1. Your sister sounds like a very cruel and jealous person. (Is she mentally ill?)
2. Print all these responses from this thread and give them to her.
3. Blow her off re her cake comments. Tell her that her "green" is showing.
Your cakes are awesome! She is totally out of line--and needs to be told so.
OK, I usually try to stick to cake stuff on here, but I really have to respond to this.
I'll put on my other hat for a moment--social worker--and tell you without a doubt, your sister feels that she has your permission to degrade your work and therefore, degrade you in the process. She got that permission when she got wind of your own doubts about your abilities. You can take that permission back from her by NEVER AGAIN picking apart your own work in front of her--or even to others who might tell her about your feelings! Only tell her good things about what your doing--"I love it! It relieves stress AND it tastes good! I enjoy doing it so much that I'm looking for more classes to take so that I can develop even more skills--do you know how few people can actually make their own gum paste flowers???." Repeat after me--"I'll only tell my sister (s) GOOD things about me and my cake decorating so that she'll have no ammunition to fire back bad vibes at me!"
She sees all of the attention you and your cakes get, doesn't like the brightness it causes in your eyes, and promptly decides to throw water on the fire.
The world is full of those who simply cannot stand to see others (who they consider their peers) happier than they are. It makes them so uncomfortable that in order to feel back in control of their own lives, they attempt to take control of other's lives by grinding away at other's self esteem.
She doesn't care if she's right about your talent--she just cares that she can control your choice to explore and expand on that talent. Given the chance, she'd be scared to death to go out on a limb and decorate a cake--and maybe even offer one for sale. She's licking her own wounds because she feels that you're showing her up and outstripping her abilities!
I raised my two boys with a saying about this: "Misery loves miserable company!" When my kids were 3 they knew that meant that unhappy people will do anything to make others unhappy--so that their own unhappiness doesn't stand out so much.
Your cakes are great and if you keep at it, you'll just get happier and happier with the results. Be ready for your sister to get nastier and nastier about this--and don't ever expect her to give you a compliment about your work. It would choke her to say the words.
As to making her a cake--NO WAY--you can't win with her. If you take a nicely decorated homemade cake, she'll shake her head telling you that she told you not to (and then cut it down to your face, behind your back, or both). If you take an undecorated cake, she'll revel in the fact that SHE WON! Tell her that you just don't have the time or desire to fool around with an undecorated cake--it's no fun--so you decided that it would be best for you both for her to get her cake elsewhere!
Sorry for the long reply, but I had a mother who was just like your sister. When I figured her out, she didn't like it very much because it finally put us on even footing--but it sure made me feel GREAT!
Happy, happy decorating!
Rae
I didn't read all the responses....however, I did look at your cake photos. You do great work!
Your sister wasn't being honest, she was being cruel. I hate to say such mean things about your sister - but I think she has control issues and a superiority complex. I believe she is a pessimist when it comes to EVERYTHING and will stop at nothing to make you miserable. She delights in your misery.
The airplane cake rocked! (BTW, DH LOVED the Superman cupcakes!)
I'm sure there's a tinge of jealousy there, but I may be wrong. It may just be her personality.
As for your younger sister, she probably just didn't want to take sides, not to mention draw the argument out even longer. I've used that line whenever I really don't wanna hear the bickering go on any longer! 
I'm glad you decided against quitting. It takes a lot for me to really love my cakes. We are our own worst critics - what we see as major flaws, most people don't even see! I think you have NOTHING to be ashamed of!
I would either completely ignore your sis on her birthday, but if you must, go to the grocery store and buy a PLAIN carrot cake. 1 layer. No frosting. After all, she wanted it without decoration! Icing COULD fall slightly under decoration. Besides, someone else said it best - why put in the effort if she's gonna hate it anyway? LOL
I'm sorry your sister is such a witch. We can't pick our family. We can ignore them though! 
Joanne
Please stop being so down on yourself, you need to understand that we all have different abilities and this craft takes practice. Im sure that not one of the people on this website that you'd think as being fantastic could pull out cakes like they are now when they first started out.
