To Hang Or Not To Hang

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mbelgard Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 2:30pm
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I have a bit of a dilemma, I'm stuck between hurting my MIL's feelings and putting something I really don't like up in my house (along with extra holes in the walls).

A couple years ago my MIL got obsessed with framing stuff. She frames graduation announcements and wedding invitations for gifts all the time. She likes to give framed photos too.

Worst of all she has been framing Christmas cards for us. It might not be bad if they were the ones with beautiful pictures on the front but no these are the cartoon ones that you're supposed to laugh over and toss. A couple years ago she gave her son one and I hung it on the wall the way I was supposed to but now she's given us an early Christmas present of 2 framed cards so now I have 3.

The cards are funny but I don't want them on my wall, they just don't go with the rest of the decorations (think garland, angels, gold balls and stuffed animals).

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Zmama Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 3:06pm
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Don't hang! But what you can do is find a small table or shelf, set them on that as a cluster, and put some gold balls around them to tie them to the rest of the decor.

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mbelgard Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 3:13pm
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Don't hang! But what you can do is find a small table or shelf, set them on that as a cluster, and put some gold balls around them to tie them to the rest of the decor.




It's a good idea but Christmas has exploded at my house and I have NO free surfaces. icon_redface.gif

I've been tempted to try the "I haven't got around to it" when she comes over but she'd probably pull out the hammer and nails she carries in her purse and decide for me where they're going to go.

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Cake_Geek Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 5:20pm
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How about an office or bathroom? Bathroom is good especially if it is a readable card front like I think you're meaning.

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mmdd Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 7:13pm
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Ooohh! Very sticky situation.

Since this is your mil, what does dh think about this?

Her obsession is not yours, but you still have to show her that you're grateful she took the time to do it & give it to you.

Could you try a laundry room or a bathroom, or anything at all that isn't festively decorated already?

Do you have younger children?? Maybe you could "decorate" their room?

What are you doing with the rest of your Christmas cards?? Do you display them? Is there anyway you could arrange regular cards, and the framed cards?

HTH!

Good Luck!!

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mbelgard Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 8:44pm
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Ooohh! Very sticky situation.

Since this is your mil, what does dh think about this?

Her obsession is not yours, but you still have to show her that you're grateful she took the time to do it & give it to you.




Yes it is sticky and that's my problem. She drives me crazy and I really don't like her but at the same time I hate to hurt her feelings.

My husband doesn't do much with his mother, he says it's my job to spend time with her and leads me to believe that he thinks she's annoying too.

I'm thinking that the bathroom idea is the best, I'll put it in the kids/company bathroom. I don't think their rooms would work since these were given to us and not the kids or I would hang them there.

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mmdd Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 9:07pm
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Make sure you post pics... icon_wink.gif !

Seriously, though, good luck!

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finnox Posted 15 Dec 2006 , 11:34pm
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I would say the bathroom idea would be great but my MIL would be mad because they are in the "bathroom" I dont like my MIL and neither does my husband thank GOD she is just my husbands step mom so we dont have to deal with her if we dont want. And she has made it know she doesnt like me so I would just laugh at it and toss it and keep the frame for something I like. But I can be mean like that but if it was my FIL I would put it somewhere he would get to see it. I am just glad they dont give us presents like that we get bottles of perfume and cologne. And Jayden my daughter gets everything but the kitchen sink. icon_smile.gif

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indydebi Posted 21 Dec 2006 , 1:25pm
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Yes it is sticky and that's my problem. She drives me crazy and I really don't like her but at the same time I hate to hurt her feelings.

My husband doesn't do much with his mother, he says it's my job to spend time with her and leads me to believe that he thinks she's annoying too.....




It's YOUR job to spend time with her?????? Your MIL is not your problem!

I employ the Barney Fife method: "Nip it! Nip it in the bud!" If you dont' put a stop to it now, then you are doomed!

My in-laws decided it was payback time when my DH married this woman with 2 kids. Now was their chance to repay him for all the noisemaking toys he had bought THEIR children when he was a bachelor! They neglected to factor in that in Debi's house, irritating toys are not tolerated. If they want to waste their money on a toy that I will put on the shelf or remove batteries from and not let them play with, then go to it.

They only tried that one year, after they saw that it wasn't going to work. That bud was nipped the first year.

What's wrong with the honest to God's truth about "Gosh, I just don't have the wall space to display those plus the time it takes to repair all of the nail holes!"

I dont' know why you are worried about hurting the feelings of a woman who would pull out her own hammer and damage your home.

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Zmama Posted 21 Dec 2006 , 2:44pm
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Ditto what she said! icon_biggrin.gif

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mmdd Posted 21 Dec 2006 , 10:50pm
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You gotta let us know if you hung them up?

I can understand her not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings...especially with the time of year it is; and when someone gives you a gift you don't like, do you really tell them to their face that you don't like it?

Anyways, I can just relate a bit, I guess.

I just hope all is well and your home is decorated to your liking!! icon_wink.gif

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mbelgard Posted 22 Dec 2006 , 12:22am
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I still haven't hung them, my husband isn't asking where they are either.

I think I might not have to hear about it, my MIL probably won't be over until after Christmas. icon_twisted.gif

I've decided to take the advice about not caring if I hurt her feelings, maybe she won't give me anymore if they aren't on the wall.

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sweetness_221 Posted 23 Dec 2006 , 6:57am
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Could you use the frames for regular pictures? If I got a frame with a card in it I would think that I was getting a frame and not a framed card. Maybe that way if she asks where they are just show her the frames with other pictures in them. If she gets upset, just say that you thought she was giving you the frame and not a framed card. Plus if you were going to go ahead and hang the cards, don't they make those 3M Command picture hangers with the sticky strips that don't poke holes in your wall. I know they have the removeable hooks, because I use those for my stockings every year. We don't have a fire place so I have to hang them on the walls. If you use those you can take them down right after she leaves without ruining your walls.

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