Metabea: I totally get your point and the reason for you being upset.
And for some of you who say...um..you really can't get upset if she didn't buy the cake...well...put yourself in her shoes. I mean seriously, if you bought girl scout cookies, and alot of them, and other items from neighbor kids ....you would at least expect that they would support your business....its common decency.
And Metabea,sometimes around here one person says a negative thing and the rest jump on the bandwagon...you really have to learn to ignore "the few" members who do this....most of us do.
RisqueBusiness wrote:
There are too many LARGER battles in life than worrying about WHO buys or doesn't buy your cake.
Ummm..this may be true, but it is a cake website....and what do we discuss? Cake!! So while it might not be important in the great scheme of things...its very relevant to the subject of the site...cake!
You can't count on that sort of 'promise', take it from an old lady. Yes it hurts, people can be so consumed by their own lives that it never occurs to them that they are being hurtful.
Try to feel better, Hon. Things really DO have a way of working out...Blessings
Metabea,
I'm so sorry that you've had to go through so much heart ache. Your neighbors should have held up their promise and purchased cakes from you. If I Were you, I would talk to them about it. It wasn't right of them to treat you that way.
As for the comments made by one individual on this site that runs a bit of a Risque cake decorating Business, here is that members feelings on people baking and selling cakes from their home. I pulled this statement directly from their website:
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So you see, I wouldn't let the words of this person bother me. This person obviously has personal issues against home bakers.
This person represents only a tiny part of the population here at CC and I'm talking teeeeeeeee-tiny!!! The vast majority of the population here are warm-hearted, kind, loving and very supportive people. There is no better website out there than here at CC. Please don't let the minority of our population run you away from being a permanent member of our population. We have so much to share with you and we know that you have so much to share with us. We are all brothers and sisters here. Please stay and be a part of our family 
Hugssssssssssss,
Lazy_Susan
Metabea,
I know it is hard to not take it personally when neighbors and friends don't buy cakes from you. I have yet to have a neighbor purchase a cake from me until yesterday. At first it hurt my feelings too. I buy cookies and subscriptions from my neighbor's children sometimes. It makes me feel good to help out the kids. I am the winner in the long run. I would imagine your neighbors are uncomfortable everytime they see you. The choice they made has nothing to do with you as a person or the quality of your cakes. I have had people tell me that they had so much going on they totally forgot that I made cakes and ordered a quicky from the supermarket. They may not know how much you charge but assume since you make custom cakes they will be expensive. To avoid embarrassment of having to say they can't afford them they just get a cheap cake at the supermarket.
Because you are an artist of sorts you will always take the rejection personally but the rewards from the praise you get when you light up someone's face with a cake will far outweigh the rejection. You are the better person and you know it and that is all that counts. You don't need to find a way to get back at them through the back door or front door. They will come around and if not, there are lots and lots of other people that will need cake.
As far as the CC members that have a negative attitude? There are so many more positive and caring members please stay and contribute as well as benefit from those who truly want to help. I have had my feelings hurt by some of the same ones. I posted when I needed encouragement and advice and I got lectures too.
People like Stephanie214 is a good example of the many members that put in so much time to make this forum what it is the majority of the time. Please give us another try. If you don't want to post in the forum feel free to PM me or others even if it is to vent to someone that knows how it feels. There are those of us that will listen and give you the encouragement you need.
Metabea,
Please make a response so we know you haven't left us. Don't worry about the negative comments - like everyone before me has said - they represent the minority of members here!! I know you totally came her looking for understanding and I am not sure why some folks feel the need to be rude - whatever happened to the golden rule anyway.....
I can totally understand about the whole neighbor thing. Maybe the other lady pestered them so much to make the cakes they gave in to her....or it could be a last minute thing....or a money thing.....I just got an email this morning from a gal who ordered a cake and then cancelled it because she said she did not have $30 in the birthday budget for one of my cakes and she was having heartache paying $17 to the commissary for one. 
I guess maybe cakes are not important to everyone like they are for us! Don't let it bug you the word will get out about your great cakes and then you will have to start turning down orders 
You only have one cake posted but it is soooo cute so don't let them get you down you know you rock
Please don't leave CC!! I may need your supoprt when my hubby leaves in a few months for Iraq!!!! 
