To the idiot security guard,
You are not funny!!! No one likes you!! You offend everyone you come into contact with!! Please do not speak to me like you are my friend because you are not! and PLEASE stop asking me when I am going to bring you a birthday cake, because I am not! I think that you are rude, crude, and replusive. You are not God's gift to ANYONE!!
To the B**** next to me,
If you have heard me coughing for a week, why do you persist in wearing your perfume so strong that it chokes me? You have heard me say that I have allergies to perfume, and you still layer it on!!! You are lazy, and only want others to do your job for you!! It is not my job to research customers' accounts, that is what they pay you to do! They only pay me to take the payments!! I don't care if I have no customers and you have 5. Deal with it! Quit running your mouth and just help the customer! That is whay they pay you more than me!! It is your job. If you don't want to do it, then quit!!
To my B**** sister,
My EX-hubby is NOT your family anymore!!! Do not ask my niece to call him "Uncle". It insults me!! Stop pretending that the rest of the family cares about him, because they don't. You are the only one that still associates with him, and then chooses to ignore my family. You chose to ignore my step-son's birthday, and your niece's birthday party at my home, but seemed to have no problem showing up for a party with him! And please do not think that I don't know that you slept with him while we were still married!! I knew then and so does your mother and brother!!
Ahhhhh!! I do feel better!!
i'm gonna have to play--
To all the HUSBANDS--why is it that i feel i have to say thank you to mine when he does something to help out, he brushed & dried DD hairs after her bath while i ran to the store, so he's special, well heck i do this all the time & I don't get a thank you 
.. where's my thanks
CO-WORKERS & BOSSES--someone please tell me it isn't appropriate for an employee to give the employer a BOOB cake for his birthday (& no nothing's going on between them, it's just her way, she probably doesn't think anything about it, but i bet the wife, her other boss, won't be real happy)--oh did i tell you i'm pissed because it's my dad's business & the women told me today she was going to make him one--not to stir up trouble cause i'm new, but crap that's my family & my mama will freak 
i'm on a roll, what else can i find to gripe about 
i know i didn't really post the same way everyone else did, but thanks for letting be vent 
Ok, here it goes.....to the lady in the window at the doctors office....
You are the rudest person I have ever met in the world. You have the very best doctor back there, yet they must be treated like crap before they get to see him. I'm sure your coworkers don't like you...I saw how they looked at you. I did complain about your rudeness! You have absolutely no power and you couldn't even change the address or the phone no. on my sons acct.
Oh, btw....it felt so good when I looked you straight in the eye & told you that you were a rude person.......you couldn't even look me in the eye.
Just wait til I come to the doctors office again!!! I won't back down then either...and hopefully some other sick person won't either!
to my husband..........
I dont love you. everyday i sit and wait for a reason to walk out. i long to be left along and cring when you want affection. i hate myself each time we make love. it is not anything you do, i just really dont like you. you always have a mean thing to say, hate everyone , and are just miserable. now i know you are going thru somethings after getting hurt at work, but i am going thru worse, i just dont bitch and lecture everyday about it. i hate to hear you breathe, snore and i feel ill when you walk in the door, i stay longer at work so i dont have to sit and look at you sitting on the couch, pr playing video games. I HATE that you think everyhting is fine and are so oblivious to the fact that my life is misserable with you. i want to just be with my kids. I gave up "MIKE" cause you two couldnt get along, and i died the day he left. if you would give me "john" i would leave in a second, it is the fact of not seeing him everyday and not telling him his story everynight that i stay, his autism dictates that he needs me, but do i sacrifice my life and happiness to be a part of his because you would never give him up??
any advice would be helpful.
confectionaryperfection, my heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry I don't have any advice. I just hope that you can find a way for things to improve in your life. Any time you need to talk, please don't forget that you have your CC friends.
I don't know your circumstances, but I will say this in regards to staying in a bad marriage for the children's sake...a happy mom is a good mom. If you're unhappy, it is affecting every aspect of your life. Just because your DH 'says' he would never give up the child doesn't mean that he will get custody. They all say that, it's a way to keep you from leaving. Best of luck in everything, you will be in my prayers.
Okay, here's my vent...
