I would sen her an email,
Hi, Please do not alter my cakes again, please respect my work and I respect yours.
I'm a b*&^% though that's something I would not think twice about saying.
hmm if I was to believe both sides of the story (caterer and bride) I am wondering if someone else in the bride or grooms family didn't like the set up and told the caterer that "the bride" wanted it changed to this and this.
Granted the caterer still should not have touched it but that is another issue too. I hope after your talk with her you won't have as many problems. Good luck!
Look at it this way... this young woman is getting ready for her wedding... she is full of nerves, she has made a billion decisions... as she is pouring herself into her wedding dress, the caterer calls her and says 'this cake is just not right, I think I should blah, blah, blah, is that ok?' Brides immediate reaction, "Yes, do whatever you think is right." In the caterer's mind she has just been given carte blanche to make this cake look the way *she* thinks is 'right'. I would not be surprised if that's how it went. Either way, like everyone else has said, watch your back with this one!! Good luck working with her later this year!!
I think Melvira is exactly right! By the time your big day actually begins, you are so stressed out that cake just doesn't matter at that point. By the morning of the wedding my experience is that brides learn to give up some control very quickly by just telling everyone "do whatever you think is best!!!" If that is what happened, it is so wrong of the caterer to take advantage of that situation!
I'm sorry you have to work with her again in the future.
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I went in and talked to her. She said she only did what the bride asked. The bride said she didn't tell her to do anything. SO what am I supposed to do.
I basically said, that if a bride is upset about a cake, please just call me and I'll come and re-arrange it myself. And to please not touch my cakes. She said she would never think of changing a cake set up unless the bride asked her too. I just said, from now on I'll do it. So whatever, hopefully she listens.
No fireworks. LOL
I recently had a small altercation with a florist. She was doing the table flowers and was supposed to deliver the flowers for the cake on Friday for the Saturday 1 PM wedding. No flowers all day on Friday ( this gets a little dicey as the florist is my bosses sister, but everyone knows she's a bit of a ding a ling) Saturday morning, I go in to set up the cake. Ding a ling finally shows up with the flowers. I ask for them. She says I thought I was putting flowers on the cake.
I said " Yeah, sure right after I frost that vase over there."
I think a lovely buttermilk glaze would be just the thing to improve his chicken Marsala, don't you ?
OMG, I just wet myself!! Did you really say that to her?
I did, I was PMS-ing and my mouth gets away from me on those days.
OMG, I just wet myself!! Did you really say that to her?
I did, I was PMS-ing and my mouth gets away from me on those days.
HA!!!! Sounds like something I'd whilst PMS-ing too. Good for you!!
And SugarBean.. I am so sorry that the caterer did that to your beautiful cake.. some people have too much nerve you know? I am glad that you were able to speak to them and get your voice heard. Hopefully they won't feel the need to interject their views on someone else's cake anymore.
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