Drunk Woman Attacks Cake!! Long
Decorating By Kate714 Updated 15 Feb 2007 , 7:22pm by angelas2babies
Just had to share/vent:
I trekked to Boston yesterday for my nephew's christening and I made the cake. It is a 2 hour drive...endured the ride with my 3 year old and 1 year old, along with DH, then we couldn't stay too long because we had to drive back so I could work at 6 p.m. Anyway, we're all tired and getting ready to go...my daughter is cranky because we are leaving right after we ate, and didn't get any cake. I had my coat on and was holding my son, saying goodbye, when they ask me how to cut my two-tier cake (which was a near disaster as it was) and I explain how to cut it. Everyone seems to whine that they don't know how to do it and I explain again. Finally, my SIL's drunk stepmother grabs the knife from the girl who was holding it and starts HACKING at my cake, laughing. My SIL and the other girl started yelling at her to stop and I just wanted to cover my eyes!!! I mean, people always ask if I ever get sad to see a cake that I've worked on for hours get cut and eaten and I always say, "that's what it's for" but I just felt like this woman was disrespecting my cake!!!! My SIL just emailed me to apologize for her, so that was nice, but I'm still a little annoyed about the whole thing.
Thanks for letting me vent.
What a freaking idiot!So sorry this happened to you.
Emily
Hi Kate
That's just awful! I'm so sorry that happened to you.
It's nice that your SIL apologized, but her step-mother is a grown woman (well, maybe not) and really should be making her own apologies.
Regards,
Cris.
Give yourself a while and then just laugh. 
My husband and I were just talking about this same thing happening at a wedding I did the cakes for a few years ago. I was busy cutting and serving the bride's cake with my husband standing next to me eyeing the groom's cake with a knife in his hand. I had asked if he would considering cutting it for me because the bride, a step sister in law, had not covered this part of the reception. As he was very carefully pushing the knife through my 12 layer chocolate cake, (as an engineer would do), a drunk wedding guest grabbed the knife out of his hand an insisted on helping. Three good swacks later (to the cake), my husband got the knife back and tried to cut what resembled cake slices from the massacre.
What are you going to do?!? People are strange creatures...
OH my goodness what a terrible story!! I hate that happened! You can now relate to Geoff on Ace of Cakes, when the groom & groom's men tore up the jeep cake. I'm glad you didn't slap the MIL... I wouldn't have been able to hold myself back!!
Idiot or if it was a day like today I would have shook my head and thought you poor, poor 
What a shame... drunken stepmother at a christening... sounds like there's MAJOR issues there. Don't sweat it, she made a fool of herself...
If the cake is the one I saw in the gallery, you did a fine job. 
~hugs~
What a crazy psycho!!!! 
I dunno. I might be in the minority, but . . .it's a cake. I'm not excusing bad behavior like this woman displayed, but it didn't impact you (imho) - it impacted the person hosting the party and/or whomever paid for/requested the cake.
I bring the cake, I get paid, I'm done. Enjoy it, hack at it, throw it away, whatever, I don't really care.
The hacking at the cake is rude, but I think the real issue is the drunken @ss at the party! Who drinks at a Christening? This woman needs therapy, and AA. I agree with everyone who said they feel for the SIL that has to deal with this behavior at most likely EVERY important event in her life. *sad* I do feel bad for you and the way your cake was 'dissed'. Some people just don't realize how personally we take it. I don't like to see my cakes handled roughly, unless it's a smash cake! 
Melvira, I agree about the AA thing. As soon as I saw the title of the thread, I thought, "Now there is a person who needs an AA schedule sent to them."
It is bad enough when a man gets that way, when a woman gets like that, it is far worse to me. Sorry if I sound sexist to some out there, but a mother is supposed to be the one to maintain stability and control in the family. My sympathies to the SIL, I am sure that she is hurting a great deal more than we know.
Theresa
wasn't going to go there, but . . . for many people, there is nothing inherently wrong with drinking at any party, christening or not. getting drunk and behaving badly is a personal issue for some people, but that is the problem, not people drinking in general.
[quote="My sympathies to the SIL, I am sure that she is hurting a great deal more than we know.
Theresa [/quote]
I couldn't have said it better. Please try not to feel too bad about your cake. (I personally would have cried.) The pain of dealing with someone who doesn't know when to quit drinking is far worse for all involved and will forever be a problem for your SIL. We lost my stepmother a year ago from drinking herself to death. Just keep your SIL in your prayers and hope it all works out for her.
I dunno. I might be in the minority, but . . .it's a cake. I'm not excusing bad behavior like this woman displayed, but it didn't impact you (imho) - it impacted the person hosting the party and/or whomever paid for/requested the cake.
I bring the cake, I get paid, I'm done. Enjoy it, hack at it, throw it away, whatever, I don't really care.
The thing is, I did this cake for free, and it was a big cake...10 inch and 8 inch tiered. I agree, if someone paid for it, I wouldn't care quite as much (well, I hope not).
As far as drinking at a christening...this of course was at the party AFTER the christening. All of our families have wine, beer at parties...I have no problem with that...but you are right, she shouldn't be getting DRUNK. apparently this is a problem a lot for this woman, according to my SIL.
thanks all for your support!!
wasn't going to go there, but . . . for many people, there is nothing inherently wrong with drinking at any party, christening or not. getting drunk and behaving badly is a personal issue for some people, but that is the problem, not people drinking in general.
Thats a good point, and I agree that drinking is a very personal issue, but getting hammered and making a jerk of yourself and embarrassing your family is not really a matter of 'personal choice', it's a lack of respect or control. One or the other, or both. And while there is nothing wrong with drinking at a party... if (and I stress IF because I don't know the situation) IF it is a non-drinking party, there IS something wrong with showing up already $h*t-faced and destroying someone elses happy memories of what should be a miraculous day! It's true... everything in moderation. Or, if you really want to get that drunk, stay home and quit ruining everyone else's life. (Sorry to be a little preachy... long story, but had my life nearly ruined permanently by alcoholism)(not mine)
It might help to think about it like this. If that hadn't happened, everyone would have had pieces of lovely cake. But since it DID happen, people are really going to remember your cake and how beautiful it was before the, ahem... incident.
A beautiful cake gets noticed. But a beautiful cake that gets mercilessly hacked apart by a drunk woman - that gets talked about!!!
Such interesting views.
It is true what one member said, once you deliver the cake it is theirs to do what they want. I keep telling myself that too. I just hate being a guest because I spend the time worrying about something happening to the cake when I know I shouldn't.
Too bad someone didn't take the old bat to the side and try to deal with her. Then again it may have made things worse. She must have some huge Demons to deal with.
What made me ask about the drinking at the Christening, I don't ever remember going to one. I just thought because it was a religious function out of respect for "God" they wouldn't drink. I don't know how these things work. I was just curious. Ignorance is from not knowing and to gain knowlege you ask questions.
The message being sent to children is that you can't have a good time without serving alcohol. There is always going to be those couple of people that have more than they can handle and it's not a pretty site for small children to see. Those children are going to grow up and remembering the Christening that Grandma was loaded.
There is nothing wrong with drinking at a adult party, having the guys over for a game, a get together for cards. I just don't understand having to drink at a religious function or a child's party. This again could be ignorance on my part and there may be a reason this is done.
I'm not a do gooder, I have a fully stocked bar.
You did do the best thing to just leave, I need to learn from you. I do and then think later.
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