The hardest thing for me to learn has been not to let things like the phantom cake (that's what I call it!) bother me. I've had lots of family/friends say "Oh, I want a cake for so and so coming up" but then I never hear from them. I don't really sell my cakes but it is a let down when you think you'll get to work on a cake, practic, try something new and then don't. I used to get all excited, design the cake in my head, have it all planned out and then......(chirp, chirp from the crickets!) nothing! I have my own family members that go get cakes from the store! But I learned it's not me (or you in this case!). It's just that most people just fly on auto-pilot and don't think about a beautiful, custom made cake. It's kind of one of those far out things for most people. Even though you are right under their nose!
I say relax, enjoy baking, making new cakes, trying new designs and techniques and hang out with us! Alot of us CCer's are here to give you some cake love when you need it! PM me anytime if you have a ??.
Metabea,
Please make a response so we know you haven't left us. Don't worry about the negative comments - like everyone before me has said - they represent the minority of members here!! I know you totally came her looking for understanding and I am not sure why some folks feel the need to be rude - whatever happened to the golden rule anyway.....
I sent her an email and asked her to read the latest posts supporting her but have had no response yet.
Diane
Im sure we're all guilty of it(except of course those so high on the business horse 
)
...but especially when starting out....someone makes the claim to "order" from you....your ego is stroked, your hope is up, you jump in with this faith they meant it and then they never follow through.....its so easy to get your feelings hurt or to feel let down.....you'd have to be made of concrete not to.....
I say be upset....cry , scream 
, kick 
...then laugh 
and take the lesson learned ...and keep trying. 
Dont let anyone take that from you....especially when they do it and try to hide it as "their" opinion.....its an ego trip more than anything else!
Metabea,
I am really sorry that someone has hurt your feelings here at CC. I don't know why it is that these threads go off in these mean spirited directions. I had another member hurt my feelings last night and then tell me I had an ego problem and was overly dramatic. All I can say is this is not the personality of the majority of people here. For the most part members really do try and help when someone asks a question or has a problem. If you leave because someone has been rude to you or thoughtless, who will be the loser? The rude person will still be here and they aren't going to change. You will have lost out on all of the valuable things to be learned here and the online sharing of ideas of something you love to do, cake decorating. Please reconsider and stay, I promise you the positive greatly outweighs any negative.
Whether we feel that your neighbor should have ordered from you or if you should have been upset when she didn't will probably garner opinions in both directions. The thing is, people don't think of how judgemental their words are before hitting that reply button. You have something to offer here and if you leave we will have missed out on that. We have something to offer you as well and if you leave you will miss out on that too. So don't let a few hurtful comments scare you away. Please stay and hopefully others will "play nice" and not do this to another member again.
Metabea,
I'm begging you to please stay....just because a chosen few are trouble makers please don't let them run you off. The good here far out weighs the bad. I have made so many wonderful friends here...and I consider them family. There are trouble makers here that I think they get high from starting trouble, they are not here to help, they are not here to share, they are only here to spread negativity everytime they post. They know who they are...Please don't let them win! If all the good ones like you leave it's not going to be a very good site anymore. I just ingore these people now....don't let them get to you because that is what they want!!
I totally see where you are coming from, You are building your business and had your heart set on this and I'm sorry that they did this to you. But you keep going, hang in there and I promise you will build your business up.
Your cake buddy, ~Denise
Hay all thanks for the support Maybe my first post should have been more clear and stated differently but you know how it feels when emotions get the better of you. Things get blurted out, things get left out, tangled up good thing I'm not a writer for the newspaper 
But in any case I will be lurking around don't know if I'll post anything myself ever again, but if I have an idea that someone asks "generally" for I may submit something.
I have to admit when I went to work last night I found out one of our fellow employee's is having a birthday tomorrow and they asked me to bring a cake (not paying for it but what the hay) I had to stop by here cuz can you believe it I've NEVER made a marble cake??? 
lol
I haven't added any of my other cakes because I didn't wanna clog up the web with pictures.
And from here out can we lock this post I'm actually very embarassed by it and would like to see it die
And on that note I have to get the cake frosted and into a box. 
Metabea,
I'm so glad that you are not leaving us
I would like to thank all the members who stepped up and made you feel better with their encouraging comments and member love for each other .
Per your request (don't want to embarrass you any more ) this thread is now locked.
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