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Decorating By Helendelk Updated 4 May 2006 , 5:03am by bush1
I know you are in a very difficult spot right now. It is so hard to know what to do. If I were in that situation I don't know for sure what I would do but I am inclined to say go with your husband. There is always going to be the 'what if' but something can happen if you are in Tulsa or in Florida.
What do the doctors say? Have they given you any idea what they think is going happen?
I am very sorry for all you are going through. Just know you have lots of prayers going up on your behalf.
C
My prayers are with you, your family and good ole Jimmy.
Oh, Helendelk!!!! What a time you are going through. Just remember God's promise that he will not test you beyond what you can endure! Keep your faith. Prayers your way!!!!!!! God bless all of you......
As far as your trip, what do YOU want to do?? If you want to go, you should go and know that your absence will not cause harm to your dad physically. If you want to stay, and your hubby is worried about the non refundable tickets, ask him if his father is worth $400 to him. Gosh, that sounded so much more harsh than I meant, but I can't think of any other way to say it. You should do what YOU want and know you love your dad either way. Just be at peace with your decision. If you do not have peace with it in your heart now, you probably never will. God Bless you!!!!! Keep us posted!!!!
Love, Donna
It is very hard when other family members won't share the care of loved ones. They don't seem to realise how lonely and boring it can be in hospital. I remember from the times having my babies how much a happy face can cheer up the day in hospital. And the good friends and family can tell when you are too tired and leave before exhaustion sets in.
I wish I was there to help!
You do need to look after yourself and the baby, maybe the holiday is what you need. Your dad would not want you hurting yourself to spend time with him when I am sure he knows how you feel about him. I bet your hubby is worried about all 3 of you!
My thoughts are with all of you! Sometimes I wish life was like that tv show "House", where he comes up with a brilliant remedy to every strange medical condition presented to him. I hope there is a "House MD" out there for you.
Helen,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Did you try to reschedule the trip, maybe if you talk to the right person, they would have some sypathy and allow you to postpone the trip. I know when my dad was in the hospital, with cancer,and he was not doing so well my sister went on a trip she had planned, and she had a terrible time. She was so worried about my dad that she couldn't enjoy herself..She said she felt so bad leaving..If you can't reschedule it, maybe someone like one of your husbands friends could take your place..
But you should do what you want to do, if you feel that the trip will help you then go..Talk to his Doctor, and tell him about the trip, ask him what he thinks..If there are any nurses you have bonded with, you could ask them to take extra special care of him while you are gone.. I hope things turn out OK, I know what it's like to be so stressed about your Dad..
JoAnn
hi Helen! It felt like deja vu when I was reading your update. I was going through a similar situation with my 78 year old mother a few weeks back. she has congestive heart disease and has an artificial valve. she developed a urinary tract infection which progressed to a kidney infection, which progressed to a blood infection among other things. she is allergic to most antibiotics out there so they were having a tough time controlling the infection. it had actually started to affect her heart and she too needed a blood transfusion since her platelet count was so low. she was hospitalized for a few weeks. she is home now but very weak and is still dealing with complications but nothing so serious that she can't stay home.
so...i really feel for you. i know how frustrating and scary this can be. keep your faith and know that God has a perfect plan for each of us and that miracles can and do happen everyday. I will keep you, your family and your Dad in my thoughts and prayers. please take care of yourself and do take some time each day to unwind and take care of YOU!
i can't decide for you with regards to your trip but knowing how things change rather quickly when people are ill, especially when their condition is so unstable, i probably would pass on the trip. yes $400 may be a lot of money but it is only money. i think being there for your family is more important. look ahead 10 years from now, what do you think you will regret, not taking the trip or not being there in case (GOD FORBID) your dad takes a turn for the worse? not tying to be pessimistic or negative, just trying to look at the big picture.
sprry for the long reply. please do keep us posted. God Bless you!
ria
My thoughts and prayers are with you , your Dad and the rest of your family.
first, my prayers are with you.
second, helplessness hurts!!
third, and when feeling helpless, that's that time to give it to God.
