What Would Be Tacky?

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tiersfromheaven Posted 18 Sep 2008 , 2:31pm
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I need advice, sensible female advice. I am of hispanic descent, hubby's Irish descent. Our daughter will be fifteen in two years, and she has chosen to celebrate the spanish custom of Quinceneara just to be different from the rest of her non-hispanic friends.

But rather than having a big party she has decided on a desitination trip to Disney World, which she adores. So my question is, when you invite guests to travel to a party what do you pay for as the host?

I figure accomodations and park admission, and of course the birthday dinner. What about travel costs? Should I have to pay for those? My family is old school so there will be only one set of god parents and I will not be asking for monetary assistance. However, knowing my inlaws and own immediate family they will assist. I don't want to take advantage of their generosity and I plan on letting everyone know this is not a family reunion, it is DD's celebration.

I'd like to get some opinions and see what the majority would say. From the would be guest.

Also, which family members to invite? I will invite immediate, aunts and uncles, of course, but what about Hubby's cousins? I say this because two are godparents and the rest that are here in the US are not. And they are adults with no kids so I just don't see the need for the expense. As I said this is not a family reunion.

I want to keep the list to 15-20 which will include at least 4 of DD's friends and one for DS so he doesn't feel besieged by estrogen icon_lol.gif

Thanks all for any advice!

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KHalstead Posted 19 Sep 2008 , 5:13pm
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I think paying for lodging and park tickets is MORE than fair. Of course if you have teenage girls showing up with no parents you'll probably have to expect to feed them all of their meals and such too. What a luck little girl you have!!!! Is she getting one of those crazy Disney cakes?? if so you have GOT to post a pic of it. I wouldn't invite DH's cousins unless any of them are particularly close to your DD, I mean it IS her party! Obviously you'll want her godparents but 2 or 3 cousins?? nah! lol

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jen1977 Posted 19 Sep 2008 , 7:07pm
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I think it depends on how far you and your guests live from Disney. If it means buying a plane ticket or driving a few hours, I would think you would be responsible for getting them there and for their food while there for the party too. If my kids were invited to a party at Disney and I had to pay to get them there or for their food (pricey! We just went in March!), I can tell you that they wouldn't be going. This is coming from a mom who complained about my 6 year old being invited to a build a bear party where the birthday child's parents only paid $10 toward the animal and it cost me over $20 pls a gift for my child to go to their child's party. If I'm having kids come to my child's party, I pay for all of it, and would expect other parents to do the same.

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monizcel Posted 20 Sep 2008 , 12:11am
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If your family treats this like a destination wedding then I would assume that they would pick up the cost of their vacation and you would pay for grandparents and other important family members if they could not afford the cost.

If you are the hosts of a party then you are responsible for all costs including travel.

It depends on which way your family views the party. Invite only those close to you and your daughter, not just because they are family.

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