A Giant Leap- I Did It!

Decorating By Pamalam Updated 5 Jun 2019 , 4:16pm by -K8memphis

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Pamalam Posted 26 May 2019 , 3:42am
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Today, I delivered my third wedding cake. I worked on it all week and it was a hit! My first wedding cake was for my son's wedding. We had to transport it from SC to Memphis. It turned out great. My second wedding cake was for a friend. On the day we delivered it, we returned home to change clothes, grab a bite, and return to the reception because they wanted me to cut the cake.  As we are about to leave, I received a phone call that changed my life. My aunt was calling to tell me my mom had died. She took her life. Needless, to say, I was in shock. That was in 2015. I could not make a cake after that for a very long time, especially a wedding cake. So, the good news is this week I made my third wedding cake! God is good and there is always hope! 

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MerMadeBakedGoods Posted 26 May 2019 , 4:04am
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Congratulations! It is a wonderful thing that you can once again find joy in something you truly love to do. I’m sure your journey has been a difficult one-welcome back to baking!

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SandraSmiley Posted 26 May 2019 , 4:05am
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Aww, Pamalam, your message made me cry.  I am so sorry for your shocking loss.  Happy you can once again enjoy baking and decorating.

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-K8memphis Posted 26 May 2019 , 4:26pm
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wow what a great achievement for you — so very sorry about your mom — congratulations on moving forward with helping create a momentous occasion for the happy couple as well as a wonderful personal  accomplishment for you! two_hearts

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jchuck Posted 27 May 2019 , 11:53am
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What a devastating loss. I can certainly understand you’re not being interested in making a wedding cake, or any cake for that matter. God and time heals wounds, although we never, ever forget. Yes God is good, and there is always hope...

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cutiger Posted 27 May 2019 , 12:34pm
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My mom died last summer and I completely understand.  It took several months before I could bake again.  And I am still struggling ...I seem to have lost my touch.  But I am so thankful that she was at my house last summer and got to see me do a wedding cake before she died.  She loved watching me decorate and had not seen me do a wedding cake.  I'm so glad your cake turned out well!

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kakeladi Posted 28 May 2019 , 12:58am
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Just moving this up ahead of all that ugly spam

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ThatCakeDude42 Posted 5 Jun 2019 , 5:08am
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I feel for you ladies. I lost my mother last summer. I had the opposite reaction, though.  My mother worked in a bakery many, many years ago. She'd still make free wedding cakes, and 1st birthday cakes for family members, and was really good at what she did. Last summer, I promised my wife and a friend that I'd make cakes for them even though I'd never made a layer cake before. Of course, my mom was the first person I went to for help. She showed me how to build them... pipe the buttercream dams, stack the layers, and frost them.  It was a lot of fun. It was the last thing we did together because she passed a week and a half later. I had never intended on making anything other than those two cakes, but I've stuck with it.  I really enjoy creating new recipes and learning new skills.  I give away nearly everything that I make... mostly to family and friends for their birthdays and special events.

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-K8memphis Posted 5 Jun 2019 , 9:17am
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sweet sweet memories with your lovely mom, thatcakedude

and cutiger — more sweet sweet memories — give yourself plenty of time — it will all come back to you and more

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-K8memphis Posted 5 Jun 2019 , 9:30am
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my little mom passed many years ago, sniff— but I remember the first cake I did after that — my heart really wasn’t in it but I did a butter pecan with a rum splash for a pot luck at work — I think mom sprinkled some spooffle dust on it or something because it was especially remarkably irresistible — thanks mom

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theresaf Posted 5 Jun 2019 , 3:02pm
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Oh Pamalam thank you for sharing your story!  Definitely bittersweet - you can add my tears to this as well!  But congrats to you for doing it!!

Both my parents have passed and my Dad was my best cake-tester!  I wonder every time I make something new how much he would love it - and I got my skill set from my Mom, so I know she adds a little something to everything I do too. (Like K8!) I hope you can find comfort in doing things you like to do Pamalam - I do!

Let's all raise a cookie or 3 as a toast! 

with love,


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-K8memphis Posted 5 Jun 2019 , 4:16pm
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you got this, pamalam! heart


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