To my mom
STOP CALLING ME!!! There is no excuse for calling me 5 or more times EVERY DAY!! When I am at work, you can assume that I'm working and too busy to chat! In the evenings, I am trying to spend time with my family. 8:30 is my kids' bedtime, DO NOT call every night at 8:30. You could call once every day or so and we could have a perfectly nice conversation, or you can keep calling me every time I cross your mind and you are going to make our relationship MISERABLE!! Whenever the phone rings, I dread answering it! You're making me want to change my phone number! STOP IT!!!! Give me a little peace and let me live my life!!!
whew, now I feel a little better.
thank you for your kind words. Ihave been very tired lately. i have fought thru my entire life. my dad, then my first husband, now this husband. our youngest son is autistic and very attached to me. however he needs a strong firm parent more to help him do for himself. i just do for him instead of forcing him to do it himself and i think that is hurting him more then helping. i am at the point that even he is becoming too much for me. am i crazy, the man loves me to pieces but i am just so tired of it all.
To our contractor helping us build our new business / house: Why do you give us estimates? Not one time in this whole stinking process has an estimate of yours been even CLOSE to on the mark. Of course, now we're in to deep to do anything about it so we're at your mercy but are you just that bad at your job or are you intentionally trying to screw us over???
I don't feel any better, but that's probably because we've still got months to go on this project and I know we're going to be hit in the face with this over, and over, and over again. Oh well - at least I got it out and my hubby didn't get mad at me for saying it out loud at the wrong moments.
To the cousin-in-law's wife:
The only reason my husband is going to work on that Suburban before your trip is because he knows his cousin can't afford it. If I thought he would listen I would tell him not to after what you tried and your husband told on you.
In the middle of winter when it's -20 you don't imply to people that you don't have a vehicle that runs because you have a trip the END of March. My husband is very busy all the time yet he would have dropped everything to get it running for your family and froze his butt off if he hadn't talked to your husband and found out when it was really needed.
If it's so important that it gets fixed this week why don't you plan on laying on the snow for the same amount of time my husband does and make sure you take your gloves off and touch cold metal whenever he does. Especially since you won't be paying my husband, he won't take it because he knows you're so broke and his cousins are the closest thing he has to siblings, he certainly wouldn't do it for you if you weren't married to him because he can't stand you.
I'm assuming this trip is to last over Easter so you don't have to see any of us and will deprive your husband of his child over the holiday just like Christmas because he can't take 3 weeks off to come with. And while I'm glad I don't have to watch you try to fall out of your halter whether it's freezing out or not I feel bad for your husband missing another holiday with his kid.[/center]
thank you for your kind words. Ihave been very tired lately. i have fought thru my entire life. my dad, then my first husband, now this husband. our youngest son is autistic and very attached to me. however he needs a strong firm parent more to help him do for himself. i just do for him instead of forcing him to do it himself and i think that is hurting him more then helping. i am at the point that even he is becoming too much for me. am i crazy, the man loves me to pieces but i am just so tired of it all.
Are you and your husband part of a support group for families dealing with autism? If not, it would probably be able to help both of you get back to the root of your stresses and to be able to find balance again among a group that has been exactly where you are. You are all under an immense amount of stress, I'm sure, and it sounds like you're carrying much of the load. I'm glad you were able to vent here but it sounds like you need a lot more than that. I hope you are able to find your balance and regain a happiness in your day-to-day life again! GOOD LUCK and keep your chin up!
Heh, I have two. And this is a great thread by the way.
To My soon-to-be MIL:
I wish you would grow up. You behave like a petulant little child and quite frankly make my life a living hell. You've been terrible to me since I moved out here to Connecticut from Washington State. You have all of these reasons why but I know why. It's because I'm not a prep, I don't come from a family that has a good enough background. I don't have enough money, I don't wear the right clothes. My family is embarassing to you-- not that you'll ever know what it's like to a have a family like mine. I'm embarassed that some day they'll have to meet you, and see what a misguided miserable hag is like. The only redeeming quality about your pathetic existance is the fact that you somehow miraculously gave birth to and raised Mike.
Your daughters are spoiled brats and it drives me crazy. You bought all of your children but Mike new cars, pay for tons of new clothes they never wear, give them whatever they want. But all you can do is lecture him, when he works his ass off for what we have. All you can do is tell him bad things about me, and make him feel like he has to choose. I hate you for doing it to him. I hate you for putting him through that.
I hate you for telling Mike that I couldn't go to the Family christmas. I hate you for professing to be such a good Christian and insulting my lack of definite faith, when you turned around and used a Christian holiday about love and forgiving, and you used it to hurt me. You used it to hurt your own son. Why? Because I'm too strong to let you tell me what to do and to let you walk all over me.
