OK...I need to vent. Hubby and I were talking a little last night. I asked him how he really felt about me starting a cake business. He replies, "I'm afraid we will lose our _ _ _!" I said how's that I'm doing it from home. He replies, "Well...as far as the electric and the water goes, we'll have to keep an eye on the bill to see if increases with having to bake all those cakes and making icings." Do you believe this? I work full time ang give him my whole paycheck and use my cake money to buy supplies and things I need for the busiess. As far as the electric bill, we had 130.00 credit this month!!! I keep telling him that he will eventually see a profit. He also doesn't like it because when I am decortaing I used the whole kitchen and if he comes in with groceries there is no place to set anything, which I immediately stop what I am doing and put groceries away. The other night, I had to stop what I was doing and go look at the computer for him cause he couldn't get the backup to work and it had to be done right then!!! What's a girl to do????
Does he have a hobby? How does he feel about the money spent on his passion? I can't imagine having to deal with this!
I mean...c'mon We'll have to see what this does to the water and light bill?????
Is it possible that he's jealous of the time you spend on your business? I know my DH was all for me getting going, until he saw how much time it was taking and how much space the pans, etc, took up.
You poor thing! Once he sees the profit from the business, I'm sure he'll come around!
Keep your chin up! You can always vent to your friends here! 
A very good friend and I were discussing topics similar to this last week. I was extremely frustrated, because everytime I start talking about going back to school, my husband shoots it down, and me too. Her very wise opinion was that he is envious. Perhaps your husband is envious that he is doing what he is doing, while you've found something you love to do. Try to encourage him to find something he loves to do, and maybe you will see a difference. If not, stand your ground. You'll prove yourself soon enough! 
Even when you start seeing a profit, it will be the same. Continue to do what you love and learn to work around him.
My hubby is up and down about it, one moment he is bragging to his friends and co-workers or trying to count my $ or mad because I'm using the counter.
My 'bad' side is rearing it's ugly head this morning (See Avatar!) I have a lot more I'd like to say on this, but I'm afraid it would not be constructive.
I'm going to walk away, gather my thoughts... I do , however will call him controlling, and that's putting it mildly. Are there other areas in your life as tightly reigned?
BBL on this one 
biting my tongue as I read your post! 
Sounds like your DH is spoiled and doesn't like to share his time with you and cakes. I say, go for it....you have absolutely nothing to lose by pursuing your passion. Maybe with time, he'll come to appreciate what your talents can contribute and be a bit more supportive. I don't know about anyone else out there....but my DH would be in the "doghouse" if he even suggested saying anything like that. He's very supportive and often assists me in setting up my cakes despite saying he'll never do it again (he gets really nervous thinking the cakes will topple 
) Hope your hubby was just having a momentary lapse of reason when he said this to you Good luck with it.
Men, can't live with them, can't beat them to a pulp with a rolling pin....oh wait, I guess you can! But as tempting as that might be...
Have to say it again, thank goodness I'm single and don't have to deal with anyone else when I get home.
I hope he comes around to being more supportive. You may want to talk to him when he's not on his man-period (lord knows they have them, too!) and tell him what you told us. It's not like you're building model airplanes and not making money from your hobby. Since you give your paycheck to the household budget and don't use it for cake stuff, he really shouldn't complain--but it does seem as if he's jealous of the time you spend in the kitchen working.
Let me get this right, he does the grocery shopping? Can you rent him out? I hate to do that. But it also gives him control over the way the money is spent at the store and maybe what he buys, guess he probably wouldn't get me my cheetos when I wanted them, huh?
Keep your chin up and if you make enough to cover what extra money goes to utilities, I say he has no ground to complain.
As far as your DH shooting you down with going back to school he's worried. When I went back to school against DH's wishes I was determined to make good grades and prove him wrong. When he said I'm not paying for you to go anymore, I recieved a scholarship to cover a whole year. Come to find out one day he snapped and swore I love school more than him and swore I was cheating on him when he was yelling. Yes, he was that paranoid. His mind was running away with him Finally he admitted after he blew up that what he said was all out of fear of me not needing him and moving on to something better. He still hate that I'm in school though but at least now his mind is at ease.
my husband said the same thing when i mentioned starting my business. It takes time from the little ones (1 & 3) and time from him sometimes. I am a stay at home mom and I quit a job that i loved for another that I love but isn't filling my creativity and craving for praise. I started my business on 500 dollars. I've paid it all back. if you were opening a store front with loans i could see his worry. I told my guy exactly what someone said on another post. either you're on the train with me or its leaving without you. if his only worry is the extra money on you electric and water bill, take a portion (3 dollars) out of every order and put it in a electric bill jar. then when he says the electric went up 18 dollars hand it to him. OH no the horror of not having anyplace to put the groceries. Thank you for buying them, i will put them away. the end
Okay - I never give advice on personal issues, but this one really got me and I can't help myself.
