To Anyone Who Has Felt 'unwelcome' At Cc...
Lounge By oneprimalscream Updated 19 Jul 2006 , 7:31pm by m0use
...you're not the only one.
So, perhaps I'm overreacting, but I feel sort of unwelcome at CC.
I've PM'ed recipes, tips, ideas, cake suggestions, etc. to people, and no one could even have the courtesy or take the time to thank me, or tell me how it worked out for them (except for the message I got, yelling at me that their cake was a disaster, when I clearly stated that it was NOT my recipe). I, too, have left some PM's or forum posts unanswered, but I really did try my best to thank the person. Having your posts, pictures, PM's continuously ignored starts to make you think...(though, I am not saying that ALL my posts have been ignored, or that ALL people have been rude).
In several threads, I tried to make conversation, and was ignored. I think I was probably the only person in the picture thread who was completely ignored. The only thing anyone ever said to me, was a nasty little PM that said that they didn't believe that my picture was really me. LAME.
Now, you are all probably getting the wrong idea:
You think I'm making this thread for some attention, but really I just wanted to say that if anyone else feels unwelcome, that they aren't the only ones.
I really appreciate the advice and help that a few people have given me, and even more so, for the inspiration that I have taken in from all of the wonderful cake artists on this site. However, I guess some people have a problem with me, or dislike me. If I HAVE done anything to tick anyone off, I really apologize - that's not what I intended.
Just wondering if anyone else has gotten that vibe. And as I stated before, maybe I AM overreacting, but, there is a chance that I'm not. I will still post from time to time on the CC forums, but to be honest, I feel sort of pushed away by certain users' unfriendliness towards me.
You might be overreacting. I post all the time, and I have had few people respond with thanks.
Sometimes, it just gets overlooked. Not everyone has the "watched topic" marked on the board. I don't. So I don't know if someone has responded unless I remember to check, and I am old, so often I forget.
Fellow addicts will tell you, don't take it personally. I am sure our intentions a good, but our follow-through may be lousy.
Perhaps I'm not overreacting...
Since I've posted this, I've had three different members, who I will not name, PM me saying they have felt the same way.
Oneprimalscream, please may I be one of the first to publicly welcome you. Honestly I have seen almost all of your post and never responded directly to you, but I was impressed enough with your art work that I showed my DD's. They agreed you are a very artistic person. I hope this helps you feel better knowing that even though you may not be directly contacted, there are some of us lurking around the site viewing your work and your art. 
Aw, thank you so much morningglories! 
I really appreciate it, more than you would think! I spent a lot of time on those drawings; I'm glad someone like them
hi oneprimalscream
i have only been joining in on some of the forums myself in the last few days (i mainly looked in the galleries).
i feel like my topics are not really that interesting to other people but i must admitt some one usually always responds
i say just have fun "butt in" (aussie slang) when you feel like saying something and enjoy this fantastic site
kylie
I'm sorry you've been feeling unwelcomed. 
I haven't been on to long ,but i have seen some ups and downs on this site. I can't apologise for those who have been rude or mean. But i can say that there are many many more people who are appriciative(sp?) and really do want you to feel welcomed.
And I don't think anyone means to ignore your post. Just sometimes people do read your posts ,but just don't reply.
Sorry you feel that way. I'm sure most of us do not intend to ignore or make anyone feel "unwelcomed". I know I have not responded to all of my PM's right away...sometimes I'm taking a break from decorating, you know, just checking in...and I will promise myself to "get back to that message" as soon as I get finished decorating that cake.
By then, brain drain has set in and I forget. I try to make it a habit to go back and check my outgoing box once a month to make sure I have responded to my messages.
And if anyone yells at you, just remember, that's their problem. They are looking to blame someone else for their mistakes. For some people it's easier to point the finger to somebody else...but THEY need to remember that there are 3 others pointing back at them.
Have a wonderful day and BTW, your cakes are great.
I feel aweful you feel that way. Sometimes I have felt the same way whem pm'ing memebers that never respond. I have seen you in the pic thread and apologise if I had ever made you feel that way. I truely also think you are very talented.
i'm going to have to speak up & say that i to seen you pic (post) in that thread & didn't say anything. i didn't think anything of it b/c i didn't see when you joined or i would have realized that you were new to the thread 
i so very sorry. also i just seen your drawing last night & they are amazing, i guess i was to busy last night reading a trashy novel to post all that much . so don't feel unwelcomed, you can pm me anytime you want & you can come hang w/us.
please don't be sad (or mad)
i can not believe that someone would tell you that they didn't think that was a real picture of you......how do we know for sure that any of us are who we say we are 
how dare someone!!!!!!
i've also had a few people forget that i've requested a recipe 
so you smile really big & ignore those kind of people
BIGGEST SMILE I COULD FIND
Ohhhh oneprimalscream!! I want to give you a big hug!! I'm sooo sorry that you are feeling this way...you are a very beautiful girl with a whole lot of talent! I saw your drawings last night to...and you WOWED me girl!! Awesome job!!! If you are needing someone to talk to, you just PM me anytime girl! I'll be there for ya!!!
