He Tells Me To Start "looking Outside Of The Box"
Decorating By Mikel79 Updated 9 May 2011 , 11:02pm by Mikel79
Hi Cakers!
You all are the only ones that would understand my frustration! Please excuse the rant. Yesterday I finished up a Mothers Day Cake. My partner comes in the to take a look and tells me You need to start looking outside the box! WTF?! Are you kidding me? Keep in mind this cake was requested by the husband and SPECIFACLLY asked me to do the colors and criss cross pattern on the sides of the cake. I did what was asked of me. The funny thing about this is 2 weeks ago I went to him and told him about an idea I had for a graduation cake. Completely outside of the box type of cake. His response, I would just stick to what you know! Really?
Earlier this week I did an Atlanta Falcon cake. Team colors are Red and Black. As I am finishing up my lovely partner walks in and says, Is that supposed to be red? Come on man! Give me a freaking break.
Please tell me I am not the only one that has such a positive influence around all the time! Geesh, I love him, but I would like to ring his neck sometimes!!
I have posted a picture of the Mothers Day cake he commented on if interested.
http://cakecentral.com/gallery/2029086
Thanks!
Michael
I agree...He probably doesn't realize how he sounds. He might think that he's being "encouraging" but is failing miserably without realizing it.
Or he's just being a butt, as my kids would say. Either way, tell him to keep his opinions to himself unless you ask him for one.
You're cake is lovely 
I would be frustrated with your partner's comments also. I like consistency in my feedback and it seems like you are not getting that from him. One moment he says you need to do "x" and the next you need to do the opposite....that gets a bit frustrating. I guess if his opinion matters, I would ask him what exactly he envisions the cake to look like....but sometimes, it's just best to take opinions with a grain of salt and do what you feel is correct.
In the case with the mother's day cake, you followed the direction of what the customer wanted. Perhaps you could throw out some opinions, but at the end of the day, the customer gets what the customer wants.
Take care
That is too funny....Tell him to keep his comments to himself..Or better yet...Hand him a piping bag and a raw cake and tell him to go to it!!
I constantly ask my husband for his opinion, and then always do the opposite of what he says
I think it's a very pretty and cleanly done cake. Nice job!
My mother's comments often start with "If it were me, I would have done..."
I've learned over the years she means well by it, and doesn't mean for the comments to come out negatively, which is how I generally read it. It was just her way of making suggestions. And now I just let the comments roll off my back.
I would say sit down and have a heart to heart. Often times people don't realize how some of the things they say come across.
Pretty cake and sounds like this was what the client wanted, so good job.
You and your partner need to talk after you step back and calm down a minute. Do you ever ask for a critique from him or do you just want a pat on the back? He probably believes he is being very helpful. If you truly need for him to only say positive things then you need to 1)tell him and
2) never ask him for advice 3)ask for constructive criticism from others whose sugar work you do respect and accept that.
We teach others how to treat us. Lately, my husband has been saying, "That is the best thing you've ever done!" after every cake and he seems to believe it. I'm happy - he is happier. Remember only reward behavior you want to see over and over - works with kids, animals and partners.
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