Doug, If my husband starts tweeting, can I call him a twit? Just thought I'd ask.

My dh loves to play on his computer also, but that is not my complaint, no matter what project I am doing in the house or yard, he has to watch me so that he can take it over. I usually make sure he is doing something before I start a project, and before I know it he is taking over. For some reason when I want him to help me out with something, he is too busy.

My second pet peeve is when he starts a project for our house, he never finishes it. My bathroom remodel was going on seven years of not getting finished so I just started the remodel over again, because my style changed again. I told him if he had finished then I would have kept the style, but since there was so much left to do, I changed the plan. Now it is complete.

Just reading this post is making me feel like too many men are lazy. My husband hardly wants to do anything and of course when he does he wants a huge pat on the back.

The other week I could have killed him because he got on my nerve so bad. So I'm 7 months pregnant and I had a huge headache and was exhausted. So I lay on the couch and tell hubby I don't feel well. I feel nauseas (sp?) and I just want to go to sleep. My son keeps messing with me but I don't mind too much and keep dozing back off. Well my husband has to go pick up my daughter from the school bus and takes my son with him. I'm in such a deep sleep by then. Well the phone rings and I don't answer. It keeps ringing. Well I finally wake up get off the couch to answer and it is my husband. He says that he is at my daughters bus stop and he wants me to come down there and get out son. And can you guess why? He says because he fell and scraped his knee!

So by this point I'm really annoyed. I asked him if it is that bad and he says no but he doesn't want it exposed. I said I'm not coming down there and just wait until you get our daughter and come home and clean his knee. He got so angry with me. When they got back home it was two little scrapes. He told me that he wouldn't tell me again if out child was hurt because I don't care! Ok he almost died that day and we argued for like two days and I didn't talk to him because he couldn't understand why I was so annoyed!

I must be the lucky one!

Since having our first bub two months ago, hubby has been up early on the weekends with her so I can sleep in, takes her as soon as he gets home to give me a break, constantly offers to make dinner, and has offered to stay home with bub weekends so I can go and do things I want without her. He even hangs out loads of washing I've put in when he knows they're done and puts the next load in.

No, he's not for sale!

my man probelms come fromt he fact he is doing like 65 hours a week. so on weekdays, we only have about 1 hour together before he needs to go to bed.
weekends, he likes to get a lot of sleep, like til lunch time. fair enough, most times i can cope with that.
but when he starts complaining that he is too tired to do anything, i dont get it. because, he wasnt too tired to stay up til 3, 4, 5am playing his xbox! if we have nothing planned, again, i can cope, but when he knows i want to do something - like swimming, we both need to lose weight - it drives me nuts.
and housework, i dont expect much during the week (recently cracked putting things into the laundry basket though! YAY!!!!!), but at weekends, a little help would be really good. we have lived in our flat for a year, and still have so much of his crap in boxes, our 2nd bedroom is unuseable. can i get him to unpack it? no!!! i keep hoping something will happen, cause he usually wants to know where X is, i say its in the beroom... somewhere. then he just gives up!
part of the problem is that he didnt live by himself, he went from overindulgent mum to me! if i dont do it, it starts growing mould or something. i stopped washing his clothes... he wanted to buy new ones. i didnt hang up his wet clothes, they went smelly, he wanted me to rewash them - i did get this cracked 'f-off' and spray him with nice smelly stuff, and a 'thats the best i can do'.
its just annoying. id love our weekends to be lazy, spending time together, but fact is a house needs looked after, and i dont want to do it myself (i work full time too).
ARGH!!!!!!!
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Does anybody have this....my DH doesn't/can't remember the important dates in HIS family (parents' birthdays, anniversary etc...) In fact this past Saturday was his parents 50th anniversary. That's a big deal! So he calls me Saturday afternoon from work, after I've been out and done all my errands, to ask if I can get a card for them. Instead, I make a lovely card, which didn't go into the mail until today. When we called his folks yesterday to wish them a belated happy anniversary, his mother was mad AT ME because apparently the wife is supposed to handle such things Yeah, if HER SON had told me the date in advance, the card, gift, phone call would have been on time....but HER SON didn't remember the date until the last minute!!!

