wow, there are entirely too many snobby, rude people on this planet! i have 3 year old twin boys (well, turning 3 on sunday!) and i did have them when i was 27 (but look about 21), however, i have had my share of stupid comments, incuding, but not limited to:

are they both yours? no, one's mine and one's someone else's

you sure have your hands full. thanks, and you have your mouth full... of foot!

they don't look like twins. or - are you sure they're twins? trust me, i was there when they were born
one time a woman insisted they were irish twins and argued with me about it when i said they are only a minute apart!

are they both boys? yes, we check for a pâ¬nis every night

next time, maybe you could have twin girls! yes, or twin boys, or a boy and a girl, or triplets, or one girl, or even one boy! i'm just hoping it's not an alien

you're lucky to have got it all over at once. i'm lucky to have two beautiful children whom i love with all my heart and soul!
i'm not sure i even know what to think about this one...

you should have had a girl and a boy! next time, i'll see about ordering up a different gender!

you don't look big enough to have had (or be having) twins. i didn't realize there was a standard, sorry, next time, i'll be taller and fatter.

you're not old enough to have kids. how old is the requirement? i must have missed the memo.

did you take fertility drugs? no, it was an immaculate conception

do twins run in your family? yes, and they walk, and skip, and jump and sing and talk and hug and kiss...

and the looks, the gawkers and the stares! as if my twins are a freak show! yes, i have a double stroller, yes, we take up a lot of room, yes, there are two of them, born on the same day, at the same time from the same parents, but geez, we're just as normal as anyone else! there are, however, many people out there who are kind and helpful and they certainly do help make the idiots so much easier to handle.

blessings to all the mommies out there, be they married, unmarried, black, white, green, purple, have one or many, old or young, biological or not! because you are mommy and no one can take that away from you! keep up the good work!

I had my first at 22, my next two were each 18 months apart (just had #4), and yes, I get stares. I mean, what's wrong - I don't steal $$ from you to pay for my groceries, my dh has a decent job, we bought a house 2 yrs ago, and I stay home w/ my son - my dd's go to school and I'm home when they come home, so whose business is it??

My sister in law had her first at 23, but she looked no older than 16. The nurses in the hospital (there are many single teenaged moms who deliver there) thought this was another such case, they were surprised when she refered to the dad as "my husband", he looks just as young. (they got preganant on their wedding night)

Sometimes, I wish I had the guts to answer ppl's nasty comments, but if they are idiotic enough to make these comments, they probably would not learn anyways

Oh I just got another comment , this one was'nt so bad .
I was at the dr.s with all 4 kids, the baby was in her carseat and covered up with a green striped blanket. Her carseat is tan and brown plaid so it does'nt scream girl. But a lady there looked at me and then at the the boys and she says
" oh my god I really hope for your sake thats a girl in there".
And what if it was'nt, does one spontaneously combust if they have 4 boys?

I know what you mean. I just turned 30, and I am pregnant w/ my 3rd, but everyone thinks I'm 18-20 years old for some reason. Even my doctor told me he thought I am 18. I guess that's a good thing overall, but it definitely gets me some serious stares!

I hate it, too. It can really put you in a bad mood. Try not to let it.

Oh - and some people just don't like kids. Maybe it's not so much the age thing but just they're annoyed. I get that a lot too. Especially the other week at the library! haha

I got one today!!!! I'm 25 and have two girls, 6 and 2. I went to Walmart today and the man starting scaning my eggs and milk and such and kept asking me if it was accepted by wic. "I don't know" was my response everytime. Anyways the man finally asked me for my wic card and when I told him I didn't have one he asked me if I kew my account number by heart!! I said, I don't have WIC!!!! What would make you think I did? He goes, well are those your kids? Yes. Well, exactly how old are you? And to make matters worse my 6 yr. old piped up and yelled my mommy is 15!
Well I'm not 15 and now since she said that I had to defend myself! What a jerk!

