I love to bake and really don't have time for a hobby but my DH is really pushing me about doing cakes because I love it so much.

But I'm so tried of hearing "Mommy way can't you just buy a cake instead of making one?" I don't know why they keep asking me this, they love my cakes.

I never get anytime to my self and I need this and I don't need anyone making me feel bad just because I want to bake a cake. I do most of my baking when the older ones are at school so way would they ever care what I do when there not here.

Does anyone else get this from there kids or family?

FYI, my kids are 10, 8, 7, 6, 5, 3 & 2

Yes, my kids love to look at store cakes whenever we go to the store. My oldest spent a few years terribly jealous of the other kids who get the store cakes until he started realising that my cakes taste better.

We did it to my mom too because she did cakes and it wasn't until we were older that we appreciated it.

I think it's normal for kids to want what they don't have so just ignore them.

My Goodness, How do you find time to even go to the bathroom much less bake and decorate cakes. LOL I think that your dh is great for encouraging you to do what you love. As for the kids, tell them they get to choose their hobbies and you get to choose yours. They are jealous of you doing something for someone besides them and they are just kids. Give them a day with DAD and enjoy yourself.

you can't let a chile hurt your feelings - they don't know what they are saying

Why not give them a deal... they are nice and quiet while mommy bakes...then before bed, mommy will play a game with them or something they like doing.

my husband acts like that (sorry I dont have kids) I'll try some new technique or create a new design and he'll tell me it looks like crap or says "what if people just say they like your cakes so your feelings wont get hurt?" I think he's the one doing the damage to my feelings! I dont know why he says that stuff, because when Im not around he is talking up my cakes like Im some kind of cake diva! He's the one that brings in most of my busisness!

My sister has 6, and she has developed the buddy system. The older ones help with the littler ones. Hers are 14, 13, 11, 8, 6, and 2 I think it's wonderful that you are doing something for you. I have 3 myself and sometime I wonder HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO ___________ fill in the blank. If they are complaining about wanting store bought cakes...get them one. Let them see for themselves how spoiled they are with Moms cake. Nothing beats homemade!

I have three and another on the way (all boys) and I do most of my work after bedtime and during naptime...some baking while they are up but that's about it.

u are a strong women I have two 13 and 5 ..no way, i could see myself with 7 i tip my hat off to you........

Boy, did this bring back memories!
When my sister and I were little, my Mom always made our Barbie clothes. We loved looking through the little booklets of outfits that all of our other freind had. Never mind the fact that we had beautiful hand beaded wedding gowns, wool "Jackie Kennedy (boy am I dating myself) suit complete with pill box hats, and we even had real mink stoles!! We just wanted what everyone else had, we didn't want to be different. I still have most of the clothes she made ( I would rather have her!), and I wouldn't give anything for them!!
In the future, they will appericate the wonder job Mom did for them!
Hang in there!!

You have seven children? I really think that's GREAT!!!! Congrats to you on that, you have truely been blessed. I'll bet Christmas is fun at your house. I only have 3, all boys....and one doesn't like cake, he wants store bought cheese cake. )ok Costco's not bad) ...the youngest doesnt like frosting...(WHO'S kids ARE they?) and the oldest is a a teenager and eats anything put in front of him. But they all do the same thing with cleaning....wait till dad gets home... or My favorite when asked to do some clean up is...."Who's coming over?"

looking at the time scale, the next bundle of joy is due anytime now. Make your hubby get a hobby and leave you alone! I'm just joking.How on earth do you even have the time or energy to do cakes? Your kids see how much goes into them and they want every ounce of your attention to themselves. Little ones are selfish like that. That's why they say you have to sacrifice so much when you have them. Could you maybe give them some icing, throw newspaper on the floor and maybe they can decorate some crackers while you do your decorating?
I feel your pain by the way. Keep your chin up and your crativity flowing.

I guess my kids are different..they are young, but they are enthralled with the cake process and brag to their friends that their mom makes the best cakes. The only thing that would make them happier is if I let them help...but I don't have the patience yet....maybe when they are older!

You deserve an award for mothering all those kids. Tell them that you need some time to yourself, and to give you some space in the kitchen. I'm sure they get plenty of your time and attention otherwise.

So what do you do for entertainment?

My kids hurt my feelings over cake at times too. I have 3 - 11, 9 & 6. They didn't like it when I started taking the Wilton classes and made a stink about me leaving to go. They made an even bigger stink when I had to do my "homework" for class. I almost stopped going because of them, but my DH encouraged me to keep going for me. The kids aren't used to you focusing on something for you. They will get used to it - mine finally are. Hang in there.

10, 8, 7, 6, 5, 3, 2......


i bet i can tell you what your hobby is

no wonder you have no time.

you go girl

Hi pj, glad to see you post, and welcome

Is there anyway that DH could take the kids for a few hours 1 nite a week while you are at a class? Then possibly get the older kids involved (while the little ones are napping)...teach them what you learned and practice together. That way, they are occupied, you get done what you want and need to, and they are still near you but not in the way. Who knows, maybe you could turn this into a family business later on down the line.

Hi! You might want to try to include the kids in your baking. I am the oldest of 5 siblings and I've been baking ever since I can remember because my mom and my Gran included me in their baking. At Christmas mom would give us a pile of cookie cutters some dough to roll out and left us to ourselves while she did the "good" baking! For my 8th birthday party my mom didn't have it in the budget to buy a cake so she made a plain cake and made royal icing deco's and let us do it our selves. Every single inch was covered when we were through and we had a blast doing it! I'm a pastry cook now and I love to teach my youngest brother who is 12 and a boy I sit for who is 5. They love to bake because they see how fun it can be. If you could show your kids how fun it is to do cakes maybe they'll grow out of asking for a store bought one!
Sorry this got kinda long but I hope it helps!
~Truly

I know how it is when you have kids around all the time. It used to be that way for me too. It took my youngest getting into kindergarten for me to have a minute to myself. I know you don't want to wait that long! I agree with trying to take a class and having your DH or a neighbor, family member, etc. watch the kids for you. It is important to arrange the time to do something you love for you! Good Luck!

(Thanks for the welcome! )

WOW 7 kids. I have 2 and keep 2 more during the week and that makes my head spin.

I won't worry to much about it. They are just kids.

My mom used to always make our cakes and Halloween costumes when we were little. We always begged to have store bought ones. So finally she gave in and started buying from the store. I wish she would have continued to have homemade so she could have taught me sooner.

Thanks everyone for the kind words. About DH helping out some, well I hate to ask because he does work hard. 6 days a week, he leaves here (m-f) and drops off the kids at school at 7:15am than gets back home about 6:20pm, Saturday he leaves here about 8am and than back by 6pm. He spends all day Sunday with us.

DH did say that if this hobby turned into a job (he's really pushing for me to open a bakery) than we would put the younger kids in day care or get a nanny, so he's willing to help in anyway he can. Next school year I'll have 5 in school and 1 in pre-k and only 1 at home. Anyone in north TX want to open a bakery with me, LOL?