I've written the dates down in my calendar, but I really don't feel like I should have to remind HIM when HIS mother's birthday is

ah! like i said before, we both need to lose weight. i have tried to convince him to eat healthier, to try this and that. if we dont like it, it can go in the bin! but no, meh meh meh.
one talk with his mum, and he comes home all we need to eat better, can you buy XYZ, and il try XYZ. mums going to cook A for us aswell.
ah! at least i can claim to have laid the ground work, but how come he thinks im talking anorexic nonsense when i talk about it, but his mum isnt?
his mums going to cook pasta. now, i can cook great pasta, but he wants to have it at hers. because if he doesnt like it, he can have something else. i point out we have plenty of food (always have eggs handy as a minimum), but no, he doesnt want to try it here. *men*
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I don't worry about the birthdays anymore because we're all on Facebook and it tells me! Slap a quick "Happy Birthday" on their wall and I'm done! That's all they get.

ME TOO ME TOO ME TOO

Oh, where to start. Here's a pet peeve -- he will pick up a sealed envelope from the pile of mail and ask me, "What's this?". I DON'T KNOW!!!!!

He will also do the thing where he will stand by something and ask me if I am ever going to pick it up. Umm, I am busy with the 3 kids, and you have time to stand there and ask about it -- maybe you pick it up.

If we are watching TV and I go to get a snack or a drink, I will ask him if he wants one. He does not reply. I bang around the kitchen, come back, sit down, and he says, "I'll have one of those." Gee, should have told me before I put everything away. And it drives me crazy that he doesn't ask, "Would you make one for me?" It's always, "I'll have one." Whether or not I am offering to him. I HATE that. Although I did hear on the radio one time a discussion about that -- the person said that men will, say, order a coffee by saying, "I'll have a ......", whereas women will order by asking, "Could I get a ....".

Not doing stuff in the house -- check. I may have shared this before, but when we moved in, I got miniblinds for all the windows. After a few months he put up a few of them. Nearly two years after I got them, he still hasn't done anymore, so I just decide to do them (mainly because I had gotten a cordless drill so I wouldn't have to put in the screws by hand). Anyway, I get my blinds, grab a chair, and start. I am not working on the first blind for 30 seconds and he is standing there beside me. "You're not holding the drill right." "You need to press harder." "You have to move that." STEADY stream of micromanaging comments, which I don't need as I am already frustrated. After I struggle a bit he says, "Do you want me to just do it?" I do not know HOW I stopped myself from drilling a hole right into his head. I just said, "YES!!! I've wanted you to put them up for the last TWO YEARS!!!"

Funny thing is that I always thought my cousins were so mean to their husbands, yet their husbands helped out so much more than my husband. Recently, I have been getting noticiably b****ier, and lo and behold he is starting to do more stuff. Hmmmm.

Waitresses LOVE LOVE LOVE my children, because they ask "May I please have...". You may be paying for it, but a little courtesy never hurts.

My husband mows. The end.



..EVERYTHING else is apparently my job. He got annoyed at me the other day for not telling him he had an email on the home computer.
I asked him if he would like a breastfeed with that.
&*$^#*( men!

How 'bout how my DH can plan an military operation for 100+ soldiers, brief a commander, type up orders for ten soldiers, check his email, run a security clearance background check and eat lunch standing up BUT can't fold laundry while watching tv at the same time...how is that possible?

ETA: The bold and because he really does do all that stuff simultaneously but tells me "I can't multi-task!"

From Tita9499's DH:
SHUT UP!!!
We do what we can... but, since you all (DWs) are so used to things going EXACTLY the way you want it, it's just easier to follow your every desire and not get frustrated with planning something the DW will shut down... You know what I'm talking about: "THAT'S what you call ...? (Fill in desired expectation) BTW, the smiley face with the chef hat, not cool! How about a ballistic helmet?

Please forgive my DH ladies, he's obviously trying to get out of ironing our church clothes for tomorrow like I asked him to do 30 MINUTES ago!! Again proving my point that multi-tasking ain't his thang!

My personal favorite is the argument, "I can't do it as well as you can." or "You don't like how I do it." Cleaning house does not take special skill!! I don't ask him to fold laundry because I do like it done a certain way, but I don't care how you mop the floors, as long as they're clean when you're done (and yes, corners count!)!! His company just went belly-up, so he's going to be a stay at home dad until he finds something else. He'll be using this time to learn (one way or another) how to clean house properly!! Bad enough that he does a half a$$ job on it, but he's teaching the kids his methods!