Am I Mean For Not Telling Someone About This Website?
Decorating By birdgirl Updated 18 Mar 2007 , 2:24am by Michelle104
I have had dealings with another lady here that does cakes from her home--illegally and she knows it. She posts advertising and hands out business cards left and right to everyone to get business. She found out I started doing cakes-legally mind you and didn't talk to me for months--except when it came time to sell stuff for her kid--cookies, pizzas, pastries you name it. We were also invited to the kids birthday party--didn't go but still gave a gift. The day of his birthday she calls wanting food coloring since she was out--I was too but she acted like I lied about it. She appears at the door a couple of days ago selling again and asking lots of questions about what I had been doing and she heard I did cookies. Then it was how much do you charge? What recipe do you use? How do you do this on and on. Long story short I almost said something about this site and then the devil kicked in and told myself let her find it herself! 
Is it bad I don't want to tell her? I am tired of answering her questions.
birdgirl, it'll be our "little" secret 
I know what you mean about telling someone that wants to do the same thing your secret. I had a friend that thought she wanted to start making cakes and I told her that I wasn't comfortable teaching her because this is what I wanted to do for a business. I was going to tell her about this site too but I stopped short. I thought I was evil too! 
But I thought, ya know when I first started I was in the bookstore & online looking for what I needed to know and found this site. No one came and put it in my lap. Maybe I was being selfish. But I think if you tell people how to do what you do, what's the point in being in business?
I hope I don't get flamed, I'm really not a mean person I swear!
I tell others to come here a lot, but few actually do. They expect me to help them--not find it themselves. If she wanted info. she could find CC easily enough. That said if she was nice and wasn't trying to pick your brain for info that she could use for her business then I would have told her. CC is a wonderful place and if she really wanted some killer info. she'd do a search and find the site.
I thought it was just me!! I NEVER give away my "secrets" to people who are obviously looking to become competition OR those who think they can do it themselves to save a few bucks!! I learned the hard way, buying books and researching. I will not just give it all away to someone who hasn't earned it! Don't feel bad, cause if you do then I' ll feel worse for not feeling bad 
I am sorry to ask but it is frustrating that she asks me a ton of questions when I haven't done this very long and she claims to have been decorating for 12 years. I figure I have done a lot of research on becoming legal and have learned a lot by spending some time on the computer--it is irritating to have someone expecting to give them information when they have as much or more time to look themselves. Maybe someday I will give the secret up!
she already know about this site and has probably already read this thread!
HEY! WAIT A SECOND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just had a party for my kid........and was selling stuff door to door.......and.........
hmmmmm....................................
(just kidding!)
I think when I started cake classes I did my research to get into to them to find supplies and sales and spending many hours online I also found cake central if she really wants to know she should do the same, nothing fell onto my lap either, when someone plans to sell cakes for a business is rude for anyone to ask how to do this and that I would let her find out for herself snicky little her, it really doesn't take that much to find cc
she already know about this site and has probably already read this thread!
HEY! WAIT A SECOND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just had a party for my kid........and was selling stuff door to door.......and.........
hmmmmm....................................
(just kidding!)
Sorry I had to edit... I was laughing too hard to type. To funny!!!
You didnt lie, you just didnt offer up info. Trust me the lady knows about the internet and that you can find stuff on it. She probably wanted to know more about how YOUR business was doing than have technical questions answered.
Just a thought
~Alicia
ccwkg - what do you mean you had to edit? Edit what? I've seen other people mention that they edited something, but what??
In the upper right hand corner of your post you can edit what you typed..great for typos and misspellings.
I wouldn't have told her either. I don't do cakes anymore. Just for my kids and MAYBE for my twin nephews. I do make treats for my kids to take to school. That said. There is a girl @ my daughters school whose mom "owns" a bakery. I told my daughter to get the name of it for me. The reason being if her cakes are good I could refer people to her that want me to do there cakes. I'm not a "legal" bakery. I'm guessing she is. This I thought was nice. The girl gave my daughter a bogus name. This goes to show that some people are iggnorant. I wouldn't have told her either.!
