have said here. We are not being nice. Your cakes are good. And well done for doing it with a sore neck and shaking hands. Don't give up. Live is here to be enjoyed!!!!
Joanne -
Your sister must really be good at cake decorating to put your work down like that. My heart goes out to ya girl, cause I've been there. I started cake decorating a year ago and in my first Wilton class, I was the "special kid". For the life of me I could NOT get the buttercream rose down. I was humiliated, everyone else was just piping them out with no problem, and my instructor had to sit beside me and guide my hands just so I could have one on my final cake, while everyone else had 5! Anyway, a girl in my class made the comment that I may want to consider taking course 1 over again before I made any cakes for friends. What a bis-nitch....
Well that did it for me. I came home, threw away my cake and cried. I enjoyed cake decorating, but felt like a fool after what that girl said. Who was a I kidding?? There are professionals out there to do this job and I will clearly never be one of them.
I also have carpal tunnel....so my hands shake too. My husband went out and bought me cake decorator gloves for carpal tunnel, and said "get back to it!" So I practiced, and practiced some more, and finally took course 2. In that class, I was the ONLY one who could actually pipe roses! So keep up the good work, and next cake your sister puts down, tell her she needs to taste it and smash it in her face! 
I didn't read all the posts, just the first and last page, but I agree with everyone....your cakes are BEAUTIFUL!!!! I'm a newbie, in fact, this is my first post, so your story really affected me. I think it all comes down to self-esteem. I'm the same way. I bake a cake, decorate it, and I'm very proud (photos to come soon). But once I take the take to my customer, I start getting worried that they won't like the way the cake tastes or how it's decorated. They tell me they like it, but I know it's not perfect. I only hope I could get as good as you! My best friend loves Sylvester the Cat and I wish I could make a cake like yours.
Keep going!!!!! Family members either support you all the way, or put you down because of jealousy. I don't have any sisters, but one of my brothers puts down my "hobby" because I'm making extra money aside from my FT job, and he's not and needs extra income. So there's one in every family.
Again, your cakes are wonderful and DO NOT SELL YOUR SUPPLIES ON E-BAY! I want to see more photos!
Obviously she is an evil sister . If she was not evil, then she would be very supportive of your passion..If I were you, the more I would make cakes and make her so jealous that probably she'll go crazy, literally.
Don't let her put you down like that.. did you at least fight back ?
YOu were not being a door mat to her were you ?
There was no excuse why she would be that mean to you, unless she's adopted and has a much smaller brain than you. Don't be a timid puppy, put your head up and consider this a throw down between you and her.
can she make a cake as good as you ? I saw your photos and your cakes look very professional... I hate to say this, but tell her she can GTH !!
If you stop making cakes, then that means she was right and she's got you where she wants you.!
To us your are very good and talented. And we encourage you to keep making cakes. Ignore her like she never said anything bad. Don't show her that you're hurt. She'll keep doing it. And her horns will grow longer ! Keep making cakes.!! 
We can always find fault with our own work and of course we can see the mistakes, but other people really don't see them. Don't listen to your sister. She must feel really bad about herself to have to put you down like that. You do great work and as long as you keep enjoying it, continue on. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Look at your cakes with confidence and instead of seeing the mistakes, notice the hard work and love that you put into it. Turn a deaf ear to your sister and maybe even pity her for being such a hateful person.
Just know that all of your friends here think you are just great. Tell your sister you have people all over the world that disagree with her!
Your cakes are awesome!! Don't quit.
What a %#$@&!! (sorry )
I also have a sister like that. It seems like everything I do, it's wrong, & I always feel like I have to justify my choices.
Everybody tells me she does this because she's jealous of what I have. And she is. In one ear, out the other, with what she says to me.
I made my first cake for her the other day. She complimented me and said, "You really aren't a bad baker!"
I love making cakes, whether or not she likes them, I don't care. I DON'T DO THIS FOR HER, I DO THIS FOR ME.
If I quit doing what I love, it gives her the impression that she controls me. She doesn't, and I don't want to make her think that.
Keep up the awesome work, we all love what you do!!!
There is no doubt in my mind that you do quality work and should continue with your cake decorating!
JoAnn,
I just looked at your cakes and I think that they are all beautiful. You can't give up on something that you love so dearly. I was in a car accident a little over a year ago. I fractured my arm so badly that it was in a cast for 6 months. Then I had to have a plate put in my arm so there was another 3 months in a cast ( I am a very slow healer). So like you I shake when I do my cakes. And I have had to retrain myself on how to work on the cakes. Part of the plate goes into my wrist, so I don't have full movement of it. I believe that you are truly blessed with your gift. And it is hard to believe that you don't do well with art. From Looking at your cakes, I think you do extremely well with art. Keep on doing this. And don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't. I don't know if you have noticed but there are imperfections in store bought cakes as well.
