I Left Bruises On My Baby... :(

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Rachie204 Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 3:26am
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Wow I feel so bad. I had a sneaking suspicion our 11 month old had a Urinary Track Infection. I took her to the doctor Wed of last week and they had to do a Catheter to get a urine sample. (So sad) They told me to hold her legs to keep them from moving...they said if she moved it would hurt even worse. I held her as tight as I could and she still almost got loose. It's amazing how strong a little baby can be. The test ended up being positive...(mommies just know these things i think)

Any who, today I noticed these strange bruises on her legs. At first I assumed they were just from falling a lot as she is learning to stand without holding onto anything....and then I realized that the bruises are from me holding her so tight. I feel so bad. Poor baby. This whole ordeal has been traumatic for her....( and me) I mean I know I had not choice but to have the procedure done and I know if I had held her any looser she would have hurt herself while they were trying to cath...but still it's sad.

Okay I feel better now...I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

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ladyellam Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 3:42am
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Aw, sweetie--there will be things you have to do FOR your children. She was in pain and had you not gotten the test done it could have been a lot worse. Being a mommy is sometimes a double edge sword--you know you had to do something to help your baby but in the process you HAD to hold her tight so she wouldn't have hurt herself worse and now she has bruises. If she could tell you anything it would be "thank you, mommy and I love you". I sometimes think it's more traumatic for us than it is for the babies/children.

My little boy burned his hand on the wood burning stove and his scream instantly brought tears to my eyes. When I took him to the doctor she had to put medicine on him and I had to hold him down and pry his hand out--I would have gladly chopped my own hand off if it would have helped him. After we finished and I was crying, the doctor told me "kids are pretty resilient, it's the parents that are weak". You know she was totally right.

She better now and just give her lots of kisses and hugs.

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mim1106 Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 4:58am
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Awww, like ladyellam said, there are things we have to do for our kids. You got her the treatment she needed, the bruises will fade. When my daughter was 2 weeks old, I took her in for her check up and asked the doc to swab the gunk in her eyes b/c her brother had pink eye. I was called on Sunday afternoon to bring her back in and they told me she had gonorrhea of the eye. That caused a TERRIBLE fight obviously in my marriage. They admitted her to the hospital, she was there for 3 days and they couldn't get an IV started - so 3 times a day two techs came in and gave her two shots (one in each leg) for those three days. Guess what? The second lab came back and OOPS their fault. It was pink eye. The lab messed up. They didn't even apologize. But, she is now 7 and doesn't even remember it, as your daughter will quickly forget! The whole thing was more upsetting to us than it was to her.

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cabecakes Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 3:19pm
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You'd be surprised just HOW resilient children are. My daughter, at the age of 18 months was following her older sister into the house up the steps of my mothers house. Her older sister didn't realize it though, and the door slammed on my daughter's finger (a heavy oak door). It took all the meat from the first knuckle up clear off the bone. I was at work at the time, and my husband ran her to the ER (meat in hand). The hospital just put bandaids on and said it would grow back. I was furious. I to her to her ped doctor; he said the same thing. Still angry, I asked him for a referal to a specialist. The specialist told he there was nothing he could do with it that at her age the finger would grow back within 6 weeks. He said, however, that she would probably have trouble with the fingernail on that finger. He was absolutely right. All the meat, and the fingernail, all grew back. Her finger is unnoticeably shorter than it should be, and she does have slight trouble with the nail on that finger. It was mom that lost it, and who still remembers the trauma of the whole thing like it was yesterday. (When me husband called me at work and told me what she'd done, I almost passed out.)

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indydebi Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 3:29pm
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My oldest daughter "marks" easily on her skin. If I scratched her with one fingernail, she'd actually get a welt on her skin .... instantly.

Re: "it's parents who are weak", I couldn't agree more. When my son was between 4 and 5, he got hit in the face with an operating chain saw. Now, it barely touched him and he didnt' even lose any skin (great surgeon!). But while I was a total basket case for 3 days after it happened, he was laughing about "if this had happened last week, I could have gone trick or treating as Freddy Kruger!"

