i just need to vent, every year i make these cookie trays (choco chip, m&m, oatmeal ect..) and give them out to friends and family who have no allergies to nuts because some of the ingredents i use have been made in a factory with nuts, and i aslo add nuts to some of the stuff myself, well anyway this year my mom asked if i could give one to a man that works with my dad because he had taken my dad out to lunch a few times and i did, well today my dad took in some of the NFSC into work and they got to talking about the christams trays which was given to him for free, and he told my dad that this year when i give him one if i could hold off on the nuts because he does not care for them to much, now you have to undestand i do about 17 to 18 of these and everything is so hectic when i am getting them out becasue i do everything with in a 1 week period so its all fresh and everyone gets one that is not more then 2 days old, and i just asseble them and tag the all and give them out at random because they are all the same and he wants me to go through and makes his speacial when it's for free to begin with heck no 
i told my dad why didn't he just give the ones with nuts away they are only 3 kinds of cookies and one candy out of the 14 different ones in the tray that has nuts and no one in his family is allergic so he could have just given them away 
sorry so long i just needed to vent thanks for listening
Perhaps you could look at this another way. My mother-in-law makes delicious pumpkin rolls. I love everything about them... except for the nuts. (I like nuts plain - but not in baked goods.) For a long time - I never told her that I didn't like the nuts, but she knew I really liked the rolls in general. Every year she would make me one or two of my own to have at my house. Finally, I had to tell her that I did not like the nuts in them and ask her if she could make the ones for me without nuts. I figured that she went to all that trouble for me - and that I was not fully enjoying the gift. Sometimes I would not eat it all due to the nuts. When I asked her to make it without - she was happy to do it... and I completely enjoyed the rolls.
I don't think he was trying to be rude at all. He just didn't want to waste any of your goodies -knowning how hard you worked on them.
Just my 2 cents.
I agree, I think he is trying to be considerate and save you money.
Why not make one just like the others and just leave off the ones with nuts, it's not like he asked for a replacement for them.
Do I understand that this man is not someone you usually give a tray to, and only did this time because you were requested to by your parents? If so, just smile for now and conveniently forget him next December, as he is not on your gift list in the first place.
I think he's being outraugeously rude - how dare he assume that you've given them to him one year and now he's going to get them from now on. I make CHristmas cakes for a certain number of friends and family, I had one family member make a comment about what they didn't want on theirs next time - there was no next time, simple as that. It's the assumption that they're getting one every year from now until I die (of cake exhaustion) that galled me.
I think he's being outraugeously rude - how dare he assume that you've given them to him one year and now he's going to get them from now on. I make CHristmas cakes for a certain number of friends and family, I had one family member make a comment about what they didn't want on theirs next time - there was no next time, simple as that. It's the assumption that they're getting one every year from now until I die (of cake exhaustion) that galled me.
What she said!
Amber
StephW your situation is different because she's your MIL. Your MIL knew you weren't being rude. It's ok to lovingly approach your MIL like you did. *smile*
I just think if someone gives me a gift I'm not going to complian - it was a gift & not something he'll be getting all the time on a regular basis.
I bet when your dad told you what the co-worker didnt want on his cookie tray next year your mouth dropped, mine would have. That really takes alot of nerve for him to assume that this was not a one time jesture. Sometimes people amaze me. I totally feel your frustration.
did you talk to your Dad about this situation? and how you felt about it? Really talk? Because I'm sure your Dad didn't want to upset you.
I personally would do what ever my Dad asked me to do. I do believe it was a very rude statement by the man! and very presumptious (sp?) of him to already expect one for next year! Very nice action on your part though! 
You know, what I find interesting is that you did these cookies as a thank you from your parents. Was it not your parents place to do that thank you? In future, if they want him to have a cookie tray, and they want you to make it, have them order it from you, pay you for it, (or not, how you deal with your parents is not the issue here as I see it) and then, they deliver the cookie tray to him, from them. That way, he doesn't assume the tray is from you, and he doesn't think he can make special requests.
I'm chiming in with the "double dittos" on the How Rude Can He Be bandwagon. it was a special favor to your parents and he's expecting one every year? Send him your phone number and PRICE LIST and he can order exactly what he wants next year.
I agree with indydebi.
It was a special favor to your parents, the cookies with nuts..well, he could've shared them with other family members. If he was allergic to the nuts...he wouldn't be able to eat ANY of the cookies!
He's just being a Man and a man of a certain age..lol
Since it was a one time favor to your parents, I would do what Indydebi says...Send him a price list so he can order exactly what he wants!!
Good luck
don't stress the small stuff
as another cc posted in their signature:
"they do not pay the rent in your head , so evict them from your mind" (love that quote!)
thank all of you guys i just thought i was being unreasonable, when i got as mad as i did, see how this tray thing works is me and my mom sit down in november and make a list of who we would like to give trays to, my moms friends, my friends, family, then i add up the cost of all the ingredients, celophane wrap, trays and divide it by the number of trays they are, when i get the amount we split the cost according to i pay for my friends she pays for her friends and we split the cost of family, i make the stuff because i am a bit of a control freak when it comes to baking, i like things done a certain way (but she does help me pack it, makes the labels, and does some of the deliveries) one of my friends had to leave town unexpectecly and i had already made it so my mom said if she could give to a guy at my dad work (my dad forgot to put him on the list) and i said sure did not want it to go to waste, told it was okay she did not have to pay me for it but you know moms she did anyway then this guys turns around and knit picks and i told my dad if he wants one this year sure but HE CAN PAY FOR IT!!! and i asked my dad to ask him casually what he did with the nut cookies and he said he gave them to his daughters friends so they did not go to waste so i have no idea what his problem was!
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