I'm a stay at home mom, and I'm ON STRIKE!!! DH (DUMB husband!!!!!) was stupid enough yesterday to basically tell me I didn't do anything! I made homemade chicken and dumplings for dinner last night, ran errands while my son was in school, washed and dried 3 loads of laundry (they weren't folded yet), and played outside with the boys. I was making mashed potatoes, and asked him to please set the table since dinner was almost done. He said no! I thought he was joking, and a minute later, asked him again, and he said "I'm not doing it. What did you do for the ten minutes that I was playing with the boys?" I said..."How do you think those three loads of clothes got folded while the potatoes were cooking?" I'm on strike til my husband appreciates how much I do around the house. I clean, cook, do laundry, get the boys to and from school, play, doctor boo boos, and anything else that gets done around here. I guess he thinks a fairy comes everyday and takes care of the house, boys, groceries, etc..... I'm not doing anything except feeding my boys and getting them to and from school. I'm tired of feeling taken advantage of and not appreciated! Thanks for letting me vent!
BTW...usually he's helpful and very supportive of me staying at home...I think he's going thru menopause or something!
Men!!!
My DH understood when he was forced to take care of our 2 oldest while I was with our youngest at the hospital, for two weeks! The hospital was 4 hours away so I stayed there the entire two weeks, and he did everything in the house. We were both working outside the house at the time. And when I decided to stay home after those two weeks, he was more than glad! and never complained! it's sad that they need a bad thing, or a strike to happen before understanding!
I hope he learns fast!!!
(((((((((((((Big hugs)))))))))))))))) to you!!!
You know we're here for you!!!!
MEN! I was on strike once in the past 7 1/2 yrs.......and he's helped out on his own (without my asking) since then.
So, you hold your ground and don't give up. They don't realize what it is to even go grocery shopping with the children, let alone running a house...and usually the dh's are the biggest children of all, lol!
Good Luck to you!
I've been married for 20 years. The first ten I was a stay at home mom. I did everything (still do). We have 4 kids. I get up in the morning and make each of them a chore list that has to be completed before they leave for school. The kids are pretty good about getting their chores done. Now my husband, different story. He thinks that he doesn't have to do anything because he works all day. Doesn't matter how much I'm doing. His attitude is that I got myself into this (he didn't want me to return to work) I can handle everything on my own. He won't even put cokes in the fridge. I'm constantly replenishing the supply and never have a cold one because there is never one in there for me.
Thanks for the support girls! I just don't think he realizes how much I do at home. He tells people ALL the time that I work harder at home that he does on any day at his job, but he doesn't act like he appreciates it at all! I only asked him to set the dinner table so we could eat, and he flipped out! His mom called me a few minutes ago to see if we wanted to come over for dinner tomorrow, and to find out what this strike is all about. This burns me up! He's been at work for 4 hours, and already told his mom??? My kitchen is a mess because he didn't clean it last night, thinking that I'm kidding about the strike and would do it. No Way! The boys do help around the house, nut they are 4 and almost 6, so they really can't do much. I'm raising them to be good husbands. 
They know girls like flowers, and like to get jewelry for theri birthday and Christmas, and help around the house!
YOu Go Girl.....
Unfruntly I have a good huspand that does to stuff for me. and he even gets up and gets me stuff if i ask. And after 5 surgeries and a head injury where i did not even remember him or how to do anything he is still here boy I think that is ok in my books. SOme time they just have have a good kick in **** to see that you do do stuff around the house.
HOpe it works.
Da_Goof...he's usually pretty good about doing things around the house, but the past few weeks, he's been a pain the the butt! He always does the boys baths and bedtime stories, but he's even been complaining about reading their stories! He says nothing is bothering him...is it possible for a man to go thru menopause at 29???
I am convinced my dh has pms every month. We both work full time, but he has a part time job after his full time job. He thinks just because i am at home while he is at his part time job that i just sit around and watch tv. yeah right, with 2 boys under the age of 5, i hardly have time to eat. Good luck and stand your ground!!!
Men are so strange about that stuff. I told my husband that this Sunday I'm not doing anything I don't WANT to do and that includes watching the children. He asked me what if he had something he wanted to do? 
We're going to be at MY parents and I've spent the week baking, packing, grocery shopping among other things. My father always has guy stuff planned and I get stuck with the kids.