Hubby has a scar from a surgery had had; I have a big scar on my arm from a car wreck when I was 16, and my 4 yr old son now had a small scar on his face. We're laughing because his big sister was the only one without a scar. Son disappears, comes back with the saw from his toy toolbox saying, "come here, Chrissy!! heh heh heh!"

Kids ..... ya feel like luvin' 'em or shootin' 'em all at the same time! icon_biggrin.gif

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jonahsmom Posted 29 Nov 2009 , 4:14pm
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I would be heartbroken, too!

My son has had a couple of surgeries for his many birthmarks and doesn't remember any of them. When he was about 18 months we went back to have stitches removed from surgery on his neck. He was in the papoose thingy that is really supposed to hold them and he was still able to wiggle around. Well, the skin on his neck either wasn't stitched right or just plain didn't heal right because it opened back up! While my hubby and I were fighting for who would hit the floor first, they glued it back together. And as soon as our little guy was let out of the papoose he was smiling and happy again.

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jammjenks Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 3:46am
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Oh Rachie. I know it feels horrible. Every mom has stories like that about hurting their child in some way.

My youngest was an INCREDIBLY chubby baby. (27+ lbs. at 10 months old.) and I buckled her double chin in the 5-point harness of the car seat.

Just this weekend, my 7 year old stopped right in front of my grocery buggy and I ran into the back of her heel. I felt so bad....not my fault, but I still felt really bad.

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Carson Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 4:31am
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I was told getting a catheter was one of the most traumatic things a little girl would go through...you can imagine the basket case I was when my daughter had to get it done when she was two. The good news is that she doesn't remember it - but I sure do! I felt even more horrible because after having to hold her down while I was in tears - she had to have an xray done with dye injected and I couldn't even be in there to calm her as I was just 6 weeks pregnant. I sat crying my eyes out in the waiting room because I could hear her screaming in the other room - I never let them perform that test again and won't until they can prove that it is necessary (thankfully our Ped Urologist agreed!!)

Just a question though - my dd has had problems with urinary tract infections from a very early age but she has never had a catheter to check for an infection. They do have "urine collectors" that can go into diapers to test. Why did they decide to do a catheter? I am just curious as I have been through this for 6 years now and I really feel for you! Best of luck to you and your daughter, I hope the little one is better and she won't even blame you one bit for your strength (mothers have this super power when it comes to getting their children through the toughest things - my dh can't even come in the room for the hard stuff!)

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Rachie204 Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 5:09pm
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Thank Everyone for your responses...they made me feel better...until this morning that is when the Doctor called me and said that they have decided to set up an appointment with a specialist to cath her again while injecting Dye to make sure everything is okay with her kidneys and that she isn't having urine reflux back into the kidneys.

Carson~ They said that the bag that you tape down there isn't very accurate since it isn't a sterile sample. When I was pregnant they saw some issues with her kidneys so they were pretty concerned about the UTI....now we have to go and have another procedure done with the dye....I am really not looking forward to this...but I understand that with her current kidney condition that is is necessary.

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Carson Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 5:37pm
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The poor little thing, the catheter makes sense to me now knowing they were worried about her kidneys that early on.

Since you have already been through the catheter process the Voiding Cystourethrogram (I hope I got that right - but the xray with dye) will not be much harder. At least you will be able to be with her to comfort her for the voiding/dye/xray part. If my then 2 year old can forget about the whole thing so fast then your little one should have no real lasting memories. Now at 6 1/2 the only thing I can tell is that she is hesitant to let Doctors examine her in that area - but at her age I hope she would be a little shy and hesitant.

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Rachie204 Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 6:29pm
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Yeah that's whats it's called. When the doctor said it...I was like ummm....what. Haha

Glad to know we aren't the only ones to have this done. Thanks for sharing your experience...helps to know we are not alone. I'm gonna make hubby tag along this time and hold her down icon_smile.gif

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cylstrial Posted 30 Nov 2009 , 7:35pm
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Awww...I feel terrible for you and your little girl!

My SIL has two little girls and they both had UTI's when they were less than 1. They both have to take medicine now everyday. The oldest one has been on the medicine for 3 years and the youngest one for about a year. I know they have to take it a LONG time.

But hopefully, your little girl won't have to be on it that long.

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