craise79 Posted 15 May 2011 , 10:37pm
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I got asked to make a cake for an upcoming wedding and we had the whole thing planned out, the only thing I had left to get from the bride was a pic of the cake topper. She finally sent me the picture and I was SHOCKED! Every thing she has picked out for her cake is very pretty and modern and this topper is the ugliest thing I have ever seen! It is super old, I have no idea how I can giver her everything she asked for as well as incorporate this horrific topper, help!

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wildflowercakes Posted 15 May 2011 , 10:58pm
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What does it look like? Does it have a lot of sentimental value?

foxymomma521 Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:02pm
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Can you post a pic?

craise79 Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:18pm
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I can't from here, can you?

indydebi Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:19pm
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I see a lot of threads where the baker hates the look of the topper and my intial thought is always "So what?" I've never known any guest at a wedding to make a comment about "Nice cake but the baker sure slapped an ugly topper on there!" or "The baker sure ruined that cake with that topper!" I just dont' think anyone judges a cake decorating job based on the topper, as most people are aware the topper is the choice of the bride.

And that's the big thing: It's the choice of the bride. Her wedding, her cake. I would tell a bride if something she wanted was not possible in an engineering sense, but would never tell or imply to a bride that something should be changed because *I* thought it was not up to *MY* taste. Who am I to decide if something is pretty or not for someone else's cake?

We dont' know the significance of this topper. Examples of things we dont' consider: It could be the topper from her mother's cake and even more significant, what if her mother has passed away? It could be a family heirloom. It could be a private joke between the couple. It could be a gift from a relative or friend who means the world to the bride. It may represent part of the cost-cutting of the wedding and its the topper she could afford. (have you SEEN the cost of toppers these days? wow! icon_eek.gif )

I'm sure I"m a minority but in 30 years, I've never been embarrassed or appalled by the topper a bride picked out in terms of not wanting to put it on the cake I made. I made have not liked it, personally, but that's only areflection that our tastes differed.

craise79 Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:36pm
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I was not thinking of changing the topper or even telling her I disliked it, I was simply hoping for some suggestions:0) I know it's not my choice and that it is up to her, my problem is that it doesn't even remotely match any of the design of the cake. Should I tell her we need to change the design?

craise79 Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:37pm
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/62904134@N05/5723965163/

foxymomma521 Posted 15 May 2011 , 11:51pm
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She wants the cake to be black and white and full of rhinestones, right? In my opinion the topper will look out of place. I wonder if she realizes the topper will look dated on such an extravagant cake.

BoozeBabe Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:08am
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To me it looks like it may have belonged to her parents. That style was in 42 years ago when I got married. Mine is that exact topper but different bride & groom.I would be honored if one of my kids wanted to use it. But in our family we use my cake knife and have names & dates engraved on it.

terrylee Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:28am

It does look like a vintage topper....I know if I saw it on a cake, I would think it was her parents topper. I wouldn't change it....maybe add a bit of sparkle around the base.....??? If the topper has darkened any with age...you could do a slightly off white fondant to softed the difference in color and do your black accents, etc. Just a thought.....

cownsj Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:34am

That is absolutely a vintage cake topper. I don't think it matters one way or another to the bride if it matches what she wants in a cake or not. There is sentiment somewhere behind this topper.

foxymomma521 Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:37am

You can take your pic before you put the topper on it!

Monirr04 Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:38am

I agree with indydebi, this cake topper is her choice and could have a sentimental value to them. I would not suggest a different design on the cake, again, it is her choice. Now, if she is just thinking it will all fit together and see's it on the cake it can always be taken off if she chooses, but that is up to her.
I would just smile and give her what she is asking for.

AmysCakesNCandies Posted 16 May 2011 , 12:57am

If you are worried about photos for your portfolio, take your pictures before you put the topper on, I've done this with cakes where I think the topper doesn't match the cake well. That way I get a pic that represents my cake decorating style regardless of the brides taste in toppers.

kaytkat Posted 16 May 2011 , 1:19am

I think that topper is very cute! I was be offended if I was the bride and you said anything about it.

cownsj Posted 16 May 2011 , 1:27am
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Originally Posted by kaytkat

I think that topper is very cute! I was be offended if I was the bride and you said anything about it.




