Ok forewarning this is very long. So I made & delivered my first wedding cake today. I was so proud if this cake it was a 6,8,10, 12 square cake off set. It had ribbion for the border with beaded border.
When I took this order I had recently found out that I was pregnant. A few weeks after this I started having problems with my pregnancy. I had to wait for a week to find out for sure if I had or was having a miscarige. Talk about what a mess I was I had all this plus I am a stay at home mom to a dd who is 3.
My parents come over after a visit to my sister's new house on the west coast. Her & her husband had moved in for about a couple of months & had no blinds. I made a comment to my father about it that I found it strange they had not put any up. He makes a snotty comment about it & I tell him I am stressed out already & not in the mood for that to back off. He keeps on & I blow up. He storms out acts like me dd when she throws a fit. I told him he was acting like an a** maybe should not have said that but I was really stressed out /He tells me to go to you know where & had I thought about it I should have said really cause I thought that's where I been this past week.
Fast foward a few days later I found out that I did have a miscariage and have to have a d and c. My father never calls to chek on me. Mom says I was early in my pregnancy. Is that supposed to make me feel better?
Fast foward to today still not talking to my dad. My mom keeps dd so I can decorate & deliver wedding cake. I show them pictures of the cake on my digital camera. My mom tries to point out my flaws. Dad barley looks at it says nothing. I am so heartbroken. I know I did a good job because the sales lady who rents the room for the reception saw it & wants my cards so she can refer me. Plus she showed the room to another party while I was setting up & they want my info for me to do there reception. My husband said it was beautiful & is very proud of me.
Sorry I know I owe you for the therapy session but just wanted someone to understand my frustration.
Awww, heavenscent, I'm so sorry for your loss; sending hugs.
I'm sure your cake was beautiful, or else the site manager wouldn't have asked for your cards so she could refer customers to you. (To her this is business, she has no vested interest in your feelings.)
As for your parents behavior - I was never good at mindreading so I can't say for sure. Although I know from experience that some people think the best defense is a good offense.... And the wronger they are, the more they scream and yell (as if this somehow makes them right).
My thoughts are with you. 
i understand the frustration and hurt you feel from losing your baby. i went through this about 6 years ago and it is tough. regardless of the gestational age, its a hard pill to swallow.
having a hobby is a good thing when you are going through trials. it will help relax you , ease your heartache, and take your mind off of depression. the cake for you today, was a big accomplishment and you should be proud. dont let the part about your parents now showing pride in you and what you've done get you down. it doesnt make sense, but shrug it off. be proud of yourself and concentrate on the positive feedback you've had from so many others.
hang in there. gods peace passes all understanding, and he's always around.
1. I'm so sorry on your loss. No matter how far along you were in your pregnancy, I'm sure you loved the baby very much.
2. Congratulations on your cake. How wonderful to hear that the woman at the reception area ask for your card. It must have been a very impressive cake.
I'm sorry about your pregnancy. 
Shame on your parents. I think the most insensitive thing someone can do when that happens is to shrug it off and say "at least you weren't far along".
As for the sales lady wanting your cards, That is a huge compliment right there. Do you realize how many cakes and decorators they see in a month? Most of those places do four or more events a weekend.
Sorry to hear about the baby. I know it is rough and it hurts but, I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. God must of had some very important plans for your little one up ther with him!
As for your parents I completely understand! I just had a very difficult pregnancy. my Mom who was there for my first 2 pregnancies moved a few months before I found out I was pregnant. She was not even calling to check on me, even after I told her that the baby could have problems. Sometimes I think they forget that even though we are adults we still need them emotionally.
I hope everything works out with your dad. As far as the cake, if a reception vendor was impressed, theres your answer!!!!
So sorry about the loss of your baby. You know in your heart that you did a very good job on our cake. Some people including relatives and good friends always try to burst your bubble, just smile and move on. Decorate some cakes to take your mind off your stress. Works for me.
This has nothing to do with your cake; your parents have some kind of problem and they're not willing to recognise any good things in your at the moment, hence the crappy response to your cakes. You need to sort this with this or accept that your family are odd (I'm still trying to accept mine, it takes a while) HOw horrible. I don't think parents have any clue how hurtful they can be,
Really, really sorry to hear of your loss, because it's never just a miscarriage and it makes no difference how far along you are.
Your husband sounds lovely and v supportive of what you're doing. Good Luck
I am so sorry to hear of your lose. It doesn't matter how far along you are...a baby is a baby and I know you loved that child. I have lost two babies to miscarriage and there are no words that can take away that pain. I am so disheartened to hear of the way you are being treated. Surround yourself with those people who love you as you deserve to be loved (sounds like your husband is wonderful).
On a positive note, I'm sure your cake was lovely...the reception room sales lady never would have asked for your card, nor would the other couple ask for card, if the cake wasn't lovely. Think of the business that will surely be coming your way!