This makes me think back and wonder how I found out about CC. I can't even remember. I know that it wasn't from someone telling me. I just found it by chance but I don't know what I was doing to come across it. It certainly has changed my life. At one time I tore myself away from the PC to do housework and visit with friends. Now I spend all my time glued to CC.
I'm not really THAT addicted yet but I think I am getting there!
Diane
birdgirl, sorry my tickle got us a little off subject. I just wanted to let you know that I don't think you are mean at all!! If you were not a nice person you would have not even cared and you wouldn't be here asking this question. Sometimes it is so hard to offer something that is as wonderful as CC to someone who obviously wasn't there for your best interest. I completely understand!! 
lionladydi, My husband was doing a search for me one day and found this site. When he told me about it I told him I didn't have time to be playing on the internet. Little did I know.......
I have had dealings with another lady here that does cakes from her home--illegally and she knows it. She posts advertising and hands out business cards left and right to everyone to get business. She found out I started doing cakes-legally mind you and didn't talk to me for months--except when it came time to sell stuff for her kid--cookies, pizzas, pastries you name it. We were also invited to the kids birthday party--didn't go but still gave a gift. The day of his birthday she calls wanting food coloring since she was out--I was too but she acted like I lied about it. She appears at the door a couple of days ago selling again and asking lots of questions about what I had been doing and she heard I did cookies. Then it was how much do you charge? What recipe do you use? How do you do this on and on. Long story short I almost said something about this site and then the devil kicked in and told myself let her find it herself!
Is it bad I don't want to tell her? I am tired of answering her questions.
I've had people who I'm not so quick to help out even though I'm usually quite happy to help anybody out. Some people rub me the wrong way and I had an incident last Fall which I won't go into where I deeply regretted giving someone any information on anything at all (cake related.) Perhaps I'm getting jaded in my old age, but I do understand how you feel, I've been there and I'm having another situation similar (sort of) to yours. My response: There's a lot of information on the internet. Period. Nobody told me about CC and few were willing to help me learn the trade. The information is accessible, let her dig for it. 
I am sorry to ask but it is frustrating that she asks me a ton of questions when I haven't done this very long and she claims to have been decorating for 12 years. I figure I have done a lot of research on becoming legal and have learned a lot by spending some time on the computer--it is irritating to have someone expecting to give them information when they have as much or more time to look themselves. Maybe someday I will give the secret up!
naaa...don't tell her...she could find it herself if she really wanted to.
nuttin wrong with holding your cards close to your chest...ha ha ha....the colonel didn't tell anyone his secret herbs and spices!
it seems like if you get a little success there are a ton of people tryin to hook thier coboose up to your proverbial train...looking for the free ride....the only thing is...they are usually the ones not willing to do what it takes to get where you got.
and i find the amount of years you've been doing this has very little to do with the talent that a person has.
lionladydi, My husband was doing a search for me one day and found this site. When he told me about it I told him I didn't have time to be playing on the internet. Little did I know.......
And just how many times has your husband kicked himself since he found this site for you?
Diane
...and i find the amount of years you've been doing this has very little to do with the talent that a person has.
Boy you got that right! 
and i find the amount of years you've been doing this has very little to do with the talent that a person has.
This is so VERY true. There is a woman near me that has been in business for more than 20 years and ALL of her cakes are basic, boring and bland.
As rude as some people may think this is, there is no way I would tell her about CC. I know I found it doing a search for something (and have been here ever since), no one told me about it. She may use CC to get all of the really great tips and do her best to put you out of business, or she may get on here and be like the rest of us where you never see her in person again unless she is testing out some tip or trick that she has learned.
And just how many times has your husband kicked himself since he found this site for you?
Diane
He's actually pretty ok with it. He has his sports forums and I have CC. I think we are probably pretty even. He does pick on me though, when he is on our computer, I will go to my daughters room and get on hers. That's when I hear the word junkie. 
I wouldn't tell her either. Maybe that sounds mean but I have just inherited some recipes form a man who used to own his own bakery and am not alowed to give them out as the condition for receiving them. Some people will just not give up some secrets but that is not always a bad thing. Is it?
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