I don't want anyone taking offense to any of this, if you saw me you would understand and shake your head in pity.
If someone brought in a 6"cake and started to cut it in those portions I would have to say "there's no mice here, you need to bring out the rest of the cake and cut some real pieces".
When it comes to cake I'm not bashful. 
At a regular party I agree - I like a large slice of cake. But an end of session party for 12 children (so you thought), when there are other cupcakes and goodies, a tasting of the cake would have been plenty.
I'm sure she thought she was doing the right thing, how old are these kids? Are they old enought to understand "you get what you get and you don't get upset?" 6"x3" round is a tiny cake to me - I figure it feeds 6-9 people (according to Wilton cake cutting chart it does) so that is a tough call. But you did not feel well and thought there were 12 kids, that cake should have been enough for that - you were a trooper to do what you did! Maybe she said to your daughter "There is not enough for everyone to share, do you think it would be alright for me to take it home so there is not a fight and no one feels left out? It looks wonderful!" It's possible there is more to the story.... What's too bad is that you weren't feeling well and in the end you really didn't have to do anything!
I think that really suck since you spent so much time and effort making them... let say it's true there was not enough w/c I doubt since you know well about cakes.... still that's no reason to bring it back home, esp if your little girl had requested you to make it.
I'm sure that hurt your daughter's feelings in a way.
Some people who are clueless about cakes think that the only way to cut a cake is by big wedges.. that's ignorance.
So what if it was kind of small ? they could still share it in a way !! all she needed to do was to cut it in smaller pcs.
It's was not a formal dinner party where everything has to be exact !!
Sorry to hear this happened to you.. I feel for your daughter.. I'm sure she was bombed in a way.. 
IMHO she should have cut it up and served as many as she could, tiny peices with other goodies would have been just fine. And like you said I am sure not every child would want some.
I totally agree, the cake should have been served as far as it could go. Same thing happened to me a couple of years ago. I made a giant gingerbread man for the kindergarten. My son said he didn't get any, but it wasn't until last week that I understood when he said (an 8yo thinking back to 6yo) that he didn't think it was right that his teacher took the whole cookie home without sharing with the kids. Now, I'm sure there was plenty of goodies and junk for the kiddies, probably too much but IMO, the right thing would be to serve to the intended group. Hey... this is a Catholic school too 
All kidding aside,
I saw the cake and I'm sure every kid would have wanted some. And there is no reason that each child could not have gotten a small piece. That's all they would need with everything else.
Makes me wonder if any of the kids saw it and asked about it?????
You don't want to believe the worse. But, from looking at the cake I can see her wanting to take it for herself, thinking no one will notice.
The suspense would eat me up, I would have to find a way to bring it up and find out what happened.
Makes you want to say hummmm.
No matter what...whether it was big enough or not...who the heck does she think she is to take it home for herself? What nerve?
She should have given it back to you...or at the very least...share it with the "ladies in the office" (as we call them in our school)
She needs a couple of CCD lessons.
Just so happens that my 8 year old had his class party today. With the exception of one person each person that brought in something brought enough to feed an army. The teacher didn't want some to have and others to have not so nobody got any of that item. The teacher asked the parents who were helping what she should do with the item; she was afraid that it would offend the sender and the sender's child if the item were sent home. Out of the 7 parents there, I was the only one who said to send it back home with the child. Others suggested to throw it away, put it in the teachers lounge, or for her to take the item home herself. I told her about this thread and suggested that she send it home along with a note explaining why it was returned. Keep in mind that the children in the original post were that same age as the children in my child's class and that the 6" cake that were all talking about makes your mouth water just looking at it. I really think that the teacher knew that eventhough there were many more treats, everyone would want a BIG piece of that awesome cake. I'm sorry that this is so long, but I really think that the teacher meant no ill will.