God bless you for putting up with all of that crap! I myself don't have any kids, but a girl i know I think she just turned 19 has two kids and is pregnant with her 3rd in less than 3 years...(I see she didn't take my advice to quit working at the baby factory) That I have a problem with but you are a grown woman just tell them bite me

I'm 20 and I have a 17 month old little girl. Everytime I go somewhere people comment on how beautiful her big blue eyes are, then they ask "where did she get the blue eyes from, they can't be from your husband" (mine & my husband's eyes are green). So i have just started responding "well 3 of my cousins and my brother-in-law's have blue eyes.." And they just look @ me funny and walk away.. It seems to be working!!

I had my 4th when I was 28. My DH and I don't own wedding bands...short story(young, broke, in love/lust). We're married...just haven't worn rings....N E WAAAAAAAAAAAAY...when I found out I was pregnat with our 1st and our 2nd(not at the same time), I had gone to planned parenthood for the official test(it was free)....the woman asked me if I knew who the father was...I just couldn't imagine anyone not knowing who the father was...when I was asked the second time, I was a little wiser and took offense.

I think a lot of people just don't understand kids, one day i had my 3 (5-2-and 9months) in Walmart. and they were having a really good day, they were so well behaved. WHICH is unusual! In the checkout line a guy in his 30's or so, came out of the blue and said your kids are so good I really apprieciate that. I know it was supposed to be a compliment but what the @!#$. It made me feel bad for all the times they don't behave, but my kids are normal, some days are good and others not so good. And I agree that people stares and comments are off the wall, especially if i carry the 2 year old and the baby at the same time. You know she's only 2, and I can carry them.
I also have a 17 year old who I had when I was 18, ( I made it through college and fell for a really good guy, got married and added to our family) and since I believe that a family should help each other my 17 year old helps out a lot. Boy does she get the looks, but we learned to have fun with it.
But what really gets me is the comments on having a boy, they are all girls. I haven't come up with something to say when people tell me what position to be in the have a boy. Like my sex life is anyones business! I feel so blessed to have the last two since I was told it would be very hard to have more kids after the 2nd one. I guess I always try to compliment other moms who just love their kids to do what they think is right.

I don't mean to laugh at your rants and vents, but some of these stories are really funny. I have a 3 year old, but I babysit another 3 year old (6 months younger than my daughter) and it is so funny when I have both of them out and people ask how old they are....and if it comes out that they are 6 months apart, the confused looks are always good for a laugh.

A few years ago, when I was 21 and my daughter was 2 I babysat my neice, who was also 2. Now, my daughter is white and very pale, and my niece is mexican and very dark. I was out with both of them shoved into my daughter's stroller nd they were fighting over some goldfish and some lady looked at me and goes "oh sistery love" Then she asked, "are they twins?" Really? twins? One is white, blonde, green eyed and the other is black ahir, brown eyes and mexican. The only thing I could think of to say was, "yes, they are identical".

I worked in retail during my pregnancies. It was so funny when older women would walk up to me and pat me on the back as if to say, "What man did this to you?". I looked young and I was 24 with my first. The same thing happened with my second. I remember getting a hug and an "Oh my God" from a friends mom because mine were so close together. She wasn't being rude, just having flashbacks since she had 2 close pregnancies and the 2nd resulted in twins. We shared a good laugh.

When I was pregnant for the 3rd time I realized one day no one treated me like an unwed mother and that probably meant I finally looked old enough to have a child. I was 29 and took that as an insult.

As for a situation that made me feel like you did. I was exhausted from work and took my boys to McDonald's one day and they wouldn't sit still. I was pregnant and did not have the energy to fight with them. I look over at another mom who is glaring at me and talking to her husband, probably saying how bad of a mom I was and why would I even have another child. I will always hate that woman. My plan was out by 50!!! I wanted kids while I was young.

Some women forget how exhausting it can be. I praise you for being a strong woman who can handle it! When I had my 3rd, my best friend wouldn't stop telling everyone that she didn't think anyone should have 3 kids. Both her best friends had 3. She even campaigned for everyone with 2 to stop with 2. It was disgusting! I haven't spoke to her in years and found out she had a 3rd just to keep up with her SIL. Some people are just stupid.

