Do We Deserve More Gratitude Than We Get?
Decorating By aac81 Updated 13 Dec 2010 , 11:06pm by cakenovice2010
blakescakes, that's funny that we used an almost identical example! Why do people think if you're paying someone to do something, you have the 'right' to be rude? 
Oh, Cocoablondie... that really stinks.
ali - you'd better learn to control your kids!! I mean, laughing? In public? I'm embarrassed FOR you! 
Kids laugh, and they make fart jokes. And they always have ants in their pants! Life goes on.
Sorry you feel let down. I always hated it when men picked up cakes- because they never oooh and ahhh. I have learned not to take it personally. Who took the cake from you? If it was a party, so much was probably going on, that it just didn't occur to them that they hadn't said thank you.
Are you sure you told your friend how much the cake would cost? She might think it was free because you are friends or because you've never charged for cakes before.
Now, this might be hard to hear- but your friend does not know that you spent 3 days and invested your heart into the cake. She thinks you baked and decorated it in an hour and does not realize that it was a big deal to you. Don't mull in it, call her and ask, did the birthday boy like his cake?
We see so many TV shows where they stop the party and unveil the cake, and the baker gets a round of applause. I think we all wish that would happen... but if it doesn't, that doesn't mean you aren't good enough!
I think we just get used to at least getting a thank you. For me, I don't normally sell cakes so I'm giving them as gifts to friends and family...and friends of family...and friends of friends... 
Anyway, I usually get a big thank you and ooh and aahs and all that. And of course it makes me really happy to know that they appreciate my hard work and TLC.
Well it finally happend. I made a cake for my 11 year old great-niece. My first topsy turvy. Of course spent hours upon hours on it. My daughter always posts pics of my cakes on her facebook cause a lot of the cakes I make are for her friends. Several people commented on how great it was. Then my niece who I made the cake for left a comment. This is all she said "It was hard to cut and eat". Ok hard to cut maybe, but eat???
I just keep telling myself, she's 11. I told this story to my sister, who is her grandma. She said, well I know she loved it because she couldn't stop talking about it when I saw her. Yeah she's 11, hopefully she'll learn the art of appreciation. Unfortunately some people never learn. 
My parents were HUGE on manners and please and thank yous, excuse me, respecting your elders etc.. And we were taught no matter how much we hated a gift or if we got something weird to always ALWAYS pretend like it was the greatest thing we'd ever received and make a really big time over it - the person gifting the item thought we would love it and as such I have passed it on to my own children. People absolutely love to feel appreciated so when you put your heart and soul into something of course you feel like a bag of poop!
BUT, manners are lacking these days and now you've learned from experience to get the money up front. You did an awesome job and deep down you know the work that went into it. Some people just honestly were not taught how to use manners or make a big deal out of something someone else worked hard at.
Don't take it personally, hard as it is to swallow - move forward and do cakes for people you know will appreciate it.
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