Okay, I have a wedding planned for Jan. 3, but boy, am I starting to wish I didn't!!!
Talk about a Momzilla!!!!!! She is SOOOO annoying/pushy/rude (she interrupts everytime I talk).

But so last week the MOB called and said they wanted a flavor replica of the cake (and would pay for it of course), I told her that I would contact the B2B to confirm. I emailed the bride Thursday morning (I was baking Thursday night) and didn't hear back until Friday at 4:30-5. Well, I quit checking email Friday at 4PM so I can actually WORK on my cakes, so I didn't get it until just now. I get a call just now from the Momzilla saying they were waiting for the cake and then asked if I even made a cake. I told her no - why would I make a cake if I didn't have a confirmation Well, I

Anyway, she is getting super annoying that I SO would not care if they cancelled!!! I am secretly hoping they do!!!

Okay, I have to get that out of my system and not worry about it. She's not going to ruin my day.

Gah.

Send her my way. I'd love to slap her up for you.

I think I may just have to!!!

I'm in a grouchy mood tonight. I'll make her sorry she ever bothered you.

ha,ha,ha......

Argh!!! Some people's kids...

Do what you need to do and if you have to explain your business parameters again, go right ahead. If anything else put a note on your website that you do not reliably answer emails after 2:00PM Friday thru 9AM Monday because you're giving cakes to be delivered during this time the attention they deserve. Not to mention, a little minimum timeframe for placing orders and confirmations

Good luck, dealing with Momzilla is the reason I'm not saying a word about my cousin's wedding cake (if SHE asks, I'll do it with my normal parameters, if she doesn't, no problemo here - and truth be told I'm already doing a cake for 200 that day anyways)...

Good point about the email 'disclaimer'.

Yeah, but so the B2B just emailed me saying she is thinking of getting a new baker. Woo-hoo! is all I'm thinking !!!

I replied and told her that I am a strong believer that one should work/support with companies they feel comfortable and confident with and she should do that. And if that lead to a new baker, I'll refund her deposit. Now I think I should have told her, "I think that would be best."

Anyway, we'll see what happens.

But cross your fingers! I hope they cancel!!!

i'd cancel first....cut her loose to find her "ideal baker"....it's very satisfying (bad me)

I guess nobody else had any difficulty figuring this out so don't hate me but I don't understand if someone orders a cake why did you contact someone else to confirm it? I missed that part--is it because you wanted to for sure nail down the flavor or something? The wedding is in January right?

I mean if she's (Mob's) all annoying for sure cancel her but I just didn't understand.

Deposits should be nonrefundable...how much time have you spent working with these people so far?

I do have on my web site that I may not answer emails or the phone on thursday and fridays because I am busy doing cakes. That might help in the future..

Did they want the cake TODAY?

Sure, let her cancel..(I don't understand this flavor thing anyway..didn't they have a tasting?)

What I"ve never figured out (and it happens to me) is why they say "Oh good, you can do our cake, here is your deposit, this is what we want..." and then "We'd like to taste these flavors." Wait...if you already paid the deposit...and you already know what flavors you want...then...um...why do you need the tasting?

I assume that tastings are "traditional" and people just do them "just because they can" rather than any real necessity??? The only time I would feel a tasting would be necessary is BEFORE booking the baker, so you know for sure you can trust them. But AFTER you book them? Hmm.

I mean, I do it of course...just can't figure it out, other than they just want to taste it ahead of time for fun.

Oh ok I get it I think. You feel mob is gonna pick apart the 'flavor replica cake' you make her? That's so not cool of her. But why were you confirming the order with the bride?

I have on my website the 6 flavors I serve at my tasting and if they want another flavor they can buy a 6 in and I need to know 48 hours before their consultation to have it prepared.

um, who signed the contract? i wouldn't talk to anyone but the person who signed the contract.

I wouldn't take cake orders from the MOB unless the B2B had given me permission to do so, either.

I think I would call the bride back and say that you had given it some thought and decided that YOU are not comfortable with this transaction and that you are no longer available to do her cake.

I would give the deposit back, personally, but if there were taster cakes or whatever, I would keep payment for those.

I don't charge for consultations so even though I work with someone, it's not until cake time that I actually charge for.

Good luck!

I have a statement in my wedding cake contract:

In this case, I'd consider this "flavor replica" be part of the whole thing, so the Bride is the only one I'd take an order like that from.

Recently indydebi stated she sets a "password" with her brides so that if anyone requests changes or whatever to the order, they need to have the bride's password for debi to accept it. Makes good sense to me!

I know that a bride gets busy, but this is HER cake and any action in regards to it needs to be handled by HER, even an order for a "flavor replica." And besides, the wedding in not till January, she can't be THAT busy just yet. I think MomZilla is just meddling because maybe SHE doesn't like the flavors/combinations the bride chose and wants to prove a point. Of course, I could be wrong...I don't read minds! (except for my son and husband )

I hope for your sake they cancel, or that you cut them loose. I fear that the MomZilla will only get worse as time gets closer to the wedding.

cake_princess, you are right - I should have said it to begin with. Why I didn't is beyond me at this point! I was stupid not to cancel on her first.

k8memphis, the MOB called last week saying the B2B wanted to have the 'flavor replica' cake and I told her that I would contact the B2B directly to work it out.

But I am being done with it - she cancelled, I'm refunding the deposit. I don't have in my contract (which is made out to the bride and groom) that the refund is non-refundable until 60 days before teh wedding date.

I really don't care - they are out of my hair and now I can better plan my Christmas vacation.

YAY! \\o/
Congratulations!

I KNOW!!!! Woo-hoo!!!!!

I LOVE IT!

some people just are not worth the aggravation !

PITA FREE ZONE!