~Denise
Dang, Primal...
I too, cannot believe someone would actually send you a picture saying they didn't believe that was you in your pic! Where does something like that even come from, anyway?
As far as the PM'ing thing goes, I've had pretty good luck with it. I've pm'd with several members with whom I've gotten fast and courteous responses. Two I can think of right away are Edencakes and Daltonam.
I've pm'd others and never did get a response. But, I would attribute that to them most likely not being on-line very much, and then looking at the date on the message, and just figuring I was through with my project already, or whatever.
I'm really sorry you've gotten a "bad taste" from some here, but I welcome you, and I must say your work is very pretty! 
--Knox--
I too am sorry to hear that you have had a bad experience on here. I guess I have had pretty good luck with PM's. But I also haven't had a whole lot. And I am just a little bit shy, so I have a really hard time sometimes just jumping in with a comment in threads, even when I want to. I really am trying to do better with that.
And I am SO shocked that someone would have to audacity to PM you and tell you that they didn't think that was really you in your pic. You are a beautiful person, inside and out. And you are very talented.
I hope that things get better for you!! (((((HUGS)))))
Awww...that makes me sad! And also makes me jump to my PM box to make sure I have thanked people for recipes. Sometimes I will get the recipe and start baking right away...and FORGET to thank the person! So your post is a good reminder that we all want feedback and some thanks!
As far as the responding to posts and pictures...I would love to respond to everything, but this board moves FAST and it is sometimes difficult for me to keep up. Sometimes, even though I have high-speed internet, photos are slow to load so I have to content myself with just looking at the thumbnails, which of course you can't comment to. There are probably alot of members with this same issue.
Ignore and/or report any mean-spirited comments you get! And keep posting!
oneprimalscream,
you are not alone, I too at times have felt unwelcomed. I feel that at times there are cliques (sp) on certain forums, and that i do not get there inside jokes. I have tried to join in but then felt unwelcomed when I did not get the inside joke. So I have not posted so much since then. Sometimes I feel like if I post on a forum, people might judge me or not make me feel inculded. So I rather not post.
Yes it is rude when people do not say thank you, it only takes one second to pm someone back with a simple thanks. It means world to the person who spent time finding what the person asked for,and a thank you is recieved back. A simple thanks is polite and meaningful thing to do that does not take that much time.
I do not want apologizes. or to make people feel bad, I think we all need to be aware on how our words may affect other people. We should just remember to make everyone feel inculded, and our manners.
oneprimalscream,
you are not alone, I too at times have felt unwelcomed. I feel that at times there are cliques (sp) on certain forums, and that i do not get there inside jokes. I have tried to join in but then felt unwelcomed when I did not get the inside joke. So I have not posted so much since then. Sometimes I feel like if I post on a forum, people might judge me or not make me feel inculded. So I rather not post.
THAT HAPPENED TO ME ONCE, I GOT A LITTLE UPSET, I HAVE SINCE CHATTED WITH SOME OF THOSE SAME PAOPLE, SOMETIMES I THINK THAT WE POST TO ANSWER & DON'T REALIZED THAT SOMEONE ELSE HAS COMMENTED--TRY NOT TO LET IT GET YOU DOWN, I DIDN'T--THAT'S FOR SURE---JUST LOOK AT HOW MANY POST A HAVE, IT'S EMBARRASSING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
oops i just realized that i wrote in all caps, this upsets some people---please understand that i'm not screaming or yelling, but i also don't feel like typing all this again, i'm a lazy bones 
Well, thank you to everyone who took the time to respond.
I really want to emphasize that I wasn't referring to ALL C.C. members when I wrote this topic. Sooooo many of you have been so wonderful and kind to me, and I really appreciate it. Especially all the great recipes, idea, tips, advice, and most importantly, your wonderful cakes that make me want to try something new!
C.C. is such a great site - I've been a total addict since I first visited
I was really nervous about posting this topic; I didn't want to seem like I was getting all worked up over an internet forum, because that's not the case. I was also worried about getting flamed for voicing my opinion. I guess what I was hoping for, is that by posting this topic I would make people realize some of the things that we may unintentionally be doing. I'm hoping this will open all of our eyes a little bit more; this is a fun place and I just want to make sure everyone else feels that way too.
Unfortunately, I am not the only one who felt that way. I cannot believe the amount of PM's I have gotten since I've posted this, stating that they understand completely, and feel the same way. Now that I see that others have gotten this vibe at times, I think we should all just try our best to make one another feel comfortable around here.
So, let's all learn from this:
Remember to thank everyone - even if it's just one post to thank everyone in an entire thread, as I have done. Let the person(s) know that the time they spent typing out ideas and tips, finding recipes, and finding pictures to help you is much appreciated!
I know it's impossible to respond to EVERYTHING on this forum, due to the fact that topics are so fast-moving and there are lots of users. But let's at least try our best.
Thank you again for taking the time to respond to this, and also, to those who said such nice things to me and made me feel welcome again <3
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