Hey to everyone.........
I am so sad sad......The 21st was our Wedding Anniversary of 14 years...My hubby forgot our special day...I had to remind him if he knew what day it was and he said he forgot...Well, sadly,,,,,,he forgot on our 13th too..... I have been crying most everyday.....I went to see my doctor because I have been so upset.....I guess what I can is this.....I am grateful that I have my cakes to keep my mind busy.......and the support of cake central......and for that I truely thank you.......
Crash......
so sorry. but imho men are men... 
Really sorry that you are so upset, and can't blame you for that, but I agree, don't leave it to chance! Make sure DH gets some info and hints before the date...men seem to think it is their privilege to forget, just because they are men!
I'm not married now, but was for 28 years, and found out pretty early on that reminders are needed, expected and necessary. Janice
My hubby thinks that birthdays and anniversary are just no other special days, just ordinary. But if I forgot to wish him an Happy birthday....... I tried once to tell him 2 days in advance of our aanniversary, but he forgot anyway. One year he forgot my birthday and our anniversary (23 days apart) and I blew off!!! He said he didn't have money for gift, that I was just trying to suck the money out of him.... I was mad!! I told him, that I just wanted a sweet kiss and an Happy birthday and Happy anniversary to just show that he still loves me and think of me! He shut up, and we didn't talk for a week. on the next Saturday, he came to see me at work, with a 300$ gift (a sony walkman MP3 player for when I take my walks)! I was mad, but held it in! I smiled, took it and said thank you. The good thing is, now he reminds things, except once, but one of my friends was home with a little gift for me, my mom had left a gift for me also, and he never thought for one minute that it was my birthday, he thought everyone was wishing me an early happy birthday, he really thought it was the next day. But now he reminds the date. He saw his bILs remember their wife's birthdays and anniversaries, so I think he learned he was the only one in the family to forget. Even his dad brings a red rose to my MIL every year, and he's the one showing some Alzheimers sign!
Hang in there!!! You just need to find what will make him remember!!!!
Playing games and waiting to see if they'll remember will just give you heartache. They aren't trying to be mean or forgetful. It's just that these things aren't that important to them. I know for most men that if you forgot their bday, they wouldn't think much of it. So, if you don't want them to forget, remind them and you won't be disappointed.
I will never forget my early lesson in my marriage. We lived in Chicago and before that I lived in a mid sized town in Iowa. We never got big name shows or anything like that, so when I saw that the Phantom of the Opera was showing in Chicago, I laid SOOOOOOO many hints, like, "Oh I would love to see that." and "oh, that's my favorite musical." and "I wonder how long it's in town." I mean how much more obvious could I GET that I really wanted to see it? Well, our anniversary, my bday and Christmas passed and I was ticked when the Phantom left...
Later, like 6 months later in some arguement I said that he was so cheap and mean to not let me go to see the Phantom. he said, "How did I know you wanted to see the Phantom. You never told me you wanted to go. Why didn't you ask? I would have liked to have gone too." WHAT?!?!?!? Truly, he didn't "get" my hints. Now I just tell him if I want to do something - no hinting around. Hints are for girlfriends, direct telling is for men! LOL Most men just don't get our subtle clues.
Melissa
Totally with you on that! 
You gotta outright say what you want or there's a really good chance that you won't get it.
I think we women feel like we shouldn't ask for what we want because it makes us feel like we're being selfish. If we are good people, why aren't we entitled to ask for something special now and again?
And besides, most men love to make us happy. We just need to tell them how to do it.
So my husband won't forget I got little magnets with out wedding date on it as wedding favors. There is one hanging on our fridge so he won't forget. Plus I'm not very shy in letting him know what I want to do for our anniversary but we have only been married for 5 years. I think I would be very upset if hubby forgot mine. I would never let him forget it.
Men! LOL!
I can't complain too much, my dh rarely forgets anything. We've been together for almost 8 years....wow, I hope he doesn't start forgetting now!!! He says these dates are just as important to him, and I'm quite happy with a special hug/kiss/phone call/text message.
I hope that he doesn't start forgetting in about 5 years.
Anyways......I'm so sorry for that. Men are so simple minded compared to women, ok let me rephrase that, MOST men compared to MOST women, there, that will cover my butt, lol!!!
My did forget at first, but then I "forgot" something really important to him and he was crushed, he's never forgotten anything since then and I really hope he doesn't start!
What did he say about your crying an going to the doctor? What did the doctor say? I truly hope you feel better soon, if not there's plenty here to talk to on CC.
Playing games and waiting to see if they'll remember will just give you heartache. They aren't trying to be mean or forgetful. It's just that these things aren't that important to them. I know for most men that if you forgot their bday, they wouldn't think much of it. So, if you don't want them to forget, remind them and you won't be disappointed.
I will never forget my early lesson in my marriage. We lived in Chicago and before that I lived in a mid sized town in Iowa. We never got big name shows or anything like that, so when I saw that the Phantom of the Opera was showing in Chicago, I laid SOOOOOOO many hints, like, "Oh I would love to see that." and "oh, that's my favorite musical." and "I wonder how long it's in town." I mean how much more obvious could I GET that I really wanted to see it? Well, our anniversary, my bday and Christmas passed and I was ticked when the Phantom left...
Later, like 6 months later in some arguement I said that he was so cheap and mean to not let me go to see the Phantom. he said, "How did I know you wanted to see the Phantom. You never told me you wanted to go. Why didn't you ask? I would have liked to have gone too." WHAT?!?!?!? Truly, he didn't "get" my hints. Now I just tell him if I want to do something - no hinting around. Hints are for girlfriends, direct telling is for men! LOL Most men just don't get our subtle clues.