I can sympathize with everything I'm reading here; I was 19 when I got married, we had our first son nine days short of our first anniversary, 16 mo. later our second son, and 2 1/2 yrs. later our third son. Then......we got older, and had our FOURTH son almost eight years later, and our only daughter 2 1/2 yrs. later (yes, we are definitely done having babies!!) I never felt the same judgement that I did when we were so much younger, but being older and wiser now, I do question whether people really were judging us, or I just FELT that they were because we WERE so young.

What HAS definitely happened that drives me batty is when I'm going through the rundown of our kids' ages and a comment is made about it being a "blended" family, or second marriage, etc. I realize it probably does appear that way, but I always feel so sheepish when I see the questions coming, and then feel I have to defend myself by explaining that they are all from the same father, and we are celebrating our 21st anniversary this year.


It was quite amusing when we went to kindergarten roundup last spring and my husband leaned over and whispered that we could be the PARENTS to most of the parents there! I actually felt compassion for the especially young parents because not only were we now one of the oldest sets of parents, but we had also been one of the youngest 15 years ago!!!

My favorite question was: Do you know what causes that?

I'm not one to keep my mouth shut no matter who you are where I am. One was a cashier at wal-mart, an older lady....I had my oldest son w/me which was 5 and my other son which was 9 mo still in a carrier, and I was pregnant again. going through the line, the cashier looked at me and said well honey do you know what causes that? I looked at her and said........no, but would you like to find someone and demonstrate it for me, so i'll know for next time? The rest of my transaction went quietly, and the lady behind me tried so hard not to laugh.

Calyssa, I'm glad you brought up school. We use to be the youngest parents in the room and it felt so odd. It was our first and most everyone else's last. A decade really makes a difference when you are parents. Not that I thought they were old, just in a different place than we were. They had time for hobbies, washing cars obsessively, taking the kids out to eat to nice restaurants while I was just managing the chaos. My oldest is only 9, but life is so hard when your kids are little. You try to take part in conversations as your child is taking a spill or making a spill. I wish people could just remember how it was for them and not judge.

no one has said anything to me but I am 21 with 2 little boys. 2 and 5 months. I have been with their dad for 5 years. Let them talk. Only you know you are an awesome mother!!