I hate you for lying to Mike and getting him to go to Puerto Rico this year as a "family" vacation, leaving me behind. I hate that you brought his sister's boyfriend though, who's a total Jackass. I bet you don't even know this but he calls her a stupid bitch, he calls her all sorts of names. He treats her like shit. But he comes from a good family right? And he can afford to do lunch at the Country Club on Saturdays and someday he may drive a Porsche and give your girl a mansion. So who cares if he's an asshole that's damaging your daughter's self esteem, he looks good to outsiders. I hate that while you were all in Puerto Rico I was suffering, alone, through a miscarriage of twins. Not that you'll ever know because it's not like you'd ever give a crap about anyone but yourself. I hate that even after you told Mike you felt bad, you REFUSE to call and even apologize for the hurtful and hateful things you have said, because you're older. You may be older in years but emotionally you're worse than a five year old.
I hate that you call all the time and bug Mike, I hate that you're always riding on me and judging me. I hate that you tell Mike you know what's best for him. Well, when he was sick and we got together and he was drinking a bottle of Jack a night, where were you? When he needed you the most, when he was upset the most, you did NOTHING. He comes to me for comfort, for love, for understanding. It's not my fault you showed him you can't provide that. All you can provide are a few bath towels and maybe some money in another area as a way of showing your love. It's pathetic. You are pathetic.
I don't regret anything and if it pisses you off what I've done/where I've come from/what I plan to do, GOOD. I hope it pisses you off. I am glad I turned down NYU to pursue Culinary Arts, I'm glad that I come from a family that can pull through even when my mother died and even when I got diagnosed with the illnesses I have. I am glad that I am caring and concerning enough to not use big events to try and hurt people who hurt me, out of love for those around me. I'm glad that at the end of the day, I know beyond a doubt I am a better person than you. Maybe it is a good thing you're a Christian.. I think Jesus IS the only one who could forgive you for the terrible things you've said and done.
There is only one way I'd forgive you and I know you'd never do it, so why even bother. But you'd need to take back what you said about my mother dying because of me being terrible daughter, and take back what you said about me someday being a terrible mother who will only hurt Mike. I will never, ever forgive anything you have said and done unless those two things are addressed.
And I hope to god some day you grow up, and maybe grow a heart, and learn what compassion or at the least, a little freaking silence, is.
To Mike:
I wish you understood what it felt like to be pregnant and then miscarry. I wish you knew how painful it was, how jarring it was with the twins. I wish you saw them as your children, your babies too.
I don't think you'll ever know how much you hurt me when you told me you'd likely never forgive me if I had children before YOU were ready. I can't believe still how selfish you're being, pinning it all on me. You have no right to tell me what to do with my body, you have no right to tell me how I should and shouldn't feel. You helped make it, Buddy. That's a consequence of our actions.
I know you apologized, said you didn't mean that. It was the first thing you said though, first thing off of your lips. You did mean it, and it hurts me. But I will do what feels best for me in this situation-- and if you truly loved me, truly cared about me, you would let me do what's best and love me for it.
I know you are afraid.. it scares me too. But billions of people have done it before us and done it just fine. People worse off then us, have. You don't have to be afraid of what people will thing, what your family will think. We make our own path in life and I hope some day you realize that you don't have to immediately put the world before yourself, and before me.
--
Whew. I feel way better now.
Oh wow, Nikki. You must be one of the strongest people around given what you've had to put up with and how strong your resolve is despite it all. Keep being strong . . . you've got your head on straight and seem to value what's important in life. Regardless of the crap that comes your way, find comfort in the fact that you're indeed living the good life.
Good luck,
carol
Oh wow, Nikki. You must be one of the strongest people around given what you've had to put up with and how strong your resolve is despite it all. Keep being strong . . . you've got your head on straight and seem to value what's important in life. Regardless of the crap that comes your way, find comfort in the fact that you're indeed living the good life.
Good luck,
carol
Thank you for that. I never used to consider myself to be strong but I do my best.. my first letter was pretty hateful but I think that's because I have never said a bad word to or about my future MIL to anyone but like, my mother. It was like a floodgate when I started writing!
I wouldn't call it hateful . . . it's venting. That's what this post is about. And, it's better to be able to get it all out like this than to say something in the heat of the moment that you can't take back. And yes, you're an extremely strong individual. I would have snapped a long time ago if I had gone through all that you've been through! I've often found that people act so hateful (like your MIL seems to be doing) when they feel like they've lost or are losing control. Maybe she sees what a positive force you are to her son and she's flipping out because she knows she isn't half the person that you are and she's threatened by it. Either way, don't let her get to you. She very clearly is not speaking from intelligence, she's talking out of spite and therefore nothing that she's saying is worth an ounce of your energy.
