I was supposed to be making 2 cakes.
One was for a friend's son's 3rd birthday (the party, I'm assuming, was today). The dad kept telling me he'd talk to me about the cake & he never did. Dh told me today that he think they got an ice cream cake 'cause that's what the little boy wanted. (Ok, what's the big difference between an ice cream cake & a cake with ice cream on the side when you're 2 or 3??? I think it was the mom's idea.) I was looking forward to making a nice stacked cake 
I was also going to be making a birthday cake for a lady who I used to work with & we are good friends. Well, she is like my mom, I call her my 2nd mom! I told her I'd make it any way she'd like and at any size (free of course) & to get back to me. She emailed me today saying that they already decided they're going to use her mom's recipe and make cakes for her & her neice. (And I already started making the snowflakes I was going to use on her cake )
I was complaining to dh about it & he thinks I'm overreacting. Do you guys think so? Would you be hurt that these 2 friends didn't want you to make cakes? 
Geez, how ever will I succeed if I can't even give these things away?! 
Thanks for listening
Talk about a low blow! 
I guess this is just the day for things like this to happen. The ice cream cake, I agree with you on but maybe because he took so long to "get back with you" on it they just decide it best get one from the store? She was probably pissed at him for messing up on that one. The other cake, maybe she felt that tradition was more important to her this year than getting a nice cake. Either way, I feel for you. Give the snowflakes to the kids.
or put the snowflakes an a couple of cupcakes and bring them to the party.
Well I agree -why not put icecream on the side but if a icecream cake is what they wanted well that is what they wanted. I would try not to let it bother me ( notice I said "try")
Concerning the 2nd cake well I think that is understandable too....they wanted to use a family recipe.....I know it's a bummer though that you already started the snow flakes.
Cheer up....you'll get your chance to make a cake!!!!!!
Hey,I also feel for you.But at least they are only friends,not FAMILY! My nieces birthday was Jan 4 and my sister bought CUPCAKES at Pathmark !!!instead of fresh and home made princess cupcakes I offered her (and for free!!!)THAT is a BIG blow! Who can understand them?Dont feel bad.I agree with reenie,maybe thay had their reasons.Yes,it hurts,but dont let those things put you down.
I don't get why people do these things. Except when people aren't all that into cake - or when they want an ice cream cake instead....and they're older than 3. They probably thought they were inconveniencing you with having you make a cake - which is dumb, but the only thing I can come up with. Don't feel too bad - they're probably not really considering you when they're making their decision which is unfortunate, but just the way life is sometimes. Just try not to take it too personally - I know that's easier said than done. Good luck and I hope you have many more cake orders from people who appreciate them!
I know it's a tough one, (or two in this case), but I would try not to take it personally. People do things for all sorts of reasons, and we're not privy to their rational most of the time. It can be maddening if you assume that your cakes aren't good enough when people opt for something else. And probably most of the time, it doens't have anything to do with you! I've been to a couple of parties where people have been 
when they have a different dessert, but I just compliment it and move on. I figure that they did whatever they wanted or needed at that moment and as long as I keep my confidence and cheerfulness, they will keep me in their hopper when they are needing dessert. If I get mad or sulk, I might lose a friend, and they won't give me their business anyway! Hang in there and keep up the great work! 
Sarah
mom2, dont feel bad. For christmas i made a wreath cake and took it to my dh's moms house, they all weree ooohing and awwing until i said i made it, then it was a different story. not one of them got a piece and never made another comment again.
I'm suppose to make a wedding cake for my BIL but all of them are trying to convince the bride to be to get someone else to make it. the way i see it is it's their loss not mine. I'll at least save that money for my self.
Keep baking and enjoy every bit of it.
Julie
Family and friends can be the most irritating! For my aunt and uncles 40th anniv, my cousins went to the groc store for a very plain very dry cake. Their excuse for not buying from me was that they thought I would be too busy since we were remodeling. Thanks for the thought, but we were putting siding on the house and hired a contractor. Like I'm going to go out there and hang siding on a 2 story house! And that affects my kitchen in what way??? Hello!!! 
Try not to let it get to you. People just don't think sometimes.
Thanks everyone. I will try & not let it bother me! I'm not AS bothered with #2 as I am with #1. It's just that with #2...I really don't have that much money to get her anything (& she knows that) so I like to bake her stuff (and she knows I'm trying to get a business started). Oh well.
With #1...well...I'll just forget about it. We're friends with the dad & I don't really know the mom & whenever she does come over, well...she's just weird (doesn't really talk to me, etc). Ok - I think I'm done venting. THEIR LOSS! 
Thanks for all your feedback!
Don't take it personally. I know I get upset when someone comes for a wedding cake tasting and doesn't book right away. It hurts. Either I end up getting the order or I never hear from them again. That's tough to take but I just have to keep telling myself it's just not a good match this time. Oh well....can't win'em all!
Some are very into traditions.
My closest friends only have "ice cream cakes" for birthdays. I have offered to make beautiful decorated cakes but they won't break the tradition.
Then my other close friends only want Farmer Jack cakes for their family birthdays. Keep in mind these cakes would be done at no charge.
My daughter's in-laws only wants cake from this one local bakery. For her son's 1st birthday she paid over $100 for his cake. And to think the reason I started learnng decorating is for my Grandson.
