My husbands best friend and my friend have been dating for over a year, they are always over here. and hanging out. About 3 weeks ago they stopped talking to us, I have no idea why. So he called and said to my hubby that something has been bothering them for a while and they want to come over and talk about it. She is so sensitive and I am the type never to hold a grudge and get over things fast. I don't have patients for this, plus I am so hormonal right now that I know I will say somethng not nice. I want to "be asleep" when they come over. what should I do?
I hate girly issues........
sorry to vent.....
Just let them do all the talking. That way you will know what the problem is. Try not to intergect into the conversation unless you have to and think about what it is you want to say before you speak. It sounds as though you will have to talk sooner or later. Aren't you curious.
kathy
WOW - what a heavy way to start the new year!
Well at least they want to talk to you, not just cut you off and thats it. Good luck - I hate confrontation. Hang in there - it may not be as bad as you think!
so they came over. In soem way it was worse than i thought it was going to be. He said that I said soemhting, that I agree, was hurtful. I can't even imagine I said that. Then he went outside with my husband to smoke and she repeated it again, and I said I can't imagine I said that. Then she told me the story of what happened (which i don't remember), but it was in no way as harsh as he said. So she is the one that repeated it to him and she is the one that made it hurtful not me. But she is not going to get herself in "trouble" with him so she threw me under the bus.....In anyway, there are no words to describe our love for him, he is our very best friend, so I guess we need to put up with her.
thanks for the support.
WOW (again) - isn't it always one person who loves the drama? My SIL is like that - she twists things around when she repeats them and something little is suddenly a big dramatic issue. Hope you hang in there - these situations are so sticky and tricky.
How is your husband handling the situation? Is he apologizing for you are is he defending you? If it was something that seemed trivial to you and she is very sensitive, she might have taken it extremely personal. If the tables were turned, and she said something that hurt your feelings, you might take it personally also. Not saying she is right, just have had experience with touchy people also. Have to walk on eggshell with every word you speak. The way to fix this problem is not an easy solution. Wether or not you said anything offensive you probably should tell them you did not realize that you offended them. No matter if they have said anything offensive to you, they won't see their problem even if you state what they have said. That's just the way some people are. Now you know where the boundaries are, you can hopefully avoid those topics.
Hope you get things back on track.
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