To my mom and hubby... 
If I'm not hungry then I'm not hungry, leave me alone about it... I'll eat when I'm hungry or when I want too....
To the nurses at the hospital:
Quit treating my mum like s**t. She is not a drug addict as much as you all may like to think it. Nor is she there to waste your time. She is in genuine pain and needs painkillers to help her through it. If she has an esophogeal spasm attack one night and then is back with another the next afternoon for Gods sake help her and dont just ignore her.
Stop making malicious comments in the nursing station when you know her daughter (me) is sitting within hearing distance. Actually just stop making comments all together. Don't tell her to stop moaning in pain and then refuse to shut up the drunk guy in the curtain next to us. Quit being b****es to my mum one minute and then the next be sugary sweet to the other patients.
If she is cold (because she is under the air conditioning vent) and asks for a blanket, do your job and get her one! If I am cold and tired , because I have been sitting under the same vent all night after coming off an eight hour shift, and ask for a blanket too please be so kind to get me one.Do not look at her and have the audactity to say " that by now your daughter should know where the clean laundry is kept, since you have been here so often. We are too busy to help you". Especially not after you have just gotten a WARMED blanket for the man across the way!
You guys should all be glad that I am all the way in France at the moment because next time I encounter this c*** I will make sure that you walk away in shame. The things I hear over the phone from my mum and grandma bring tears to my eyes and I will no longer let you get away with it.
Wow that was theraputic. thanks
To my eventually will be ex-husband:
Stop coddling our child when he needs discipline! Stop undoing all of the progress I've made with him. Learn how to discipline and start realizing I love him more than anything and want the best for him! I don't like disciplining him any more than you do, but I do it because it is necessary! You have never once put him in a time-out, taken a toy away, or given him ANY kind of consequence for his actions. You are making me the bad guy and it's not fair! It's affecting my relationship with the love of my life (my son) and I am worn out from the uphill battle I am having to fight that shouldn't have such a steep grade! Just because your mother coddled you when you did things you shouldn't have, doesn't make it ok for you to do the same to our son. You are a middle aged self centered man with no direction in life. You're mother was WRONG!
I want you to STOP interfering with my discipline unless you are going to help. When I am taking him to a time-out and he is freaking out, *I* am not causing it. I am not doing ANYTHING to him,, HOW DARE YOU ASK WHAT THE HECK I WAS DOING TO HIM. He is a very strong willed and intense child, and when he hits and pinches and kicks HE NEEDS A TIME-OUT, even if it takes two of us to get him there! Don't take him from me and talk to him softly like he has done nothing wrong. I am not hurting him, I am doing what a parent SHOULD be doing! AAARRRGH!!!
Phew, that felt good. Now I need to say it to his face.
to all those people out there that pick & choose who you want to get on to, correct or dismiss, screw you!!!! and watch what you say to one person, when there are so many more out there doing the same & saying even more--the more i think about it the more freaking pissed i get!!!!!
I'm so glad to see this post. I just got back from lunch at work and I wanna vent sooooooooooooo bad!!! To my co-workers, who for some reason think they are so much better than me just because I am the receptionist and they are the sales reps. Screw you all. I have been at this job for a year and from day 1 you rarely talk to me or include me in your conversations. When asked if I were going to the Christmas party I said no I didn't have a babysitter. Lie , why would I go with people who do nothing but gossip about eachother and b------t and complain and then when I say no I'm not going say, Ahhh, we'll miss you. PLEASE.... you don't even know I exist and I've been nothing but polite to you. When I have to go to the warehouse to get something, the guys back there actually carry on a conversation with me. So glad this fall, hopefully sooner I'll be leaving this s--thole of a workplace. And they just offered me a raise and better position which I accepted because I need the money but I'm still leaving this fall!!!!! I hear all your little secrets when you are sitting 2ft away and think I don't and how RUDE to bring in snacks for the little clique? up front and not offer them to anybody else. And to the regular customers who call each and every day and are rude to the point I stick you on hold because you can't say a simple thank-you, screw yourself as well. As you can see I really hate my job! Thanks for letting me vent, because I was on the verge of crying 
I'm so stressed out today.
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