Now all through the year they love my cakes, there is just something about how they want to celebrate BD's.
I don't get offended. I'm not like that but I understand they are and accept it.
I had this same thing happen to me. I had told my best friend I would not charge her anything except the cost of the cake to do her son's birthday cake. She even went and bought tons of things for it. Spent over $65 in stuff. Then she said she was going to just buy a cake. She went to Costco and then added some plastic things to it. Looked very tacky really.
She did this for cupcakes she asked me to do for the same son's scoccer team.
I also had a mother call me after I did her son's birthday cake and said how much she loved it and wanted to reserve the date for her daughters cake. Then at the last minute she cancelled it too.
I was not only hurt but felt like maybe I should quit doing cakes because I thought no one liked them.
But now I'm getting more and more people asking for my cakes and my best friend asked me to do a cake for a Valentine's Day party that she has every year. I just smiled at her and kind of didn't answer her because she cancelled on me twice already. I still don't know if I will do them for her now.
But it is nice to have the ball in my court to say no if I don't want to do them. I am thinking I'm going to tell her no when she brings it up again. I'm going to tell her I spend hours thinking about how the cake will be and since she cancelled at the last minute twice I don't want to go through that again. If she can finally explain why she did it to me then I may do them for her but if her reason is not good then I won't do them. I will be busy!
Don't give up. Who knows why people do what they do. There are many people who will love your cakes and do anything to get you to make them for them. Don't spend time getting upset over the crazy people who don't appreciate them.
Mom2, Don't let it bother you. We have all had our times. I will tell you my story. I don't bake for the public but only for family. My cousin asked me to bake her daughter a cake last July and she would pay for supplies. I never got any money.
Then, at Christmas, I always make a red velvet cake for our family and have been doing it for about 7 years. This year when we got to the same cousin's house, she had gone to a bakery and ordered a red velvet cake. I never took mine out of the car when I saw that she had ordered one. I guess this year it was better for my family to spend money at a bakery. Anyway, I am not upset but I do hope she kept the bakery number for her cake for next year .
I got a kick out of it.....the bakery red velvet cake she paid for was not edible. The layers were not done and were gooey. The kids tasted it first and made gagging sounds. I still didn't get mine out of the car. I thought it was fair. 
I couldn't help myself, I would have to say "why did you do that when you know I always bring the cake"? But, I'm blunt like that, some may take it as being rude. If I keep things bottled up it just festers in me.
By next year try to come up with the best cake you've tasted all year and take it. Let's see which cake everyone eats.
It's cool you didn't take your's out of the car, good for you.
some people just LOOOOVE the ice cream cake!
my own grown up son is one of them!...they'd MUCH rather have a lil ugly cake from baskin robbins!
if your gonna get into this as a business...you can't take things personally, or overthink things that really don't have any meaning...it'll drive you to madness.
that being said...I STILL have trouble with the picky spoiled little old ladies ya can't tickle no matter how long your feather is!
Janette,
I don't think that is rude at all. I usually say more but I thought the fact that the cake was horrible was enough. My cousin pouted all night because she said she was dying to have red velvet cake. Mine was delicious after I drove it back home! LOL
Why is it that friends and family hesitate to ask us to do their cakes? I have a reputations among my friends/family for having an immaculately clean kitchen and being a very clean person, so....why have I recently gone to a bridal shower for a very good friend and a friends 50th birthday and they had bought cakes at Costco type bakeries? I have recently attended Baking/pastry school and they all KNOW I am trying to get a business going out of my home. I sometimes think they don't want us to succeed?
But then, I am getting some orders, and "some" wedding cake orders are coming in but not like I'd like....
One of my friends I told that I would do any cake any time for free because it's good practice and I can be creative. They never ask.
I mentioned it to my husband and he said he thinks they may feel they are taking advantage of me. And, they know I would never take money from them.
I know they like my cakes because I will bake one and take over and it's gone the next day and they rave about it. Go figure.
Yea, I hear ya....I just smile and complement the cake and act like it never bothers me one bit....I would never want them to think I'm bothered by their lack of courtesy. 
Regarding ice cream cakes, Carvel's has no cake in it at all. It's ice cream with that yummy crunchy crushed chocolately stuff in the middle. That may be what the son wanted and not cake with ice cream on the side.
I love their ice cream cakes and so does my family. Although I bake and my family loves my cakes, I still BOUGHT my husband a Carvel Ice Cream Cake for his last birthday. It was great. 
They are not attractive cakes by any means...basically a sheet cake or a round, no tiers and definitely no thrills. They just offer a different taste.
You know, some people are just rude, other people don't want to inconvenience you, and others just have certain traditions that harken back to their childhood. As to the original poster, some people just like to bake! I know that my mom and I often have other people offer to bake stuff for us, and we ALWAYS turn them down . . . we both love to bake, use our own recipes, and do it ourselves. We have a hard enough time agreeing to split the baking duties, and we fight over which things we are going to bake (which one of us is baking the brownies, or the apple cake, etc.) So, perhaps your "2nd mom" just wanted to do some baking, maybe even with her niece - maybe she also loves to bake, and even though she appreciated her offer, she just loves to eat the family recipe. Don't take it so personally - you can make her something wonderful another time you go over for dinner, and I'm sure she will love it!
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