You give your husband your paycheck???? Yes, it's only fair that you should pay your share of the bills and other expenses, but I don't see that you should be handing the whole thing over to him - you earnt it, it's your money!
If he doesn't think you can manage your own money, he's obviously not going to think you can manage a business successfully.
My advice - take control of your life and your money and show him what you can do - the 1960s ended a long, long time ago!
All the best,
Cris.
either you're on the train with me or its leaving without you.
I have had this conversation with my DH, too. I always wanted to go back to school after I had my son but never had the extra time or money. Then about two and a half years ago I found myself 25 years old, in the hospital and fighting for my life. After I recovered, I knew it was now or never to do what I wanted to do instead of what everyone else wanted me to do. I told him that not finishing the degree that I started 10 years ago was not an option and that I was going to school whether he approved or not. He has yet to say another word. I am so happy that I finally decided to take care of me, and I think you would be too!
~Amber
Hubby and I were talking a little last night. I asked him how he really felt about me starting a cake business. He replies, "I'm afraid we will lose our _ _ _!"
That's sad.
I have the opposite problem - my husband won't get off my back about opening a cake shop. I don't want to open a cake shop! It really gets on my nerves when he starts bugging me about it. Grrr.
Hope you two get it worked out. I say do what you want to do, and ask him for his support. If he doesn't give it, do it anyway.
I think men are so used to being the main provider that when an opportunity comes around that looks like we could possibly become independant it really throws them for a loop.
I say just keep at him about it and try to ask more direct questions. Men think in specific teams. Keeping numbers to show potential profit helps too. When I started talking profits that helped a lot. I also put all my plans ina notebook of what I was going to do for all aspects of the business. Read every business book you can find so you know what to tell him too.
If that does not work tell him about those train tickets!! ( I love that one)
BTW- I added 1 freezers, 2 refrigerators and 2 stoves and have had only the slightest, and I do mean the slightest, increase. 
God, they all come from the same mold, don't they?
My hubby was "concerned" about using the house equity to get this moving. He said, "I'm just afraid to risk the house." I told him if either of us lost our jobs (between the 2 of us, we've been thru 4 downsizings) then the house was already at risk because neither of us alone made enough to make the house payment.
(That's when I gave him my "this train is leaving with or without you" speech!) 
FORTUNATELY....... I am not one of those women who waits around for anyone's permission. Fortunately, I moved forward. Fortunately, when I DID get downsized out of my job, everything was already in place and we DIDN'T lose the house.
Long gone are the days when you worked for 40 years, collected your gold watch and lived happily ever after. If you're not pursuing your own destiny, you are at the mercy of whatever OTHER PEOPLE want to do (to you!). Playing it safe is the most dangerous path to take in life.
Donald Trump's dad told him to stay out of Manhatten because it would eat him alive. Good darn thing Donnie didn't listen to dad, either!
What turned my hubby's view around? Profit. Pure and simple profit. He's now looking forward to working for me full time.
It would be easy for me to sit here and tell you to do what you want to do but I am not walking in your shoes. Are there other issues you are disagreeing on besides the cake business?
I have had three husbands and never had one that made my living or took care of paying the bills. None of them had a clue how much the electric bill was and certainly none of them brought groceries home for me to put away. Sounds like a grand idea........
When I was married to my second husband, I came home from the factory one evening and asked him what he thought about me going into the cafe business as a partner with my mom. Told him that the first year would probably reap no profit and he told me to do what I wanted to do (he knew I would anyway). We opened our business in October and in April I asked for a divorce. It had nothing to do with the cafe but with his drinking (he drove a Budweiser truck). That was 1982 and I have remained single. I owned a cafe for 13 years and a tavern for 13 years. I am now on disability because of COPD.
I didn't really mean to go into my life history but what I am getting at is that you have to decide what is best for you and your family and figure out if it would be the profitable thing for you to do. If you do not work outside the home, then I don't know what his beef would be. I'm just a little like Indydebi..............pretty damn independent.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
Diane
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