I'm So Mad At My Husband - Long And Need To Vent
Decorating By imartsy Updated 11 Sep 2007 , 5:47am by sweetness_221
My doctor offered me a prescription for my OCD but the up-side of my OCD is I'm very obsessed (in a good-way) about our budget, finances and bill paying, and I'm very organized. I'm afraid if I take something to ease the "cleaning/neat-freak" obsession, everything else will suffer too.
I might be wrong but I don't think it [medication] will make you obsess less...but help you feel better when things aren't to your liking. I could be off but that's how my OCD DH seems to be...well, when he's medicated. He still has to have his "quirks" appeased but so do I...I think we all have some things that we can OCD about. I just think that ones who are really OCD have a hard time with getting on with stuff because they can't deal with ...X..whatever that may be.
My husband and I tease each other about what quirks we have....it's part of how we cope with it.
Although I will say that he's a stacker but I'm a piler. I make piles of papers that I'm sorting out [trash, file, etc] and if I can't distracted from it and do something else [change diapers, feed kids, whatever]. He will have taken my piles of papers and stacked them all on top of each other. 
We are all a work in progress.... 
Although I will say that he's a stacker but I'm a piler. I make piles of papers that I'm sorting out [trash, file, etc] and if I can't distracted from it and do something else [change diapers, feed kids, whatever]. He will have taken my piles of papers and stacked them all on top of each other.
OMG I hate that!!
I do the same. You put your piles in order of importance and because he needs the table for something he'll stack it all on top of each other. You need your piles in order so you know what to deal with first - in order of importance.
The piles don't mean anything to him. We have choir, school, insurance, Superannuation, tax, store reward vouchers (Very Important).
I'm so glad I'm not the only loony who does things this way.
i find that the best way to get my DH or my kids to pay attention to putting their things away is by putting it in the driver's seat of their cars. as for getting someone other than me to take out the trash i place it in front of the front door so that they have to pick it up to get outside. they all know when i do these things that mom has reached her limit. yes it only lasts for a while but i will take what i can get.
ps large items to be put away such as trash cans and various outdoor equipment can be placed in their parking spaces in the driveway while they are gone so that they have to move them to park
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I can't say that I can offer any advice or words of wisdom. But I can tell you that I am in the same boat you are. DH and I have been married for 24 years. We have lived next to my parents for the last 19 years. It's driving me CRAZY and I want to move soooooo badly. But we started a remodeling project about ?? years ago. It's been so long I can't remember. I have a wall in my kitchen that is partly knocked down to make the kitchen bigger and he won't finish it. My kitchen is half tiled and half naked plywood floors and my hallway has the carpet ripped up and plywood floors. It's almost impossible to get him motivated to do anything. I guess my point is ~ you're not alone. Cry on my shoulder, because I know exactly how you feel.
He says he wants to move too, but who is going to buy our house in the condition it is now?Sorry to vent also, but hang in there. I'm right there with you.
Are you married to my DH??? We've lived in this house for about 4 years now and my bathroom project started exactly 3 years ago. It still isn't done. We at least have tile in there now. It was laid less than a month ago. Plus we've been scraping and painting our house since May. It's only 1/4 done and guess who's been doing that? That's right...ME!! I've scraped and painted while he's sat on his butt and watched tv. We bought a metal shed to put in the back yard back in May and it stayed in the box in the garage for 4 months. It just got put up last weekend and it's still not completely done. It needs the door put on and a ramp made for it. I can name about 700 unfinished projects that DH starts and doesn't finish. Plus I have to stop him from starting more.
As for the whole cleaning thing I just give up and do it. I can't live in a pigsty. My house is not the cleanest...far from it. It's mainly just cluttered, but there are times when it's horrible. Then I just go crazy and start cleaning. I know he will never clean and I'm fine with that. I just want him to do his "man duties". Yard work, taking out the trash, fixing things, etc....Even then he seems to not be able to be motivated to do those so I do it all. I scrape/paint the house, weed eat the yard, clean, cook, laundry, plus deal with 3 kids all under the age of 8. I've learned though since I've started doing his "man duties" on top of mine he feels bad and will actually get off of his butt and do something. I think he realizes all that I do on top of doing his stuff for him. So he now "tries" to keep up with his stuff. It takes a little nagging on my part as well. I don't like to nag, but sometimes there's only so much I can take. I would recommend sitting him down and talking to him. Sometimes men are oblivious to the things they do wrong. Maybe he just needs a good reminder. Either that or threaten to throw out anything that's on the floor. Just like I do to my kids. Maybe if you start walking around with a trash bag putting his stuff in it, he'd get the message. Good luck!
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