Good luck on the strike. But a word for the wise.. all the stuff your not doing is gonna bite you in the butt. You'll have to catch up on it. Not fun. I've done the same thing in my 20 yrs of marriage & it wasn't fun for me. What I do now is NOT do any of the DH's stuff. Not wash his clothes, not cook dinner for him, cook enough for the kids & you. If you do the bills pile them up on his lap while he's relaxing in his fav chair & say here.. their yours till you remember that this marriage is a two way street again! This week must be the week for DH's to act up! Mine got an attitude adjustment yesterday! Not for not helping out but for his temper. I'm fed up with it! LOL~
You do have a hard job!! Be proud of what you do & remember that!! DH might have had a bad day at work yesterday too... (no reason to unload on you though!)... that attitude adjustment needs to come. If you allow it to go on he might just keep doing what he's been doing for the last few weeks. As for MIL butting in... tell her no way! You guys can handle it!
Keep the faith girl!! Hang in there~
So.....jen1977, you said your kitchen is a mess? So, whats for dinner? take out? HOw long do you think this strike will last? What did mil think about it?
Yeah, we want to know!
Well, I asked him what's for dinner since the kitchen is a mess, and he said he'll grill out, so it looks like pork chops on the grill.
We've been married 8 years, and he's his mommy's only son, and the baby, so of course she took up for him. "He works all day, yada, yada, yada". I told her that she's more than welcome to come over and clean for him, but I'm NOT doing it! Well, that seemed to shut her up and she had to go. I have a feeling that after he has housework all day for the holiday weekend, laundry to catch up on, etc, that it won't last past Tuesday. I told him that before the strike ends, the house has to be totally clean, laundry caught up, etc, so I don't end up doing everything that he didn't during the srtike. I'm trying to decide if I should strike on ahem "other wifley duties". ROFL! I GUARANTEE the strike wouldn't last long then! 
MAN-O-PAUSE
PMS- Periodic Male Stupidity
My DH went through it too 8 yrs ago. He had ceased from willingly helping, to letting me know his job was to provide, the rest was on me. Oh really! Hit me blind sided with that one. I went on strike too... Anything I would normally do, was put on my 'NOT TO DO LIST'. That meant no laundry. No serving of his meals (I did cook for the whole family just did not cater to him). I also stopped including him in fun time plans I made with my then infant, 2yr old, 5yr old, and 14 yr old. Basicly we lived parallel lives. Well I lived, he sulked. Any time he asked me to do him a favor it went in one ear and out the other. If he invited me to a dinner with his bosses or client's the invitaion went unfullfilled. A date? nope. I was to busy being mom to his babies, no time left to be wifey-girlfriend. Pick up something for him at the store (since I was going there anyway)? nope. I never listed Personal Purchasing Agent on my marriage license. Have his people or client's over for a meal? nope. My name is not Suzy Homemaker or Martha Stewart. Cut his hair? nope. I wasn't a beautician, and did he really want me near him with a pair of scissors in my hands? Take messages from business calls made to our home? nope. If you need a Personal Secretary hire one, my schedule is full being mom. .... Well you get the picture. I stuck it out for months and actually felt relieved. There was one less person I had to take care of. ... Skip to 8 years later. He still does his own laundry. Schedules his business calls and on-line conferences to his cell, insuring that all are answered. He plans his business dinners around my schedule and procures a sitter. Pays a Barber to cut his hair. Shops for his own personal needs. And takes his Wife out every friday night. In the end I'm happy and he has more to do. A very fair trade on my end. 
Gloria I
Ditto to all the other poster's
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(Edited to included the PMS definition and to correct sentence structure)
Stick to your guns girl. Once he finds out all you do hopefully he will get the message. Yep the house will be a mess and at some point it will have to be cleaned up, but by then maybe you will get some help. I have went on strike before to. But I did it for both my husband and my son. I told them I changed my name and would not answer to anything else, when they asked me what the name was , I told them I would not tell them. I did that for a week. Men have to learn, they think all we do is sit on the couch watching soaps and eating bon bons. It never occors to them that they have food to eat and clean clothes to wear, and a clean house. Good luck
Jeanne
My husband called the bbq spare ribs, garlic smashed potatoes, cinnamon baked apples and rolls I made for dinner table scraps! Then he didn't understand my i was upset, because I cook them great but they have bones and fat which he doesn't like, so why did I make them in the first place? (don't worry he is still alive!) By his standards I have more than enough time to go to school full time, do 4 loades of laundry a day, cook 3 meals with snacks, take and pick the kids up from school, make desserts for others (like my brothers wedding), clean the house and be a SAHM (2 young ones not in school). Then wonders why I'm too tired to spend the alone time he wants together. 