Another thing, you may think there are problems with your cakes, and you can see things wrong with it, but that is because you made it, if you are getting paid customers, and they've seen your cakes then its' obvious that people like them. Trust me, most ppl wont tell you that your cakes are nice just to be nice. I for one, will shut my mouth and not say a thing if i go to a party and see a cake that is not that crash hot. Unless of course the cake owner comes up to me and says "Did you see the cake??" at which point i may lie, just not to hurt her/his feelings. But anyhoo, i have no reason at all to lie here, cause you didnt come into my living room asking for opinions, i saw your post, and i was astounded at how rude, cruel and mean you sister was and just had to say something. Im sorry, but you may think whatever of your cakes, that doesnt mean that anyone has the right to say to you, they're are rubbish, because in fact, they are not. Your cakes are great, you're doing a fantastic job, and with practice and time you will just improve and get better and better. And who is to say you can't be a Colette Peters, have any of us ever seen the very first cake she made?? Im sure it wasnt anything like the cakes she is makign now days.
Anyway, chin up buddy!!! Let your sister's words be like water off a duck's back. Pick up your piping bag and keep creating beautiful edibles to bring joy into people's lives.
take care
Nati
After reading through all the pages my eyes are burning. I know you have heard it all. But your cakes are awesome How old is your sister??? I have 3 sisters and as kids we were a jealous little group. Battling for boyfriends and the like. But we are adults now with our own families. Are we disfuntional 
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But my sisters even as mean as they could be would never tell me they didn't like my cakes. Which can't stand up against yours But don't get yourself down like everyone here has said keep up the good work 
My one sister that lives in the same town always jokes with me don't you need to practice on a cake 
Only cause she knows she can get my cakes that way. She will even give me cake mixes and says here practice me a cake 
If you look in my pics you will see one of the cakes I did for here with left over frosting It says here's your cake now eat. I had only had a few classes. And she had been getting all my cakes for course one and they were cravin cake. No really all my sister's and family wants my cakes. They are not great but the taste good. I look at pics of my cakes afterwards and think boy I could have done this better We all do it. Pick your heart up off the floor where she stomped on it. Polish it off and pin a badge of pride to it. Cause you should take pride in everyone of your cakes they are AWESOME HHHUUUGGGSSS from Kay
I can't resist jumping in here--I see every flaw on every cake I make and I'm so sure everyone else will too--and if they do, i've never heard about it. I think we are our own worst critics (although in this case, it might be your sister)! I really like your cakes (anyone just starting out who can pull off that Sylvester and Tweety has got something going!) and you should never give up because of a mean-spirited relative. I have an idea for a birthday gift--a mixing bowl and a wooden spoon and a cake mix. Then she can make her own cake!
Is it April fools day? Seriously, I absolutely love that airplane and sylvester and every single one of these cakes you have done. They are smooth, creative, colorful and imaginative. They are beautiful. I cannot believe anyone would dare put down any of them without being crazy. You had better not quit. NO MAM'.. I made my sister a cookie bouquet and she thought I had bought them for her. She couldnt concieve the thought I had made them myself, she thought they looked professional, and I know your stuff has mine beat. Heads up young person!!!!
Hi: Just looked at your cakes. OMG, is your sister blind? Can't you see between the lines. She's jealous of what you can do. Don't you ever give up on what makes you happy. Can she do better? Tell your sister thanks but no thanks. There's truly something wrong with her. Believe in yourself. As long as you enjoy what you are doing who cares what she thinks. Don't give into such a cruel evil spirit. She's jealous, jealous of what you can do. You are doing wonderful. Keep up the great work. Keep practicing as we all have to do. Do you think the pros starting out where they are now. How many years do you think they have been doing this. YOUR WORK IS GREAT!!!!! Vicki0052
Not that you need another opinion, but here is mine. Your cakes are beautiful. If this is what you are doing after a few months, what will you be doing in a few more!!! I have been decorating for almost 2 years now, and am nowhere near your skill level.
She doesn't care if she's right about your talent--she just cares that she can control your choice to explore and expand on that talent.
There is definitely more going on here than "honest" opinions about your cake decorating. As your sister, I am sure she is privy to your self-doubts and weaknesses and it surely seems like she is using this to get to you. 
You need to look at this whole relationship and consider carefully how much power you want to give her over you.
Keep up the beautiful, talented work!
When I saw this thread ands read your post I wanted to spit fire it made me so angry. Your sister should be horsewhipped. Or at least have her mouth washed out with soap. If one of my 3 daughters said something so hateful to either sister I would reach for the soap, and they are all married adults. I'm glad you reconsidered quiting. Your cakes are wonderful Like all the rest i think you have a great future in cake decorating. My first cakes six years ago weren't as good as yours.
Just wanted to add that I went through all of your cakes and they are FANTASTIC!!! 
You have created cakes using so many different techniques! But not only are your cakes beautiful.. so many are CC favorites meaning you are definetly inspiring others as well.