Ok so this is going to be long, really long, I started typing and before I knew it I had a novel, so I apologize for that. Also let me state that this is the product of having âone of those daysâ, you know the kind when everything goes wrong and youâre pretty sure there is a dark cloud following you, I like to call them Eyore days.
Let me start off by saying one of my biggest pet peeves is people who are not handicapped parking in handicapped parking places. It drives me insane, I leave notes on cars and stop and ask the people if they are handicapped when I see them get out of their car with no tag on their license or rearview mirror (where you are supposed to display your parking tag) I have even been tempted to call a towing service a few times.
Those places are designated for people in need not for people who are in a hurry. Same with the parking spots for customers with children.
So with that said I had a horrible day with people in general, everyone cut me off with no turn indicator, the lady at the cake supply store told me never to bring my children in her store again (they were in a stroller and very well behaved), she said it was not a place for children. Which I agree with and I try to avoid taking my children in there but she didnât have to be rude about it. Especially since my children didnât touch anything or even say anything, I had already set down the "cake store rules" which included no touching .
Then at a stop light I gave the man on the corner who was asking for money the loose change I had in the cup holder and told him that the pizza place across the street was hiring, there was even a sign out front( his cardboard sign did say âneed work). He looked at the change I gave him and said, "Thatâs it?". No thank you for your kindness, no thank you for the suggestion that the pizza place was hiring just a rude "thatâs it". I have a debit card and I don't carry cash so he was lucky to even get the dollar something in change I gave him.
Then at Old Navy a lady with a stroller knocked down some shirts she was digging through, she ran over them with her stroller and left wheel marks on them. She didnât pick them up off the floor, and it took some effort on her part to run over them with the stroller.!!!I came behind her and picked them up, took them to the front and told the cashier that some one had just ran over these. The girl took them and shook her head, she was a disappointed as I was.
But whatever I've come to expect that kind of behavior from people .
The day just got worse when I went to the grocery store, first as I was looking for a parking space somewhat close to the front I saw a young lady pull into the handicapped place right at the front, she was clearly not in need of a handicapped parking place, nor did she have any of the legally required plates or tags.
I was fuming, I drove around and as she was crossing the street in front of me I stuck my head out the window and asked her if she was handicapped. She gave me the weirdest look and said "does it look like I am?" and I said "no, thatâs why I was wondering why you parked where you did?" she looked back at her car smiled and said "I'm in a hurry" turned and walked off. I wanted to run her over.
So after that I spotted a parking spot designated for people with infants, seeing as I had an infant with me in addition to the 2 other children with me I figured I could park there, but out of no where comes a speeding car, cuts me off and slides into the parking space. Out pops 2 teenagers, no children, and no infants.
By then I have had enough, I park my car directly behind theirs, get out and ask them to move. The roll their eyes at me, laugh and continue on their way.
You know the scene in "Fried Green Tomatoes" the one where she rams the other car over and over again.... ya thatâs what I wanted to do and had I not had the kids with me I probably would have done it.
So after that I find a parking place, struggle with the children, keep my fingers crossed the black clouds rolling in over head don't decided to empty themselves directly on top of me and the kids and head into the store.
The baby starts crying, she's hungry and she doesnât take a pacifier so I held her while I pulled the cart and tossed the groceries into it, covering her car seat.
I stop at the coffee, and silly me must have been taking too much time to find the coffee I wanted because some lady tells me to "move" and then proceeds to push MY cart with MY children away from ME so that she can then stand in front of the powdered creamer and stare!!!!
I didnât know if I wanted to cry or scream, what is up with people? Instead of slapping the crap out of her with my can of Folgers I took the high road and just walked away, I just wanted to get away from the human race as soon as possible.
So I finally make it to the check out line and Iâm struggling to unload my groceries and hold the baby at the same time. When from behind another women starts to unload my groceries and entertain the other children, who have for some reason unknown to me, been perfect angles this whole time.
She was nice, she had 5 children of her own so she could understand what a circus grocery shopping can be. She finished putting my groceries on the belt and then helped load them into the cart. I told her thank you and I already felt better, some one had actually been helpful, not rude or selfish but helpful to a complete stranger.
And the random kindness didnât stop there, on my way out my cart got stuck on the hose they were using to water the plants. I had my hands full with the baby and couldnât for the life of me get the cart over the hose.
Another lady came to my rescue. She unstuck the cart and then pushed it to my car, she unloaded the groceries while I put the children in the car and the she even took my cart back to the cart corral (Iâm in TX so we keep our carts in corrals, yeehaw). After the day I had I wanted to hug her.
She didnât have to take time out of her day to help me, but she did, both of the women did and I am so grateful. I was ready to right off people in general but those two showed me that not everyone is selfish and self-serving. Some people still help others. Sorry this turned out so long, and I know being helped with groceries isnât a huge deal to most but to me on that particular day it was.

oh, i about cried at your story. i have had those days before and have longed to have an angel come and save the day. if i lived in texas, i would have helped you too! bless your dear heart!

Wow, I'm just speechless. The majority of people are so selfish these days and then everyone wonders why no one cares anymore.

When I was pregnant with my first, I was commuting to Texas State in San Marcos from San Antonio. After a 50 minute drive up there, I still would have to fight for a parking spot in the commuter lot. The commuter lot will hold maybe several hundred cars and there are around 37,000 commuters, so you can see where there might be a problem. Anyway, one day I was lucky. I pulled into the lot, drove to the back and saw someone get into their car. I turned on my blinker and sat, waiting for them to back out. As soon as they did, this A$$HOLE swings around my car and slides into the spot. I was furious. THEN, he had the audacity to turn and smile at me. If I'd had a gun...well I wouldn't be here telling this story, I'd be in jail.

And when some lady pushed my cart, with my kiddos, out of her way at the store the other day, I made sure to ram her in the ankles (you know that always hurts ). She was not amused, but I was! And then my two year old sneezed on her as we passed -- pure accident, but what timing!