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my own persepective--no matter what you do, God is in control, all will happen work out according to his plan.
how I've seen this:
one time I was leading a tour of HS students to London. got a phone call that dad had taken gravely ill, not expected to live. so mad dash back across "the pond" through NYC and on to Tampa. Dad in ICU on ventelator. Doctor advised, take him off and let him go peacefully (dad had left advanced directive saying yes that's what he wanted). So we took him off and he recovered (well, as best a Parkinson's victim can) and live nearly another 12 years before dying peacefully in his sleep 15 months after mom died.
was teaching and had a big choral concert coming up (singer) and got a call mom was deathly ill. Knew this would be coming tho' as it was only a few weeks after Christmas break when I had last seen her and knew time was growing short. Call came Sat. evening, concert was Sun. afternoon. Sang in concert and promptly left Chicago for Tampa. Next morning, hospice nurse gave my sis and I list of "we need this...." so off we went to dutifully shop for the items which wouldn't be use as mom died while we were shopping (somehow fitting considering she never missed an opportunity to shop, find a bargain or hit a rummage sale). Staying--going, neither would have made a difference. She left, as did dad, when God called.
we so want to hold on and not let go. but remember....
Let go, let God.
Helen,
My heart goes out to you and your family. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Please, when you get a chance, let us know how things are going.
im sorry to hear about the trubles that you are going thru ......Im sure that im not much help but dont give up...like other have said miracles are out there....when my grandmother passed away from cancer they told us all that my granfather would go right behide her because he loved her so much ..... 12 kids between them i would say so ..... he lived 23 years after she passed away and not once did he look at another woman .....boy would he drink and cry for her its sweet in a sad way.....
I think it was because everyone always made him feel like they needed him so he couldnt go...... My mom and my aunts 6 girls in all would take turns and pick him up each day and run errands and luch and whats ever just talk for 23 years this went on..... They say people hold on if they feel they need too! i believe this is true i moved away my husband was in the military and after not seeing my grandfather for 5 months i went to see him the 1st day i came back home he smiled big and gave me the biggest hug and kiss and told me he loved me(he always said i was his favorite out of 45 grandkids).....he died that night..... peacefully in his sleep. sorry for ramblimng but my point is if your there and you show you need him and he needs you as well as your sister and family he may hold on ......I tell everyone you never know with all the advances in medicine today you get over the hurdle before you know it thou it seems like a long road...... I have been a cancer survivor been in remission twice ....this last time they say it moved into my chest but I dont think about it much because i know my daughter needs me and before you know it after they find it and treat it I will be Ok.
Stay positve and im think of you
Nancy
Hugs to you Helen. How frustrating for you to be going through this. I will pray for your family, especially your dad. And a few that your aunts and uncles will come to their senses and give you a little encouragement. Hopefully things turn around for your father. Who knows what God's plan is. That is so awful for you to have to go through this especially so soon after losing your mom. Tomorrow is the seventh anniversary of losing my dad so I know how hard it is to see a parent so sick. I hope everything turns out well. God bless.
Noelle
Just reading this post today. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You have to have faith that things will work out according to God's plan, whatever that may be. Remember that God will never give you more than you can handle. As far as your trip, I personally think that your husband will understand if you decide not to go. I believe that if you go you will spend the majority of your time worrying about your dad and will not enjoy your trip. In addition, if something happens while you are away you may end up resenting your husband. Please keep everyone updated and it is an honor to be a shoulder for you to cry on and ears to listen to you vent.
Just a quick update on things & went on my trip.. I so needed it. I just had to get a way. They basically have kept my dad sedated the entire time I was gone due to him being so upset thinking we had forgotten about him even tho I called 2-3 times a day. the weekend before I left my newborn niece got real sick and was put in hospital with 105.7 fever and that was a HUGE scare but she is doing better and got home the day I left on my trip. As far as my dad is doing, the nurse just tells me he is stable and they are keeping him comfortable but couldnt tell me anymore than that. I am on my way back to OKC tomorrow to see what exactly keeping him comfortable means, but just wanted to update real quick and get my quick CC fix..Ugh I so miss my computer and CC so much but life calls..
P.S. Trip was ok spent a lot of time worrying but still tried to have some fun .. got burnt pretty bad but red heads, water, and sunlight just dont mix to well..lol Swimming with the dolphins was AMAZING! Took my mind off everything for a few minutes then I swam back into reality... 
An eye popper..lol
Thanks again for your support and prayers.. See you in a week or so...
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