Lil
What in the world is your sister talking about. I just looked at your cakes and they are WONDERFUL. The tweety bird and sylvester the cat cake is outstanding. I can't even do that. I think you should definitely continue on with cake decorating. Even though she is your sister, she cannot help you decide what your dreams are. You must make that decision. Sure its good to get advice but never let anyone tell you that you cannot do anything.
I mainly lurk here but just could not stop myself from posting my first post here. Your cakes are great and you do not even want to know what I'm thinking of your sister right now!
I am with everybody else in that she is jealous. Pure and simple.
But yeah, I just had to say it. Please, keep up the great work!! Your cakes are very beautiful. You couldn't get a plane cake that looks as good as yours from a bakery.
I think this is my second time actually posting any response but I couldn't help myself after reading what you wrote. I almost couldn't believe that someone, especially a sister, could say something so mean. I honestly think your cakes are beautiful! I only wish I could make cakes as creative and lovely as yours. You should have your sister log on and see how supportive strangers are of your work and maybe she could take some lessons in encouraging someone to continue doing something they love and enjoy! I think your cakes are amazing and if you stopped decorating, you would only be making her satisfied. Keep decorating if it is something that makes you happy. You are truly talented
After you show your sister the beautiful cake you made for her, give her her present - a beautifully wrapped box containing all 12 (so far) pages of this thread telling you how nice your cakes are, how you should not quit decorating and how jealous she is, from your friends at CC.
First, let me say that I do not tell people their cakes are nice unless I really think they are nice. Your cakes are really, really nice. When I clicked on "reply", 171 replies had already been posted. I read every single one of those replies, and every single one was supportive. Yep, that's total strangers who have nothing to lose by being completely honest with you. You have more talent in the few months that you've been decorating than some people who have been decorating for years (I'm not referring to anyone in particular ... I'm just trying to make a point). Even more important than your talent ... you have the passion and the desire to do it and to keep getting better. Like some others have said, you absolutely must not ever breathe a word of self-doubt to your mean sister again. She just feeds off of that, and then adds her own two cents. She is extremely jealous and obviously has a lot of issues that she does not know how to deal with. So, she deals with her own lack of self-worth and confidence by making others feel horrible. I have to believe that she does this to everyone, not just you. And I also believe that she must do this to you in all aspects of your life, not just pertaining to your cake decorating skills. My heart breaks for you because I can only imagine how sad and hurt I'd be if ANYONE said those things to me, let alone someone in my family. I'm so happy to hear that you have decided to keep on going with your new hobby, despite what your sister has done to try and stop you. She hates that you have found something that makes you truly happy, when she obviously doesn't have much happiness in her life. I don't mean to offend you at all by saying these things, but reading what your sister said to you just makes my blood boil!!!!!
So, keep your chin up and keep making those beautiful, creative cakes!!! You have such a talent, and it would be such a shame to give up on that talent just because one unhappy person tried to stop you. If you stopped making cakes, your sister would win. Oh, and regarding that undecorated birthday cake that she requested from you? I agree with what others have suggested ... buy her a box of carrot cake mix and a can of cream cheese icing. Wrap it up and give it to her the day before her birthday as an early birthday gift (and in my opinion, that should be her ONLY birthday gift from you). Tell her that she can make her own cake because you only make cakes for people who appreciate them. Big hugs to you!!!!!
I liked your decorating too Joanne...in fact.... I have saved a couple of them for my favorites album. Actually, I counted that, and your photos have been saved 88 times....that is because they are inspiring to others for one reason or another... I liked how you nestled the football in the grass... that you can inspire others says something...I was rose challenged and thanks to your comment of adding cornstarch, I'm getting the hang of it. So I'd say override any idea that you are not good enough, for you certainly are. Don't let your sister define you for you...decorate her the best carrot cake you can, wish her a happy birthday and move on...and whatever she wants to say about it... is all her. That shows out loud. Keep baking, and have a great time doing it!
i have only read two pages of replies. i agree with all of the two pages. your cakes are fine. sure we all seed the "flaws" in our own cakes that no one else sees. thats because we are our own worst critic. no offence to your sister BUT she is a bully. she feels good when she makes you feel bad. do NOT let her make you stop what you love. you keep baking and decorating. dont let her get to you. please dont quit. your work is fine.
I just looked at your pictures and your cakes are awesome! I'm not just saying that to be nice because it is clear that you are looking for honest opinions here. It sounds to me like your sister may just be jealous of your talent. Try not to be so hard on yourself - we are all our worst critics (unless we have a sister like you lol). Don't take your sister's criticism to heart. Please please please keep doing cakes!!!
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