Jodie
I am so sorry for your loss. As was already stated, irregardless of how far along you were, that baby was yours and it is a heartbreaking loss.
Perhaps the reason for you parent's response (while this does not excuse it) is that they are unsure of HOW to respond OR there is something going on in their life that you are unaware of. It is human nature to lash out at those closest to us - because it is safe. While it is tough, I would encourage you to be the bigger person and make the initial effort to reconcile. You are going through an extremely tough time right now and need all the love and support you can get. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband, perhaps he coud act as a mediator with your parents??? Another thought (I didn't see this in your original post) were your parents aware of your situation? Perhaps your father didn't understand why you lashed out at him as you did. Quite possibly he made a comment, that under normal circumstances, would not have elicited that response from you. PLEASE PLEASE know that I am not excusing your parent's behavior or attitude. I do not agree with it AT ALL, I am just searching for some reasoning.
On the happier side - it sounds like your cake was absolutely outstanding. Being asked for cards is a huge compliment to you, your skills and your talent. Please do not let a few sour remarks burst your bubble. You deserve that bubble and I encourage you to hang onto it for as long as possible. Kudos to you for a job VERY well done!
Janeil
Thanks so much for taking the time to read my post. Thanks as well for the kind words & encourgement. I knew you would understand my frustration & dissapointment. Again I really don't know what I would do without my cake people. Also a very special thank you to those who have shared about their loss. I know it's not always an easy thing to talk about. But at least I know I am not the only one who has experienced this. Thanks for everything.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I, also, know how you are feeling. For me it was just over 9 years ago, only I had double emotions at once. The same day I found out I was pregnant, was the same day I miscarried. You are lucky to have a loving and caring husband to lean on, especially when your parents are not 'there' for you in the same way right now.
I am so sorry to hear of your lose. It doesn't matter how far along you are...a baby is a baby and I know you loved that child. I have lost two babies to miscarriage and there are no words that can take away that pain.
Me, too. Two of them in two years before our last daughter was born. I am so sorry you went thru that. Here's a big electronic-sent "HUGS" for you. Wish I could be there and do it for real for you.
Hugs and prayers! I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how it would feel to lose a baby especially when you are having a difficult time with your family. We haven't been able to have children so I used to spend a lot of time on infertility forums. It seemed like the only thing worse than infertility and miscarriage was the fact that people who didn't understand how it felt would make insensitive comments. I don't think they necessarily intend to be hurtful...they just have no clue. We'll be praying for your situation. Maybe you could write your parents a letter explaining how you are feeling.
Congratulations on your cake. You should be so proud of yourself! Did you take a picture?
Sometimes "we" are perfectionists because our mothers and fathers point out flaws in our work. Don't be disheartened at that. Just know that YOU did terrific and listed to the praise of the hall and your bride.
On another note, I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think it matters how far along you are-you are still aching because of it. I'm sending you thoughts and prayers.
Heavenscent, all I can say is that my prayers and sympathy are there for you. I'm so so sorry to hear of your loss. I know people, close to me, who have gone through that terrible loss and I know how painful it is. I've never experienced a miscarriage myself (though one time I was sure I was pregnant and when I finally waited to take the test it was negative and all I could do was cry for a couple of weeks because I was so sure).
I don't understand what happened with your parents and why they weren't being more supportive. Maybe something is up with them? I hope not and that there's a better reason for them acting that way, but other than that I can't imagine what to suggest.
Anyway, I hope this cake brings you plenty of orders and keeps you busy for a long while building up a customer base. Just remember to take time to grieve and enjoy time with your DD because they do grow up so very quickly.
I am SO sorry you had to go through this! My mom is that way about my cakes, so I understand that part, but I've never lost a baby. My sister has lost at least two and each time it devastates her a little more. {{{hugs}}} to you.
I'd love to see the pictures of your cakes. I'm not far from you in The Colony if you want to PM me and vent.
Deanna
(((((HUGS!!!!))))) I know how you feel, 4 miscarriages in 4 years. Then to have twins who are now 2 1/2 yrs old. My dh and I always wanted a big family, we just have to wait until we get to Heaven to have it. My parents said the same thing, because they don't acknowledge God, so the babies do not exist to them. We haven't talked for 6 years.
On the other hand, your cakes are beautiful! Be proud of your accomplishments and your supportive dh. You are truely blessed!
I'm sorry about the miscarriage but I'm so jealous about your dad. I wish mine wouldn't talk to me. 
YOu dad throwing a tantrum and walking out sounds like what my dad likes to do. He tells various siblings that they aren't welcome back at his house, he hasn't said it to me in years. Probably because he knows that the ONLY reason I talk to him is he's married to my mom still.
To put it another way if you're letting it bother you he has power over you and if he's anything like my dad that's what he wants. I know it's hard to get to that place.
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