Tired And Annoyed Big Time (My Current Vent - Really Long).
Decorating By Sugar_Plum_Fairy Updated 14 Sep 2007 , 12:41pm by jmt1714
This Saturday (the day after tomorrow, 9/15) my hubby and I decided to have a BBQ and invite our family (i.e. his family - his parents, sisters, niece, nephew, & cousins and their five kids) and a friend (whom my husband basically grew up with and is now our 2 year old's Godfather) and his family over the house to celebrate our little one's 2nd birthday which was on Sept. 6th. So while we were deciding which date to do this, DH's mom called and told him that his sister was coming from Upstate NY to visit on the 15th because that's her birthday and she wanted to have a cake and dinner. Needless to say, this was the reason we chose that day so that everyone could be together and we wouldn't have to do birthdays two weekends in a row.
So, now we're having all these people come to the house and the house, no matter how much I clean, is still a mess. DH will take half a day on Friday to help with this. Good. Next, of course I'm making DD's cake. So far I've molded Austin and Tasha out of candy clay and due to other interferences still have yet to do the other three Backyardigans. Worse case scenario - I'll just mold the heads of the last three and have them swimming! Not too bad a plan if it comes down to that. I told DH and his mom and other sister that I would make the birthday cake for married sister coming downstate. Fine. I also told this sister and DH I'd make an anniversary cake for their parents being that they'll be married 48 years on Sun. the 16th. I also had a cake for a client due on Fri, but she called Tuesday to cancel. Okay, that helps, except I could've used that $50!
Anyway, last night while at DH's sister's house, m-i-l mentions that her hubby, f-i-l, is already cooking up a storm to bring food to our party. I was like, "It's a BBQ". And as is always her answer, because this has happened before, "Well you know he likes to cook and he feels funny if he doesn't bring something. Besides you two and [insert unmarried sister-in-law's name here] can split the food and have it for the next week or two". 
I'm so annoyed that he always does this whenever we invite them over for ANYTHING. After my mother's funeral last year, he insisted on buying all the food for us to eat between the wake sessions because it wasn't right that we go out to eat because it's not a party. I'm grateful he did that, but wasn't it suppose to be my call since it was MY mother and between sessions we went to MY (and DH's) house?!
Well, fine. Less food for us to buy and grill. And the best part is he and my m-i-l became anorexic about three years ago - if they eat a hotdog it's a lot!! - so there's always WAY too much food and besides he always has an excuse to leave early. We always have to rush the desserts out so he'll at least see them as he's leaving and he and m-i-l decided that she's going home with him to Brooklyn instead of staying at her unmarried daughter's house (20 minutes from us) so they'll definitely leave early to avoid traffic and driving at night! So now I know we'll be rushing like crazy to get the cakes out. Whatever! 
Now here's the part that really gets my goat: I started baking yesterday and then decided at 9am this morning to finally go to sleep for three hours and then finish up my baking and some decorating today. Last night I told DH that even though I'm trying to keep the two birthday cakes and the anniversary cake small, it's still going to be a lot of cake so I would use a dummy for the bottom tier of his parents anniv. cake. He doesn't like the idea of having a fake cake and tells me to just use a mix and not go crazy. For this cake the top tier is a tiramisu cake and if I'm going to use a real cake on the bottom I want something that will compliment that. Thankfully melysa answered my post and PM'd me a recipe that I used to make two thin 10" square layers that were supposed to make the bottom tier of the anniv. cake. While cooling however, one of my two older children left the safety gate to the kitchen open and I found Carina (my two yr. old) in the kitchen and a big unfixable chunk taken out of one of the layers. I'm so angry I could scream!! 
I baked Carina's cake - a 10" square oreo filled butter cake and a multi-colored "white" 6" round cake for the top tier. I also did the top tier of the anniv. cake - three 6" round tiramisu cakes. And for my s-i-l's bday cake - I made a 2 layer 8" Basic Golden Cake. I also made the tiramisu filling and tried for the first time, Shirley's IMBC (tastes delish). I still have to make BC and fondant and I'm totally exhausted and now I'm suppose to make another cake!!!! 
I don't think so!
Time to put the dummy to work and the first one to say anything negative will get it shoved down his throat!!! By the way, did I mention the hour that was taken out of my baking time when my two older kids decided to fight over where to put the bicycles in the garage (a difference of about 8 inches!!!!
Congrats if you've stayed with me this long and thanks for reading my rant. I've got noone else to share this stuff with and I'm about to cry, I'm so frustrated. I am hoping that this possible commercial kitchen rental that I'm looking into will work out well. I have to e-mail the owner back and set up the appt. to look at it next week. Wish me luck! Pleeeaaaassse!
Wow, you poor thing!! You sure have a lot on your plate! You make my weekend look paltry! I just have to bake 4 pies for a contest on Saturday. I'll be thinking about you! Here's a ((((HUG)))) for you! Wish I could help ya out!
well, the part about FIL buying all the food and not wanting you to spend any money on the wake ..... I can tell you that's just "being a dad".
Whenever hubby and I take his parents to dinner, hubby has to pull the waitress aside and tell her that her tip is dependent on her NOT letting his dad have the check, "....because he WILL try!" WE invite them.... THEY think they have to pay.
What's funny is now that our kids are grown, my hubby is doing the same thing when they invite us out!!
It's just being a dad. 
Here is a big ((HUG)) and I hope the party goes well. I am sure they will love the cakes and I myself would love to see the pictures.
Hang in there, I believe families were made to drive us nuts at times but thats only so we can always know how much they mean to us and we mean to them, even if they drive us crazy in the process.
As far as you FIL goes, enjoy his spoiling you guys while you can. I love mine exactly 2 days after our 1 yr wedding anniversary and I still miss him everytime and wish he could drive me crazy, which he never really did anyways.
Family life can be so draining sometimes! (most times) I hope your BBQ turns out to ba a lot of fun!
*My Hubby and FIL didnt talk to each other for 2 weeks because of an argument over who gets to pay the bill. Its a man thing...
Good luck!
Grace, I'm exhausted just reading about your weekend !!
At least with your FIL bringing the food,that's one less thing to worry about, right ? Happy belated birthday to your daughter ! ( born on the best day in the year !!!!) 
Good luck with it all & try to relax
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