Am I Off My Rocker?

Business By TPDC Updated 26 Jun 2007 , 9:59pm by beccakelly

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TPDC Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:05am
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I thought when doing monograms for weddings it went Female first name (initial), Last name (initial), Male first name (initial). For example Sally Johnson marries Peter Miller so the monogram would go SMP. Am I wrong?????

The town I live in seems to be doing it Male, Last name, Female. PMS (Heee Heee- sorry didn't plan that.)

I also thought that if you were writing names it went males first name and then the females? So it would be Peter and Sally. I just want to make sure I am not off my rocker. Can someone please confirm???

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Amy729 Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:13am
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No clue but I have been wondering that myself!!!

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Suzycakes Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:13am
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I think I just read a post on here a few weeks ago that said if it is before the marriage the females initial is first. AFter the marriage the males initial is first.

Confusing?? I think so!! icon_razz.gif

Let's see what everyone else says.
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freddyfl Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:15am
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Well, My Dad always says that you are never to separate a male's first name from his last name, So when addresses an envelope it should be Sally and Peter Miller. But I always thought the man came before the woman, as in the man is the head of the household type thing, so in my opinion I think it looks better to have Peter and Sally Miller. SO really what I am saying is that I am not helping LOL

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Amy729 Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:23am
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JanH - you never fail to impress me. You are an endless book of knowledge.

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idoweddingcookies Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:23am
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TPDC Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:27am
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I am glad to see that I am not the only one that doesn't understand this whole monogram thing. Hopefully someone will have the answer for us!!!

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TPDC Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:28am
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Alright, can you tell I am on dial-up!!! Thank you JanH!!!

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beccakelly Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:33am
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Well, My Dad always says that you are never to separate a male's first name from his last name, So when addresses an envelope it should be Sally and Peter Miller. But I always thought the man came before the woman, as in the man is the head of the household type thing, so in my opinion I think it looks better to have Peter and Sally Miller. SO really what I am saying is that I am not helping LOL





ya know, about the envelope thing (i know this is a little off topic) but it really bugs me when someone addresses it to mr and mrs guy kelly. (my DH name). so not only am i expected to give up my last name upon marriage, now my first name is absorbed into his? its like losing my entire identity! i now refuse to read letters addressed that way, and i let people know that if they are writing me a letter they need to address it properly. it really irritates me!

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KayDay Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 4:34am
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Ok....I now feel mildly stupid. I was never sure...so I always ask the bride and groom how they want it. They usually want his initial first....I have a 200 wedding cookie job next month where his name is Andrew hers is Karen, last name.(changed for privacy) Jones...they want a small A large J small K.

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Alligande Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 9:46pm
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ya know, about the envelope thing (i know this is a little off topic) but it really bugs me when someone addresses it to mr and mrs guy kelly. (my DH name). so not only am i expected to give up my last name upon marriage, now my first name is absorbed into his? its like losing my entire identity! i now refuse to read letters addressed that way, and i let people know that if they are writing me a letter they need to address it properly. it really irritates me!




Unfortunately it is the correct (or traditional) way to address mail to both of you, even worse is the traditional way of addressing the wife as Mrs John Smith and not using her name at all. I did not change my name and just accept the fact the fact that invites etc come in my nonexistent married name

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beccakelly Posted 26 Jun 2007 , 9:59pm
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ya know, about the envelope thing (i know this is a little off topic) but it really bugs me when someone addresses it to mr and mrs guy kelly. (my DH name). so not only am i expected to give up my last name upon marriage, now my first name is absorbed into his? its like losing my entire identity! i now refuse to read letters addressed that way, and i let people know that if they are writing me a letter they need to address it properly. it really irritates me!



Unfortunately it is the correct (or traditional) way to address mail to both of you, even worse is the traditional way of addressing the wife as Mrs John Smith and not using her name at all. I did not change my name and just accept the fact the fact that invites etc come in my nonexistent married name




ya, thats exactly what i mean! these obnoxious, sexist traditions need to disappear. we should be way beyond this type of stuff by now.

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