(don't want this to get kicked to a naughty thread) 
I was sick a while back and he totally got it then, because he had to pick up the slack. I think he's forgetting and a strike may need to start!
WE wives have got to give them husbands attitude adjustments from time to time!! Remember they left there Momma's for us.... LOL!!! They can't do anything without us!!! Sometimes they forget... that's were the attitude adjustment comes in!! 
GO WIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Bottom line is men are wimps domestically! My husband won't put his laundry away and I hate seeing clothes piled all over. One day (this was a few years ago), I took all of it, folded already and just dumped it on the bed. He got angry when he headed for bed but he put it away afterwards. Don't take the subservient crap, ladies. Men have no idea how much it takes to run the house and raise wee ones--I say that and I am only a stay at home parent for the last 18 months with our first baby. Always make time for yourself, too, that is sooooo important!
Edited to add, he is a good hubby, though and very supportive of the cake stuff. You have to have your own time, though, for all you do.
My boyfriend had to learn to put his dirty laundry into the hamper. I told him when we bought the house and moved in, I would to the laundry, but will not pick up the dirty stuff off of the floor, nor will I turn his socks inside right, or unroll them. How they go in the hamper is how they will get washed. I have one of those with three slot hampers so he seperates his own. One Friday night I told him I would do laundry when I got up, which is way before he does, and to get his clothes in the hamper. He didn't so I washed what was there and left the rest. I also didn't unroll the socks or turn them inside right. He was not too happy, but couldnt get mad because I warned him. I dont even turn the socks when I fold them, if they are inside out they get folded that way.
He learned and now when I say I will do laundry the next day, he makes sure he puts his clothes in the hamper before he goes to sleep.
Other than that he is a doll. He likes to clean...vaccume, dust, yard work, and cook, I dont to any of those. I on the other hand I do the laundry (wash, dry, fold and put away), the kitchen and bathrooms. We work well together, and he is totally supportive of the cake thing. His mom used to do cakes all the time so knows alot about it so I tap him and his mom for information when I need help along with everyone here on CC!
Dale is probably running day shift & Doug is possibly still dealing with all his kids. Anyway with as helpful as these two men are here on C.C., towards those of us who aren't their wives, I doubt very seriously that they are vastly different at home. And Guy's if I'm wrong PLEASE don't spoil the fantasy. We women need something tangable to keep us hanging in there. Thanks.
Gloria I
Karate, does your boyfriend has a serial number of anykind? I think some of us didn't get the right model!!?!
Maybe we could clone him 
Nah, I won't change mine, difficult to have him help me, but he does lots of things I hate to do (mow the lawn, bring wood for the winter and all those stuff) he does clean up a little though.
I've done the same thing as karate and zamode did with the laundry and he just didn't care. I still love him though my DH works all the time to support us and even though he use to be a prince and clean the whole house to suprise me every week years ago and he now hardly will rinse a dish...I wouldn't trade him in...not yet anyways! Just kidding :lol
well, I have a friend who's husband kept telling her how to cook and that she was constantly doing it wrong. One day, she was making a pot roast and he told her that roast needed to be cooked in the oven and not on the stove. She proceeded to tell him that her mom always cooked pot roast on the stove. She told him that if he even touched the roast she would never cook again. So, what did he do? He took the roast, put it in a pan and put it in the oven. Has she cooked since? NO!!!! That's been at least 6 years! He now cooks EVERY meal!
I got this poem in an email today... thought it would be fitting for this topic 
WOMEN'S POEM
Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?"
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
MAN'S POEM
I pray for a mute nymphomaniac with huge boobs who owns a liquor store
and a golf course.
Isn't it fitting?
I was wondering the same thing! With the holiday weekend you should be up to your ears in dishes by the end of it 
I hope he catches on soon
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