No way- that would creep me right out of my skin!
Amber
It's just me- I have "death issues". I know a lot of people would really appreciate it.
Amber
You really think it's creepy?
Well I was asking because I saw a book for mothers and one for fathers where you write things about yourself like favorite color, favorite song in high school....so on... and I thought it was a good idea. But I thought it would be nice to have (not really a memorial) but a video journal of just pictures and movie clips to leave for my son so he can remember happy things and good times. And maybe once a year sit in front of a camera and just "talk to him", tell jokes, do some funny dances just to give him a lift. Plus who knows as you get older what may happen. I would want him to remember me when I was happy and healthy. I just remember when my mom passed I was really young and sometimes I feel I never really got to KNOW her. I just remember bits and pieces and I get to hear stories from relatives but that's it.
I think it's a wonderful sentiment, i really do. And like I said- it's just me....most people would love to have something like that.
Both my parents are dead, and my dad was sick (Parkinsons) for many years before he died, so I never really got a chance to know him as an adult. I guess I would appreciate being able to get to know him even if it was through video. I think my initial response of heebie-jeebies was because I was thinking more along the lines of a video will that you watch right away. That really bothers me, but I'm sensitive.
Amber
My best friend (we were next door neighbors since we were both 3) was pregnant with her 3rd child and 2 weeks from her due date when her husband went to the doctor because he had been feeling bad for about 2 months. He was shockingly diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer.
He lived for 4 months after that diagnosis. Thankfully, if there even is a "thankfully", my friend encouraged her husband to make a video for their 2 young sons age 3 and 5 and their newborn daughter. He died the day after Christmas 4 years ago. He was 37 and my friend was 34.
She has said she is very grateful that she has that for her children.
So, I don't see it as creepy at all....I see it as a special treasure for her 3 children.
I wish I had videos of our son. He lived in the NICU for 6 weeks, and we didn't take many photos of him at all - we didn't want the flash of the camera to startle him. I cherish everyone of the ones I do have, and I would've loved to have a video of him. He was not a sick baby, just small, we always thought we would bring him home. I would not think of it as morbid at all.
Oh, Quadcrew((((((hugs))))))
I am so sorry for your loss.
Amber
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