My daughter went on her annual Washington D.C ROTC Trip this week and she calls me Wed night to tell me that one of the adult male chapparones assaulted her. I cannot tell you the heartbreak and hurt and anger I have had this week and to top it off I had a baby shower cake order for a family member due tommorrow so I go to call her and let her know that I cant do the cake because my nerves are so torn up I have barely slept since wed night, and I thought under the circumstances,,, 
that being that it was for a family member it would be no problem . Yeah right ,, so I call her and all I get is o.k ,,, alright,, in a snipity tone at that ,,, no is she ok are you ok we love you,,,, family now I guess that wasnt good enough reason to cancel a cake order. Would any of you cancel a cake order under these circumstances ?
I would definitly cancel a cake order. but to tell you the truth and not to be tottaly rude here but if my daugther had been assaulted the very last thing on my mind would be a cake and someone getting upset with me and what a stressful week I Had. I would be on the phone with the police and on my way to washington D.C. Iam sorry something so horriable happened to your DD.
Wow. I hope she is okay. I would be a basket case.
Good luck, whatever happens. This must be a hard time for you.
Michelle
That's terrible! I'm so sorry this happened to your daughter. Cancel the cake and get on the first plane to DC! When you get there, go straight to the police and have them go with you to where your daughter is staying! Don't leave her there with this man!
As much as I enjoy decorationg cakes, it's just cake!!!!
Your daughter is way more important than a cake! Shame on your "family" for not showing concern. Self-centered people just don't get life!
I hope your daughter will be alright. My prayers are with you.
I would definitly cancel a cake order. but to tell you the truth and not to be tottaly rude here but if my daugther had been assaulted the very last thing on my mind would be a cake and someone getting upset with me and what a stressful week I Had. I would be on the phone with the police and on my way to washington D.C. Iam sorry something so horriable happened to your DD.
seems to me that since this happened last wednesday, CC wasn't the first thing she was thinking about. Looks like she's been dealing with the problem all week and is now tired and frazzled and people still want her to do the cake. What better place to vent about uncaring family than CC?? seriously.
Jackie: I hope your daughter is ok...please let us know how she is doing...and how you are doing... *hugs*
Oh, honey I'm so sorry. Cake schmake, you're right to take care of your daughter. In my thoughts and prayers....
You had every right to cancel the cake. They should have been bending over backwards to see if YOU or your daughter needed anything instead of worrying the cake. You were most certainly in the right here. My best wishes and prayers go out to your family and I hope they nail this guy for his reprehensible (sp?) actions. I hope your daughter recovers fully and quickly.
You said it was an adult male chaperone... was it a school trip?? I am hoping you guys pressed charges! I'm praying for your daughter!! (And you!) Since it was a chaperone, it doesn't sound like some random guy who got away, so you should be able to nail him! Do the people who hire the chaperones do background checks?? That's so scary that something like this could happen! Sounds like a lot of people could be in trouble for this--especially if it's a school trip--I know in my high school at least, adult males were never to be left alone with female students. I hope you get it worked out soon, and that your daughter will be okay and not let it haunt her.
To answer your question about the cake, you were completely justified in cancelling it.... I really hope that wasnt "close" family who did that, because I'd have to say that would have warrented a piece or two of my mind. I have kinda a bad temper though 
Thanks everybody for your support I knew I would find support and compassion here. Everyone involved is trying to push it under the rug and I dont have time to go into the details right now but when I get back from the Dr office I will fill you guys in. You are not going to belive the bull I have been handed ,lets just put it that way.
I'm so sorry this has happened to your family. God Bless!
Be strong! Definately don't stand for letting them push it under the rug! They're probably doing that because they know they will be held accountable for what happened partially. Even if you have to fight for it, don't let them hush it up. That would just be like them telling your daughter it didnt matter what he did to her.
Good luck! I know you must be exhausted from it all.
Oh my Goodness,I can't imagine how you feel.Please pursue it and make sure that sicko of what you call a man gets what he deserves.Jail!!!
Warning guys this is gonna be long. Get this one of the adult lady chapporones calls the D.C. authorities and they tell her that since this assault occured on a school trip the jurisdiction falls under the town the school was from so they arrive back in town on Friday the 5 of October and we meet with the teachers who were in charge of the trip and they take their statements and so on from everybody . Ok we immediatly leave the school and go straight to the police dept and file a report . Monday the 8th I get a call from a detective with the police dept informing me that there is nothing I can do . WHY Jurisdiction they told us it happened in D.C it had to be reported in D.C the same day a man from the D.A.s office calls me and tells me the same thing . 
WHAT YOU CANT BE SERIOUS but no because of jurisdiction . So I call the authorities in D.C they told me since the children had already left the area and returned home that I would have to write a report and mail it to them and then they will look at it. Thats all I got. I ask the guy at the D.A. s office is it not illegel to assault a minor He told me it is illegel to assault anyone So what the Its like I hit a brick wall every where I turn for help no one can do anything but yet its against the law . Our legal system is a joke. So I meet with the principal of the vocational center where my daughter goes to shcol at . He was very nice he was very understanding and he feels that things have not been handled correctly and has had about 18 statements handed in and everyone is telling the same thing as my child did . He also assaulted 2 other girls on the trip we have adult female witnesses to the assault of one of the girls My daughter has a witness be he is afraid to say anything I can understand why but anyway he said one thing that gave me a little consulation that he was going to look at this case through the eyes of a parent as though it was his children. The local authorties told me that I can file a civil suit against him so I dont know if we will pursue that route . Looks like another 50 year old bully is gonna get a slap on the wrist and walk away yet again. Guys I want to cuss I want to grab him and do worse than what he did to my daughter I am so angry I feel so betrayed by our legal system. The case is going to the safety director of our schools Thursday so it will probably be late next week before we hear anything. I am going to have my child write out what happened to her in D.C and we are going to send it in to the authorities there . They may not do anything but I am going to push his name into every system I can . I will let you know if anything comes up but right now I am gonna have to wait. ;Wait. AND WAIT I want to go to the media just to let people know what happened to my child I think I have every right.
OMG!!!!! DID THE AUTHORITIES IN DC DROP THE BALL ON THIS ONE!!!!! Sorry for yelling!
I'm appalled at the way that this whole thing has been handled! I'm sitting here crying for you and those kids! Having been a chaperone on several trips with my children I know that there is NO WAY you are supposed to put your hands on them!
I know exactly how you feel! Anyone touches my kid and there's heck to pay!
Maybe you should get together with the parents of the other children who were assaulted, gather all the info, and send it to DC, copy your local police, cause if he did it once, he'll continue to do it!
My heart goes out to you! You are all in my prayers! God Bless You! Know that we're here for you!
kathys90 that is exactly what the detective told me. D.C. dropped the ball . Oh Im not about to let it go I am telling everyone that I can what happened to my child and who done it. Like if I will let it go. The female chapparones on the trip with my child said he was nothing but a bully he was using profanity in front of the kids calling kids stupid accused one girl of being pregnant because she was sick every morning and this is just what they witnessed him doing no telling who else he assaulted and there too scared to tell it.
http://www.wjla.com/
I'm from the DC area. Get in contact with Leon Harris, or Ross McLaughlin for "7 on your side" ...I'm not kidding, these are some of the best reporters in the area. They'll get your story out there and the guy Ross will even go to them and make them give an answer...he wont let them just give a "sweep it under the rug" answer and just take it. He's brutal. It's worth a shot if they are just giving you the run-around.
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