Yes, explain the "cow at the cabbage" expression. I've never heard it but it sounds like something I'd like to use.

julsz - the woman who paid you for the cake, she didn't know the moocher? I cannot believe she had another cake there!

If you need more help saying "no", when one of these moochers asks, just imagine them taking food from your child. Or money you need to pay a bill. Or imagine yourself taking $25 and throwing it in the trash.

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My husband had been in Iraq for about 2 months and a lady who was not very nice to begin with says in reference to me "her husband left her". (She knew exactly where he was and she had asked me before about it and said she could not believe he was leaving me. That I would be here alone raising 3 kids on my own. And who would be a father figure to my sons.) At the time we were homeschooling our kids and we were very busy. I didn't say anything the first time. Then in a meeting for a class we were all doing together for our kids she said to all the other parents in the meeting "well, her husband has left her". Mind you, we were at church, but this was a day during the week where we were using it as a class. I pretty much lost it at that point, this is where I told her how the cow ate cabbage! lol
I pretty much told her off in front of everyone. I told her I was sick and tired of hearing her comments and that she needed to mind her own business. I told her it was because of Men and Women like my husband that she was able to run her mouth freely the way she did, but that I was also free to do something about it if she said it again. And some other choice words....And that is how the cow ate cabbage.



Very unladylike of me....I know. I was really mad. I have GREAT respect for my husband. For her to say something like that just ticks me off.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. When we were living in HI, in the 16 months my husband was gone during that one I had peace protestors show up to my house and say the same thing. I came out the door with my shot gun and told them to get off my property and had to call the police. Yeah, they're really peaceful those peace protestors and they have no qualms telling you that your spouse should die. I have no need for those folks.
When I told that lady who was also from church that I had enough to do she was insulted and told everybody I refused to make her a cake. I had another lady ask me about it and I had to tell her that she wanted a free cake and it was quite the free cake she wanted too, a carved Thomas the Tank cake with his coaches Annie & Clarabell.

that is the only thing that my in-laws "celebrate". Other than that.....NOTHING.

I wonder if they will "celebrate" my oldest son graduating from high school at the beginning of June??

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She should be making you a damn cake, not her asking for a free cake. 1st off from one military wife to another, THANK YOU! And my heart goes out to you. 2nd, you need to get yourself taken care of, it's an adjustment when our husbands leave, and you need to adjust, you also need to find busy work to keep from going crazy, but that doesnt mean she gets a free cake. JUST SAY NO! You dont need to give her a reason, NO means NO!

Thank you! It is weird. The week before he left he was my fat bastard...now I cry whenever I think about my boo bear!

Totally been there, I was overjoyed when he went to boot, I was so happy he wasnt underfoot & bugging me, until about 5 minutes after his planed pulled out of the runway, then I was a mess, I had to have my mom come pick me up from airport, I couldnt see anything, I was crying to hard. It gets easier in time, the tears will fade a little more, but trust me, anything can still make you cry for no reason, I've been much more cryish since he joined. It gets embarresing in the middle of the store, especially because he'll be standing next to me half the time!