I agree with Blakescakes.. keep speaking positively about your cakes to yourself and to others!! You have a talent!! Don't bury it!!
It's kind of funny that you posted this forum. My sister took one, keep in mind, one cake decorating class where the instructor make the fondant bow cake. Well, after she did that class I began my Wilton classes, 1, 2 & 3. My sister has mastered the art of picking apart my work. She questions why I do things the way i do when i make a cake, etc, etc. So I completely relate to your problem. When she makes a negative comment, I remember it is her talking and completely discredit her "advise". And the funny thing is, she wants me to make her step daughter's wedding cake next September!!! I still have not decided if I will make the wedding cake or not. I have lots of time between now & next September. My advise-----do not give up cake baking. You do have a great talent & it is something you enjoy. Keep up the great work!!
I think the word that comes to mind is boundries. If your sister cannot be supportive, your sister may need to be told exactly where your boundries lie. If this isn't possible you may need to develope some internal boundries toward her and just really not let her into your head, period. She has issues and your probably not going to be able to help her with this one. It's esier said than done, but you have to let her words role off.
Her birthday cake is not your problem, if she wants one it's her problem.
Your cakes are way too pretty to waste on the unappreciative.
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Finally got through, I wanted to make sure I wasn't being TOO REDUNDANT, and I'm NOT....you're cakes are beautiful and imaginative. You need to have confidence in yourself FOR yourself. Sounds like the sister dynamic has been going on for years and years. You sound sad, don't be sad...be proud of yourself. What you put out, is what people will pull back in....if you are confident, they will be confident in you (but probably not your sister)
All that Blakescakes said....ditto for me. I was reading to see if anyone had explored your relationship on a deeper level. It would be different if a complete stranger said that to you, but being that it is a sibling, that you have spent (I would think) considerable time with, the "pecking order" so-to-speak has been well established.
You may want to explore that some more, because it seems to me if she is so horrible that one time, she may be part of the reason that YOU YOURSELF feel the way you do so strongly. And it may not be just with cakes. You can feel better about everything. If she has always been this condescending toward you, then this may be the "straw that broke the camel's back" so to speak for you, and you can finally begin to break free.
Whatever you do, don't try to be the "next Colette Peters", we've already got one of her, instead be the...."wow have you seen Joannes?"
Where's your sister, let me at her!
Anyway, I don't know if anyone else has suggested it, and I did not feel like going through all 7 pages of posts to find out, but I think you should make one more cake - a smash cake - and smash it in your sister's face!
Maybe it will clear up the green-eyed disease that seems to plague her when she looks at your cakes.
I love them.
Theresa 
I called DH into the room to look at your gallery. He was impressed. Especially with the pink cake, the gift box and the airplane!
Then I told him what your sister said and he blinked , cocked his head to one side 
, and said, "Gee, if that's bad I wish we were even half that bad."
Don't let your sister get to you. You have dozens of people here telling you otherwise. So she is over ruled! Besides, didn't you see how many of your cakes have been tagged as peoples favorites? I don't know about everyone else, but I only do that when I want to use a great cake for inspireation later!
Keep baking baby! You are doing FANTASTIC!!!
I think you do a great job with cakes. I am sorry you had that experience with your sister.
Can you dance?
I can't dance. I can't sing. People tell me on a regular basis (including family members)...."Please, stop! We beg of you not to do that anymore! You make my ears hurt and you look like a washing machine agitating!"
Do I stop? HELL NO! Because I enjoy doing them! I don't sing and dance for anyone but myself just the same with cake decorating...I don't decorate for others...others may get the cakes I make...but I make them because I want to and because I get enjoyment from doing them.
Don't let something someone else said to you make you stop progressing at what you enjoy doing. Surround yourself with what makes you happy. I would limit my discussions with that sister to "Just called to see how you were doing. and to let you know I am alive and still doing well. Talk with you another day. love ya. bye"
I was so sorry to read what your sister told you. It was a mean thing to say. Your cakes are beautiful. Your makeup baG and airplane. I just love them.
I find mistakes on my own work I always do, and sometimes i wish i never took that order because the cake looks like a crap to me. People have liked it, and you know, i don't care if they just tell me that they like it to make me feel bettr and so should you.
Please don't give up because your sister has said something stupid. Don't discuss cakes with her anymore and don't show her your cakes. Don't give her the pleasure to put you down.
My husband is a bit like that as well he has never anything nice to say about my work. If he comes to the kitchen with the face like that i always tell if he has nothing nice to say to say nothing at all. In the beginning it made me feel really down but now i have just grown over it.
