Mother In Law From Heck.... Someone Calm Me Down.
Decorating By carflea Updated 12 May 2006 , 9:36pm by S1eepygrl
Well they(inlaws)/us are throwing a engagement party for my sister in law (her daughter) in July. SInce i just took the classes and have been practicing my cake skills i voulenteered to do the cake. I'm so excited because i came up with a theme that would match the couples life... I drew up a design and pasted it up on my fridge and started to show it off...
YESTERDAY.... she looks at it then comes up and tells me all about the cool ideas she saw on TV and how i should do that because it would look neat. 
Thank god for my hubby because he instantly yelled that i already had a plan. 
What can i do to stop her from suggesting something "better" (in her mind)
Should i kick her? 
I'm doing this as a gift/favor to the new couple. An expression of my love and excitement for them. It's not like she requested or ordered a cake. I offered to do it. This is something that i enjoy and i'm being creative so i don't want my stink head of a in law ruining it.
Mantras, creative suggestions, and well wishes needed 
It it's your gift to the couple then it should be your creation. Your DH deserves a pat a big hug for putting her in her place. If MIL wants something else tell her she is welcome to do one too (that should shut her up). Good luck and be sure to post a photo when it's completed.
Maybe we have the same MIL because mine is always right and has ALL the BEST ideas!!! 
I say go with what you think or what the couple your are do the cake for thinks. After all you are the one doing all the work and they are the ones who want the cake. Just my opinion though! Good luck!!
What are you getting her for Mother's Day 
MIL's -- you gotta luv 'em AND learn to deep breath! <grin> Sounds like your husband will stick up for you -- if that continues, I would just double-check with SIL and make certain she is OK with the design. If so, just grin, smile, nod your head, repeat "we'll see" and and then go back to your plan. As you stated, this is not for your MIL but for your SIL. Good luck!
Now Now.. make her a chocolate cake.. just melt ex lax and use it in the frosting on the cake! She'll never know what hit her!!!!!!!
I would definitely stick to my guns! Besides, as stated above, it's a gift. I would definitely make a Mother's Day cake for her and rub it in her face. (you know, not actually rub it in her face-although you would be thinking of it in your head-I can see it now) hehehe! I'm so happy your husband butted in and said something. That is awesome! Good luck!
~Josie 
Should i kick her?
YES
I get the feeling some of you talking evil (love it!!!) are speaking from experience!!! 
I need to see this poo cake!!!!
Maybe we have the same MIL because mine is always right and has ALL the BEST ideas!!!
I say go with what you think or what the couple your are do the cake for thinks. After all you are the one doing all the work and they are the ones who want the cake. Just my opinion though! Good luck!!What are you getting her for Mother's Day
Have you borrowed my MIL? Mine was at my house today going through one of my yearbooks giving me all these "great" ideas on how to alter the cakes and the woman has never decorated a cake in her life. She does this on a regular basis and then is always telling me that my cakes are missing something or I should do something different.
Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hmmmm.. I don't have that problem, I see my mil regularly, she's always coming into the business we own . But we don't even speak to each other. If she's been to my house, it's only been once when I wasn't there, and me going to her house.... not hardly. When we announced I was pregnant with our child, she said "By who?". She claimed she was joking, but since then we don't speak.
Oh, I forgot to say, I don't know if we've calmed you down, but you definately are not alone!
Well...........I first really want to say that you should be glad that you have a mil. Why??? Well, I guess b/c my dh's mother passed a year before we were married. And, trust me...me & her had already had it out.......she smoked like a freight train (about 3 cartons a week) and I wouldnt' allow my infant son to be around that.
But, on the other hand....lol.....it is YOUR gift, right? You volunteered, that means that you volunteered YOUR idea...not anyone elses. ANd, I'm sure they will love it. If mil is "in charge" of a particular thing, remind her that your not trying to change that, why is she trying to change this? It's not like it's their wedding cake or anything!!!!!
Wow! mmdd just made me think what it will be like for you if you make the wedding cake....scarey!!!
Haha, I'd just give her a great big grin, tell her how great all her ideas are, and then show up with a cake done EXACTLY how you want it done!
Don't let this start a war. Your husband will be the one pulled in two directions, and you don't want to do that to him.
My MIL and I aren't friends but we aren't enemies. It's like a weird, chilly, very polite dislike. Very strange. Thankfully she lives 3 hours away.
Here is my arm chair psychology advise. When someone criticsizes or gives you advise that is not wanted in the way of suggestions or otherwise. Put on that sacharin smile and ask " Have I done something that makes you think I am incapable( of using good judgement)? If I have let me know." If they continue on with an unwanted suggestion etc. Then the next step is to invite them over to help. Really help, like hand them the pastry bag and let them have a go at it. You could also give her a cupcake or a 6" cake and tell her to feel free to come up with ideas. It is well worth it. You set up boundaries in a very illustrative way. Is this too harsh??
Here is my arm chair psychology advise. When someone criticsizes or gives you advise that is not wanted in the way of suggestions or otherwise. Put on that sacharin smile and ask " Have I done something that makes you think I am incapable( of using good judgement)? If I have let me know." If they continue on with an unwanted suggestion etc. Then the next step is to invite them over to help. Really help, like hand them the pastry bag and let them have a go at it. You could also give her a cupcake or a 6" cake and tell her to feel free to come up with ideas. It is well worth it. You set up boundaries in a very illustrative way. Is this too harsh??
I agree, let her give it a try and see what she comes up with. Not too harsh at all.
ha ha you guys are funny. partsgirl25 the SIL actually wants me to make her wedding cake. OK the wedding will be in the mountains in California and i live in Wisconsin... Hmm how would that work. If i lived there i totally would but .... I'm also in the wedding party AAAAH!
Ouch! In the mountains? Damn!
Just make what you want, provided SIL likes it. After all, it's YOUR GIFT to the couple. So what if MIL thinks she can do better! You have an awesome DH on your hands too.
Oh, I'm all for giving her the tools and see what she can do....and make her a totally beautiful Mother's Day cake too!
Thankfully, my MIL and I get along just fine. She's an artist, so I call her when I'm unsure of how to make a particular color!
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