I found out the cause of my infertility.
I am "deformed" and IVF would be the most practical option
I t costs 10000 or more per cycle. I only make 20000 per year. How am I suppost to do this!! Ok so maybe I wiil have a kid and I won;t be able to afford to feed it or send it to college. I am so upset. I want to kill the dr that misdiagnosed me . I wonder I f I would have any legal recourse with him I am just so upset that I don't kno wwhat to do. Has anybody been in this situation? You all are always so nice and helpful. Thanks
Yes...IVF is very expensive....my SIL spent $60,000 trying and nothing happened.Maybe a surrogate mother....just an option!!
thats not the problem, I have defective tubes uterus and ovulation is all ok but they can't swim to meet each other. I am so upset I do not know what to do and no one knows about our struggles. I don't even know how totalk anout it to people without bawling.
I think there is a laser surgery that can be done to open the tubes but I'm sure it is expensive...to bad there isn't a Dr. who would donate his time...and waive the cost...to help you.
I know..What a joke eh!!! keep your chin up!!!LOL
Missyleigh,
I'm so sorry. I know that IVF is very costly and many insurance groups won't pay for it...I know ours won't. We are doing IUI and while it is much cheaper than IVF, it adds up. Even adoption is quite costly. People definitely take for granted how easy/cheap it is for them to have children when they have never been through this. Please pm if you want to talk about this at all. I know exactly how you are feeling and what you are going through.
ok I know this is drastic but do you know of any companies who insurance does cover it? I know of people who have gone to work for Sprint (here in KC its a big employer) because their insurance does cover fertility treatments...or at least they did 5 years ago (I suppose it could have changed)......it really is awful that most do not.
I just wanted to say also that I feel for your situation....one of my very best friends lost a baby when she was 7 months pregnant had to deliever her stillbirth and plan a funeral....she tried again the next year and went into preterm labor at the 5 month mark and the baby while born living, he died immediately afterwards...so thus another funeral.... I dont know what is worse.....not knowing if you will ever conceive or knowing you can but cant seem to carry a child to term...... its all so sad.
I don't have enough education to get a better job. I really get pissed when theses welfare skank moms have 3 kids get school for free and get better jobs than me just because I am poor and damaged
I would check and see if there is a place by you that has a shared risk program. It might work well for you, depending on the chances the clinic gives you. That means that you pay a fixed amount for a certain number of treatments. It costs the same amount whether you get pregnant the first time or the sixth. Here's a link to the clinic I've worked with, though I'm not on the infertility end of it. I'm a surrogate.
Good luck!
http://www.shadygrovefertility.com/shared.cfm (This explains the shared risk program)
I watched my best friend struggle with getting pregnant and incompitent doctors that misdiagnosed. I was going to be her surrogate (my family was totally against this-but I didn't care) when she found out she was pregnant. There is always hope, even though it may not seem like it.
You must be so frustrated, sometimes life is cruel in this aspect. Is there a surgery you can have to open up your tubes? I could have sworn I heard something about one on TV a while back. It's probably costly too though. I wish you the best.
Hi Missy,
I don't know what you mean by "deformed" tubes but if they are blocked, having an hsg could possibly unblock them. I think you just joined my website, Fertility Sisters and I am sure the ladies there will be able to give you some insight and I know they'll give you great support!
It's beyond frustrating and talking to no one about it makes it hard. Talking to people who have no clue is worse. Please don't feel alone. I look forward to hearing from you.
KimAZ
Hi Missy,
I don't know what you mean by "deformed" tubes but if they are blocked, having an hsg could possibly unblock them. I think you just joined my website, Fertility Sisters and I am sure the ladies there will be able to give you some insight and I know they'll give you great support!
It's beyond frustrating and talking to no one about it makes it hard. Talking to people who have no clue is worse. Please don't feel alone. I look forward to hearing from you.
KimAZ
It's beyond frustrating and talking to no one about it makes it hard. Talking to people who have no clue is worse. Please don't feel alone. I look forward to hearing from you.
I agree!!
HUGS!! i hope you find a solution. I went thru IVF but my ex-h's health insurance paid for it.... We went thru the whole process of IVF and having a baby - four months later i'm raising my daughter alone.
I am so sorry! This is always a soft spot for me. I had problems galore when I finally decided to start a family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I feel like some Doctors are terribly insensitive to this issue and treat it like, "Oh well for you". What about friends and family? My best g/f started a fund and asked each of her family members to help. I thought at first this was crazy but they all knew how desperately she wanted a family and they helped her. I am not sure if this is an option for you but I thought it was atleast worth putting it out there.
Elle
IVF is expensive and the failure rate is high. If you consider every embryo a unique, individual child, the true cost of failure is horrendous and staggering.
Perhaps you could consider adopting some embryos that are in a crygenic limbo, whose parents are no longer going to have them implanted, and whose future is either adoption, research, or death.
http://www.nightlight.org/snowflakeadoption.htm
I am deeply sorry for your grief and suffering, but you must try to understand that children are not products to be created in labs, and nobody has a right to have a child. They are [i]gifts[/]. Some of us don't receive those gifts biologically but the world is full of children who need you terribly, so your lives can be enriched with children without costing lives. Please consider all of your options before embarking upon the road to IVF. :hug:
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this, and my heart goes out to you. My abbreviated story is that I married right out of high school, had my first 3 children by the time I was 22, and by then my marriage was already failing. I made a STUPID decision (within 30 minutes of giving birth to my daughter) to have my tubes tied. (Don't know how at my age that was even LEGAL, but it happened.) I thought for sure I would never want anymore children as I knew I was going to be a single mom to three children already...until I met my current husband. Four years into our relationship, we decided we wanted to have a child together and I started researching a tubal reversal. There's a great website and an AWESOME Dr. who (at the time anyway) did the surgery for about $5500. Unfortunately, the Dr. who had done my tubal to begin with butchered me, and there wasn't much tube left to reconnect. We tried to conceive naturally for a long time (knowing that the odds were against us), then tried artificial insemination, went through all the testing, the hormones, medicines, etc., etc. and still nothing. Thankfully, at the time I was working for a company whose insurance DID cover IVF, so we went for it -- and out of that came our little miracle, our little boy. So, even though I had already had children, I do know how difficult and painful infertility can be -- it used to consume me trying to get pregnant!
Anyway, I was wondering if you knew exactly what was wrong with your tubes if maybe this Dr. who helped me might be able to correct it for you? I'll give you the website address if you'd like. I also found it very comforting to join an infertility website/forum where I could talk to other women who were struggling.
Let me know if I can be of any help, and I will say a prayer for you!
Kristy
Thank you to all who have responded. I have been very busy and haven't had time to write. I feel that every where i look there is a huge roadblock.. and to make matters worse I have to make a baby shower cake to night and go to the shower friday. It is like adding insult to injury... We are serisouly considering adoption and that is what is really keeping me going right now. It is also very expensive but at least there is a tax credit and grants and loans and you will get a baby eventually.I would love to hear from anybody who had adopted domestically and their experiences. I should post another thread.
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