I made one painting ( ok it is not ready yet... but he came home from work and asked me if he could say something without me getting upset. i say ok try me. and he said your iguana looks like koala... how nice hah? But i will not stop painting and making cakes because of him. I do this because i like it!
So, you should defenetly not stop making cakes because your sister is beeing mean. and you know maybe when she opened her mouth she had PMS or something.. Just let it go, and do what you like and don't let this bother you.
Your cakes are AWESOM!!!!
Joanne... I did not see one bad cake in all of your photo's....they are all really good. Now Tweety looks like he has had one to many to drink and is taking advantage of Sylvester to keep from falling over but they are all really good. Like everyone else has said...YOUR SISTER IS JEALOUS....JEALOUS ....JEALOUS! She is just trying to bring you down and you should not let her. Suggest to her that if she knows so much about cakes then she should be making some or tell her when she takes classes then she can be a judge....
EVeryone has already told you this but your sister is jealous! JEALOUS. You are new and your cakes look good to me. Maybe she is upset because youre doing something that is fun that you love and she didnt get to. Dont stop because your sister is being an asshat. I have 3 sisters and if I did everything based on their opinions I would be a sad,little woman.
Please do not give up.
I too think your cakes are beautiful and quite good. For sure better than mine and people still are asking for my cakes. Please don't stop you are very talented. I think that your sister was very mean to say those things she must not know a think about decorating. She might be just a little jealous of the attention your cakes do get. Please keep on going.
Like everyone else has said, you're sister is completely out of line and has some sort of chip on her shoulder. Your cakes are great and definitely worthy of selling! It's easy to doubt yourself in the beginning, but as soon as your business starts rolling, you'll know that your cakes are great!
There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said. The people here on CC are your true Cake Decorating friends. Sometimes the people closest to us are the ones that hurt us the most. Your sister is wrong. Plain and simple...wrong. You do what you love and never let anyone tell you not to. Your cakes are very beautiful. I, for one, would be very disappointed if you stop cake decorating. You'll see... people will want more and more of your wonderful cakes.
Hugsssss,
Lazy_Susan
I have to say it would absolutely break my heart if my sister said something like that and I can understand your questioning your abilities. I honestly thought I would go into your gallery and find something to fault. I can't. Your work is terrific! My sister and I are very close and I can't ever imagine her saying something so mean, but if she did and my cakes looked like yours I would know she was just pissy because I could do something she couldn't (and make a profit from it!!).
I have heard that you should surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and let go of the ones who don't. It's difficult to do when it's your sister, but maybe you should just say, "I respect your opinion" and walk away. If I'm ever having a negative feeling toward my work, I come to cake central. Listen to those who do this for a living as well as for family and friends. They are all saying the same thing and they don't tell you things just to make you feel good!
I'm sure your client was very pleased. I certainly would have been if I had ordered that cake! If you want opinions, come here. Don't let your sister get you down. She obviously has a few issues.
My sister said that is why I should trust her. She will tell me the truth when others won't. She said she knows most people would feel the same way about my cakes but they would never have the nerve to say so.
Is your sister a used car salesman??? Sure sounds like it.
Tell you the truth or tell you something awful to bring you down to her level? Misery loves company ya know.
Reall guys, if someone told you this and it's what you thought of your cakes wouldn't you just give it up?
No way!!! I wouldn't give it up based upon what just one jealous person is saying.
Go back and take another long hard look at your photos. There are some great cakes in that album.
Chin up girl!!! Don't let her drag you down with her.
Ok, I am really new on here...come here alot to look but never posted a reply until I read this one!! If I looked at the correct picture of the airplane cake that were in your photos at the bottom of your post, your sister must be crazy!! You have done some awesome cakes and I would be proud to claim them!! You do an excellet job and very creative cupcake stands as well. If you take your sister's advice I think she is going to get what she wants just to get you to quit. She must not have any creative talent because she must be talking out of pure jealousy. Do what makes you happy and sell, sell, sell. You are too good to quit!
I'm sorry but your sister is just jealous!!! She's trying to put you down, and make have a poor self esteem so she can look good!!!
I think that your cakes are sooo good , and some are even better than mine!!! Don't ever, ever let her get to you like that again!!! You're worth much more than that!!
Don't you think that if they were that bad, you'd get more people telling you so? Come on!! She's blind!! Blind with jealousy. She should get her eyes checked!!!
That makes me so mad when I see people that has to put people down to make themselves feel good!!!
Don't stop doing cakes!!! Please don't stop!!!!
Don't let her win!!!
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