I think the bride and groom are cute on it. After I read your post I realized that if the cake decorator said anything that I perceived as being negative about my cake topper, especially if it is one with sentimental value like I'm suspecting this one is, I might be offended enough and be off to find a different decorator. I'm not there to feel like I'm being judged over my choice of toppers and I shouldn't have to feel a need to explain it either. If I was using a sentimental piece though, I think I'd be wanting to share my story with the decorator, but not everyone feels that way either.

craise79 Posted 16 May 2011 , 1:45am

Like I said in a previous post I was not going to mention this to the bride and I am assuming that it belonged to someone previously, my delima is that she wants a blinged out cake covered in rhinestones and black magic roses. I just was hoping that it would at least semi match seeing as this is for a family friend and I will know almost everyone in attendance....

Sangriacupcake Posted 16 May 2011 , 1:47am

I don't think that's the ugliest topper ever...not by a long shot! I'm not sure what you had planned for the cake, but how about bringing elements of the topper down to the cake board and reproducing them there?

cownsj Posted 16 May 2011 , 1:55am

If it is sentimental, then it's possible the bride realizes her cake design won't match, but maybe that doesn't matter. She wants the cake design of her dreams, and also have the sentimental topper. I really think it's going to be ok.

If you are concerned enough about it, and it's for a family friend, you can ask if there is any element from the topper they may want you to incorporate into the cake design. Kinda go in the reverse, so to speak.

hollyberry91 Posted 16 May 2011 , 2:24am

Maybe you could ask her if you could incorporate some elements from the topper into the design to kind of blend the 2 looks a little? I definitely agree that if the cake is white and the topper is faded you should ask her if you can make the fondant an off white shade so it will match HTH!

fabray13 Posted 16 May 2011 , 2:40am

Ok i have to agree, that topper is pretty ugly. I am sure it is meaningful to the bride though. I am making my sisters wedding cake in june. i was lucky to be given my grandparents wedding cake topper (65+years old)! My sisters and i all agreed that it would be super special to all use it on our cakes when we get married. of course it looks very dated, but is much smaller than the one you were given to work with. Maybe you could suggest to the bride just using the figures if you could take it appart carefully? Good luck!!!

theonlynameleft Posted 16 May 2011 , 2:43am

Maybe you could say that its lovely but unless it has sentimental value & she doesn't want it altered, then maybe you could keep it in keeping a bit more with the rest of the by removing the flowery arch bit and just having the wee people???

johnson6ofus Posted 16 May 2011 , 2:54am

I would think professionally, it would be OK to suggest design elements to mesh the topper to the cake. Make a good looking overall cake for the wedding is your professional "duty" so making a well placed suggestion (without the comment of "ugliest topper") (NOT that you would, I know), is in order. thumbs_up.gif

Mamasan Posted 16 May 2011 , 3:00am
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Originally Posted by craise79

I got asked to make a cake for an upcoming wedding and we had the whole thing planned out, the only thing I had left to get from the bride was a pic of the cake topper. She finally sent me the picture and I was SHOCKED! Every thing she has picked out for her cake is very pretty and modern and this topper is the ugliest thing I have ever seen! It is super old, I have no idea how I can giver her everything she asked for as well as incorporate this horrific topper, help!




When you say "we" I take that to mean you and the bride have already planned her cake out, right down to the last "bling". Since she sent you the picture of the topper, she obviously knows what it looks like.

As others have stated - there are many reasons this is the chosen topper... sentimental value, deceased loved one, someone lost a bet, a child picked it out, budget reasons, etc. Regardless, it's not really your business. Did she come to you during the planning phase or when she emailed the picture and say: I know this is ugly and will not fit with the design/color/trend of my cake but will you PLEASE help me incorporate it?

What is the real issue here? Do you feel it will make your cake look bad?

Irish245 Posted 16 May 2011 , 3:10am

My sister had that exact same topper when she got married in 1990, so it must something that was handed down in the family.......

crp7 Posted 16 May 2011 , 3:54am

You have said the cake design is black and white. Don't know the exact design but if you bring some the of the black under or around the bottom edge of the topper that should help make the fact that the topper is a bit faded less noticeable.

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