The is sort of a distaster. I love to do cakes, really cant get enough of it, but lately i dont even care anymore. my dh got hurt at work and i had to take another job, so now i do office work all day, go home for an hour, then wait tables at night. office work 5 days a week, waitress 7 days a week. i never see the kids, or him and i am always exausted. i stopped advertising my cakes cause i really have no time, and that really irks me. i have no creative outlet. we are hoping that he will get a big enough settlement that we can open our place, but for now when people ask me to make a cake i just say im booked. i did a bridal show 4 months ago and got the list of attending brides and never even contacted any of them. also when i get a message for a wedding cake i just say im booked. i feel awful cause i love to do it, but i have to work. we are barely scraping by now. anyone ever feel like this?
Wow! That puts my life into perspective, I only thought I was stressed!
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this set-back right now. I'm hoping that the stress you are under will only be short term. I truly believe that things happen for a reason, and hopefully he will be able to get the settlement so you can open your own shop. I'm sure your family knows the sacrifices you are making for them right now, and your kids will understand that Mommy needs to work to help supprt the family.
Take it one day at a time for now. Cakes are my outlet for stress, as I think from this post it may be yours as well. Working 2 jobs you have to find that free moment for yourself, even if it's just a quiet bubble bath! Saying that you are booked may work to your advantage in the future, people will think you stay very busy with cakes...and hopefully soon that will be the truth again!
You are in my thoughts, I hope everything works out for the best for your family in the not to distant future!
Bless you,
glenda
thank you for your kind words. hubby got hurt almost 2 years ago. he was getting workers compansation but a few months ago they cut the payment in half in roder to try to force him to take a small settlement. so thats when i had to take the 2nd job. i have been dealing with this for 2years and i really dont know how much longer i can do it. sometime i resent the fact that he just sits home. yes he feeds the kids dinner and puts then on the bus in the morning but all day he has to himself. while i am killing myself. i am just so tired. i see no end in site. they recently offered him 40,000 dollars to settle, but if he was working by retirement he would have earned 2.4 million. so we want at least 250,000. am i wrong to be mad at him for not being able to work??
I don't think you're mad at him, probably just the situation. Please keep in mind, he is most likely as frustrated as you are! I feel really guilty saying that I am a stay home Mom (I find myself very lucky for that). However, there are days when I resent my husband for the fact that he is able to leave the house.
You can't help what you feel - and I know I would also feel some resentment if I had to work 2 jobs, give up time with my children and my joy of cake decorating! While it may not be his fault that he was hurt and unable to continue that job, is he able to do something else - under the table even - like bake the cake orders for you to decorate? Just to take the pressure off you - can't imagine working 8 hr then standing on my feet for another 8 (or even 1) hours!! Can you hire a lawyer on a commission basis to fight the insurance company and settle earlier? Whatever you do don't give up the fight - the insurance company is counting on that! Just picture they're smiles when you settle for 1/4 of what your entitled to - hang onto whatever inspires you to stick it out, your not going thru this hell just to back down now!
Please consider consulting a lawyer to take up the fight for you on a commission - they may cost a little, but they'll fight for more and settle sooner allowing you to get back to your happy family life - and your joy of decorating.
Either way don't be too hard on yourself for feeling the way you do, it's natural. I think you've shown more 'umph' than alot of people I know, they would have been screaming and yelling the whole time and never even considered taking a second job - as a matter of fact I know a couple of ladies that probably would have gotten a divorce lawyer before they let go of their own selfishness! You stay strong and I truly admire your character, and the love your showing for your family - thoughts and prayers are with you - I'll throw in a curse word for the insurance company while I'm at it 
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decorating dingbat, your words of encourgement brought tears to my eyes. we do have a lawyer, but it is still taking a long time. he will get 15% of the settlement so i hope he will push for the most. Last year i let him bake a cake for me and never again, it had so many hard flour balls in it, and it was ruined. he is just a big construction guy, doesnt have the ump to do baking. maybe i jsut need a god long cry, to release this frustration. on top of all this my daughter will be 13 soon and is giving me such a hard time about everything!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH will it ever end??
Well, guess helping with the baking is out then - lol! My hubby is a big guy too (office/computer geek though), but man can he bake! Makes me angry sometimes actually, I work at it and turn out 'okay' items. He walks in, and with no recipe or measuring, pulls things off his shoes that taste great ... he can't decorate though - ha,ha.
I'm not sure what to say about the 13yr old (mine are 21, 19, 4 and 2yrs), that's the age that they can't see outside of their own drama. Whenever I felt resentful, I would take comfort in the thought that he's receiving a crash course in adolescent girls - 
! If you get angry or resentful at both of them one day, just ground her to the house for a week = with the understanding that he had better back up your decision - he may find a way to keep you home full time after that! 
lol. well school ends this week so he is in for a heck of a summer. Thank you for your kind words. i nneded them.
Oh wow, you're really in the thick of it now. But try to hang on. I noticed you lost a hell of a lot of weight as well, that doesn't make your nerves that strong either. Easy to feel tired. If you need to vent, we are all here. The time will come, when you can do all the decorating you want, and then probably you'll have so much to do, that you need to vent again, grin. Keeping my fingers crossed, that the insurance will come through soon
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