Melissa
This is such a good example. i have tried hints but no click. if i want something then i just have to say it.
I found out the hard way that hints never work either . . . they can't read our minds and tend to get really frustrated when we expect them to.
The first year we were together I had a horrible birthday . . . I had just broken off an engagement a few months before, was not speaking with my parents, had moved to a new area and didn't know anyone . . . and my poor boyfriend isn't a big birthday guy so he was already struggling. He ended up making me a beautiful dinner and giving me an amazing orchid, but it was still pretty sad.
The next year . . . after much improvement with my family situation, etc . . . he went crazy for some reason and surprised me with a trip to San Francisco (my favorite city) and this amazing dinner at a basement jazz club that I love. It was the perfect weekend and must have cost him a fortune--we had a suite with an amazing view, went shopping every day, etc.
I couldn't figure out what made him go crazy the second year . . .and this last year he did the same kind of amazing surprise trip thing . . . but I finally asked him. He said it was because he finally understood where I was coming from after being together a while . . . and that in my family we don't spend gobs of money on birthdays but rather put a lot of effort into making them special . . . it really is the thought that counts . . . and when he realized that I didnt expect him to spend tons of money but rather just think about things . . . it just happened to be coincidental that he spent more money the more thought he put into things . . . but as long as I don't place unrealistic expectations on him he seems to be more than happy getting into the birthday game.
And I'm not a flowers and candy kind of girl . . . I detest Valentines Day since it seems to be a no-win commercial holiday that women always get irritated with their men over . . . so he is NEVER expected to do ANYTHING for that holiday. And as for anniversarys . . . the only reason I remember when our first date was is because I got a traffic ticket that same day . . . but other than that we just mark the years and move on. I'm sure a wedding anniversary will be different, but I'm not one for fluff and romance.
Hello again........
Just wanted to update you all.......When I went to see my doctor and told her about hubby forgetting our anniversary, and of course, I couldn't stop crying.. I felt like such a wash rag and was feeling like it shouldn't be a big deal....but I also told her that since he forgot our special day, and I had been so so upset, that I was having trouble remembering things...My doctor told me the remembering problem was from my depression and being sad and the constant crying....that things will get better......
And then she told me this:....that "her" husband forgets their anniversary too and she's been married for 26 years....So that started to make me laugh and I began to think to myself, "men will be men" and they will be "mindless" sometimes.
Now for the hints,,Oh boy did I leave a hint....I put a huge red heart circle on the calenders and put our initials in the heart, and pink highlighted the date...My hubby I remembered him asking me,,"where else was I to have reminded him of our anniversary". I told him to look inside his wedding band he was wearing,,,,I had our wedding date put into our rings...
But, I appreciate all your support and understand that men will forget....so I am taking it one day at a time......
Thank you once again......
Crash.......
Aww......((((((HUGS))))))) I do hope you feel better soon.
He should do something to make it up for you. Get him on here on CC, we'll tell him what to do, lol!!!
Atleast you got a laugh out of going to the doctor.
It sounds like you gave a good enough hint!!!! Maybe he needs glasses? Or new glasses? LOL!
I wish you the best! Hopefully he'll make up for it, and maybe (cross fingers)he'll remember next year. Oh, hes gotta be good for something, you've kept him around this long!!
Thank you again everyone,,,I was laughing at some of your stories......they do say that laughter is the "best" medicine & I have my beautiful dog and her silly silly things she does that make me laugh.....
And I DO have to say,,, 95% of the time,,, my daling hubby is a wonderful wonderful man,, he is a retired marine too......it's just that darn 5% that I wish would "kick in" sometime or someday.......
My hubby said he would make it up to me and I told him, "oh he owed me BIG TIME".....
But thank you for the laughs and the tears too and I wish all of you who are married longer than me, or just newly married,,,,,have a wonderful anniversary!!!!!!
Hugs,,,,,and hands in prayer.....blessings to you all........
Crash......
Well, I made sure that my dh would not forget our anniversary, we married on NEW YEARS EVE. That way we always have a party to go to and we are celebrating with the country. LOL Maybe you could drop hints starting one month early by putting notes in his sandwich (30 days till 15th anniversary), notes in his newspaper, underwear draws, toilet lid (up), shoes, steering wheel, remote control. Put notes every day on anything that he touches till he gets the message that you want him to remember that this day matters to you. Make it a game that he will enjoy as well as you. Then see if he can return the fun. Imagination keeps life fun I believe. I tell my dh that he doesn't have to spend any money on us, just do something on the honeydo list, or spend a day together doing something fun. Actually, I would rather him do something with me rather than buy a gift that I probably have to exchange because of wrong size, color,etc.
And I DO have to say,,, 95% of the time,,, my daling hubby is a wonderful wonderful man,, he is a retired marine too......it's just that darn 5% that I wish would "kick in" sometime or someday.......
THAT explains it! And the other 5% stems thoughts of calling in the "til death do us part" thing, doesn't it? Try shooting darts at him next year, all with your anniversary date attached to them. Yeah, I'm marrying a Marine this coming summer.
I have to say mine does try really hard. I caught him sneaking into my purse (he won't TOUCH it at other times) this summer. Found out he was checking my drivers license, because he couldnt remember if my birthday was the 15th or 16th. We met on his sister's 30th bday, so he has lots of reminders. I just asked him, and he agrees with throwing darts at your hubby as a reminder. Cutsey hearts don't work; go for something he will notice.
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