Ohhhh my goodness yes yes yes!! I have no patience for things like that either and not bc I'm an awful person but bc I know how I want it done so that everything else will get done and if it doesn't get done in the time and order I have planned it derails me. I have everything planned in my head and when things don't go accordingly it makes me feel like everything else will fall to pieces. Order is huge with me and I can't move to another task until the first one is complete. Some of that is a control issue that I'm aware of and working on so when it's chore time I go in the other room to allow them to work their way. "They don't have to do it like me (my way) it just needs to be done" is what I tell myself over and over and over lol.
i would also take that as a huge compliment but I'm afraid my youngest will never move out he's a momma's boy and I'm afraid they've got it too good here haha!!
lelekb said, "So far unfortunately, I found that the only way for me to stop doing things, is if I am removed from everything I can possibly take responsibilities for."
yeah I getcha -- now my dear brother-in-law who is a capital letter TYPE A had a roto rooting heart something or other aortic valve replacement dissective separated something can't remember the name of it -- widow maker event -- but it was a miracle they even caught it -- if he wants to continue to live he has to eat the same amount of vitamin k every day -- it's in all the veggies -- and take myriads of meds and can't be even lower case type 'a' anymore -- weeks in the hospital -- he will never fully recover -- over a year to recover as much as he is --
consider making better choices now while you still have choices -- like you said --
'you take responsibility' it's a conscience act that you've programmed yourself to do -- you're compensating for something -- ferret it out and move on past -- killing yourself doesn't change the past --
best to you -- kindest warmest regards
Hahahaha... Control Freaks Unite!
I know, it isn't out of meanness that I do some things sometimes. I truly try to be patient, and give fair warnings when I'm about to lose it (dealing with everyday stuff, customer service, etc), but I have very low tolerance for incompetence in work place. That really gets me. When I do my stuff - one thing, or multitask it for five at the same time - I have to know I OWN it, and would fall through the floor of shame, if I screwed up from incompetence or lack of time-management and preparation. So, naturally, I assume everyone else must OWN their shtuff as well. This makes for real hard time in real life, and I am coping as well as I can, and as politely as I can. I have only twice told someone to "just give it to me, I'll do it" - when it was completely not my job, but the person seemed lost (one was a bank teller, who couldn't manage my wire transfer! yeah... I am horrible). I also sometimes warn service reps that I have a potentially difficult issue, so I hope they can help me, or bump me to someone who can right away.
With my kids I really try not to raise lazy indecisive freeloaders. I've seen examples. I give them jobs. I try to bust the myth that mama poops magic, and can pull anything off. Our Toothfairy brings small toys or trinkets, not money, because I try to separate money and magic, that the only way to get money is to earn it. But oh well. I know when it will be cooking time for my future daughter in law, she better be prepared. Cuz my son will be like "wait. what? where is EVERYTHING?!"
Actually, I make them part-take at cooking, so they are slowly learning... I hope... or they will be doomed, when their partners can't assemble a 10-piece breakfast, or something LOL
@-K8memphis I know. :-( I must change. It is very hard though! Especially as I grow older.
I am glad your BiL survived his ordeal!
I jog and workout to clear my head and remove myself from doing things too. Gives my thoughts some structure, when I run and work out. Or garden. Gardening is kind of a therapeutic work, right?
Gardening is very therapeutic for me and we also walk about 2-2 1/2 miles every other night together as a family and it really wears me out physically so then I can relax a little bit in the evenings otherwise I'd probably be up all night lol. I think for me the emotional stress and constant mental work I do is worse for my heart than the physical. The garden is about the one place where my thoughts are less frantic and my need to go go go simmers down to a work at a slow relaxing pace. Glad I'm not the only one and I second the control freaks unite lol :)
mmmno working out, walking, running, gardening is doing something -- what I meant was sitting or laying down doing nothing but breathing -- I tried to find a real generic breathing exercise to link to but:
all you have to do is close your eyes and just concentrate on your breathing in and out -- shoot for five minutes and stretch it out longer as the days go by -- don't encourage thoughts to come in your mind -- but don't get dithered don't bother about it if you do -- just go back to concentrating on your breathing --
there's tons of stuff online for anxiety breathing -- tests to see how well you're doing etc. etc.
the world still spins when you stop spinning -- it's ok
If it were easy to shut off my brain I would have absolutely done so by now every once in awhile. There is no switch within my brain that says don't think right now if I try not to think I think more and then I think well if I'm going to sit here and think about it I might as well be doing it. Not thinking is not an option I've tried desperately lol. I do breath and try to relax but until I'm physically tired I am not able to be mentally tired or prepared to relax. My husband is the most laid back person he can seriously not think about anything at all and be alright I can't for the life of me understand how that works no more than he can understand the never ending thoughts I think lol :)
we bake -- yes i see exactly what you mean however i never said don't think -- 
Some of today's take :-)
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Well, tomatoes are getting there. Pictures post sideways - no idea why.
Yup, watermelons. "mini" watermelons. They are very dark green, and look like cannonballs. :-) Kids are loving the garden. They can't wait till something else is ready to pick.
Love watermelon!' We grew some minis 2 years ago they had a tough go here and of course I didn't know what I was doing so I didn't harvest them in at the right time :(
your kids are adorable!! Do they like to garden too? Only my youngest seems to enjoy it espeically when it's time to pick.
My sunflower is now so heavy with seeds and looks so full. Also, a few birds are waiting for its seeds to ripen. I saw them eyeing it.
Had to dress it up in mosquito netting. :-)
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oh lelekb you are a garden fairy/ genius!
yes your munchkins are sweeties --
the 'hat' on the sunflower is brilliant and cute too
Aws-shawcks, thanks! But I stole the idea. I lost all of my strawberries to a couple of sabretoothed chipmunks, so when I saw the birds looking at my ONLY sunflower - I had to rescue it.
Some of my tomatoes have ripened into pure deliciousness. So good - cucumbers+avocados+red onion+tomato+balsamic vinegar... Or homemade salsa. And tons of tomatoes from MIL's garden, that I am making into most fantastic mamma-mia-prima-good pasta and pizza sauce! Kinda proud. I make "rustic" pizzas at home, people fall over for those!
oh my gorshk (as Popeye wpuld say) you make it sound irresistible -- I'm ready for supper but I only just finished lunch!
I'm still on the weight loss portion of my latest adventure -- I dropped a miraculous 1.6 pounds overnight which I will never hang on to at this rate hahahahaha
it's hard for me to hang onto that big a drop anyway -- I kind of bounce up & down when i lose --
but anyway we have one of those little deep freezers and in the winter I cook up tons of soups, sauces, meats & roasted veggies & package in individual servings -- makes life so much easier!
we got a little crate of mangogos (sic) and I weighed out 6 ounces each and have those all ready for yogurt & granola
btw -- mangogo is pronounced manGOgo
What is a mangogo? I know mangoes very well.
Here is some jokes my plants made...
You say tomato, i say potato :-)
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a mangogo is a mango
tortillas are tortill-E-ahs
Panera bakery is pan ner ner's
Chick file a is chick filaylay
etc.
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