I am a counselor for a girls group, and for our parties, we ask that each girl bring 6 of something to share. There are 10 girls and 4 counselors. Obviously, someone is going to miss out on something. But when you look at the food on display, some things get hit hard, some things aren't touched. But they are all put out for the girls to choose if they want that item. Leftovers are always sent back home with each girl.
This sounds to me like a potluck type situation. I think the cake should have been put out and cut in small pieces that eveyone would have a chance to sample it. If the teacher chose not to serve it, no matter what the reason, she should have given the cake back to you with a personal explanation, not a message thru your daughter. Just my 2 cents.
It's silly to me that "Sorry, honey, we ran out of that -what else would you like?" can't be said to an 8 year old 
Throw it away instead?! 
I've been trying to think of any rationale reason the teacher took it home with her, really trying to give the benefit of the doubt - but really deep down I think I agree with the person who said she was having dinner guests over that night LOL!!! 
Part of life is that you don't get everything all of the time. When things are sent into the school for parties (I am a room mother this year) everything gets cut up and distributed as far as it will go. If we run out, oh well, sorry honey , have a piece of this instead, and they are usually good with that. And often times if they are upset another child will offer up their piece, which is very sweet. And we almost never run out because not everyone wants everything. And leftovers are sent home with the child. Chances are that kid wants his/her item cut up to share with his/her friends. Those kids should have been given a little more credit - and a piece of cake!
Janette you are cracking me up!!!
And Nglez09 - how sad is it that I could even (occasionally) consider that a 6" cake is a SINGLE serving???
Sorry, Grace, but that was pretty shabby behavior for a CCD instructor! If she didn't know how to cut it, she should have sent it home with your daughter. She had no right to claim the cake for herself unless you specifically told her it was OK.
That said, I don't know exactly how to handle this--appropriately, that is, because I would be very tempted to take the teacher aside and ask her how the cake was--with my voice dripping in sarcasm. I'd then tell her that if the time comes again that I send in something that she chooses not to serve to the class, I would expect it to be returned to me so that I could decide what to do with it.
My take on this is that it was incredibly selfish on her part and that she may have had an ulterior motive for keeping the cake in one piece
I forget, what number is, "Thou shalt not steal." ?????
Rae
Amen to that! ..but after thinking about it...a 6" cake does appear to be awfully small..especially in the US, where everything is always bigger..lol
I never "sell" a 6" cake...those are only for testing purposes...
But I do agree that she should've given you a quick call to ask you about cutting it..or even leaving a message on your voicemail about her dilema..and maybe offering an alternative like taking it to the teachers lounge..
but...being as sick as you were..and with your kids being sick...I don't think that it was a good idea to make a cake for others, I would've given this a pass...since it wasn't really a customer...and done something for the next class and when I felt better.
As parents we always think that we will traumatize our kids if we don't absolutely jump everytime they ask us too..
Lol, I'll share something with you as a parent and former child myself....there will ALWAYS come that time that whe dislike our parents..and our kids will utter the PARENT KILLER : "I HATE YOU"!! lol
so relax, take care of yourself, don't let that infection get any worse and take care of the baby!!
I personally would give the teacher some slack. If I had a class of 20 and a 6" cake and was worried I couldn't cut it appropriately; and I didn't want to offend the mother who sent it; I might just put it aside; then realize that I can't just leave it at the school during the holiday. Who is to say she ate it herself? Maybe she did end up sharing it with someone else? Okay, maybe she didn't use her best judgement but I highly doubt it was ill intent. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Well I feel sorry for your daughter as I would think she must have been quite disappointed. I believe the teacher could have cut it up to how every many pices she could and put it out with the rest and just leave the children to pick what they wanted and when it was gone so be it. I believe children to be quite resilient and would have just gone on to the next sweet when they saw there was none left.
ps to me a 6 inch cake is good for 4 people lol I"m with janette I'll bring my own cake lol
If I was the teacher and thought there wasn't enough of something to share with everyone, I would have written a polite note home and sent it back home with your daughter.
She had no claim on it at all and I think that is stealing.
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