Okay so a few years ago my hubby and i were having some serious problems and he was struggling with alcahol addiction and in a drunkin stuper he cheated with a very unsavory character (to put it lightly). We have since moved on and worked things out we are both doing very well and we're actually ahppier than we have ever been... So here's the kicker...I'm driving up our street and notice a U-Haul parked across the street at the house that was for rent...so i roll down my foggy window and go slow to have a peek (i'm nosey) And there she is standing in the front picture window. OOOOOMMMMMGGGGG! Are you kidding me? Does God hate me? This is the kind of thing you see on Desperate house wives and you laugh and say "oh thats tooo funny" Not so much in real life...not..so ..much. Can i come live with one of you?
Oh he knows!! I made sure of that the moment i got in the door. Just going to have to deal with it i guess. There will not be a welcome to the neighborhood cake! Can you just imagine?lol. No i dont think kshe realizes yet. I'm sure she will when she recognises one of our 4 kids playing outside or one of us going to the van. She wont be able to miss us she's right across the freaking street. I can see her TV from my livingroom. 
OSOD (oh #$#@, oh dear, to coin a phrase from a few years ago)...that is unbelievable! Do you think she planned it? I don't know how I'd handle a situation like that, but my first thought would be like yours, get the heck out of Dodge!
I am so sorry, this really puts you and your husband in a terrible situation, unless we are jumping to the conclusion that she is there to cause trouble. I suppose it is possible that it is just an amazingly awful coincidence. Good luck, and let us know how it goes. Janice
HOLY CRAP!!!!! This can not be happening to you!!! Time to put the house up for sale and move the #$%% out of there!
If the weather's really cold where your at, you could ice her doorstep, and hope she busts her head up in the morning... sorry, that's bad advice I know, but that's where my mind wants to wonder on this one!
so i just realized that there ARE some good reasons for living in the country (boonies)
I'M SO SO SO SO SO SORRY FOR YOU-- 
SHE NEVER KNEW WHERE YOUR DH LIVED --PLEASE TELL ME SHE DIDN'T--I REALLY HOPE SHE DIDN'T KNOW & IS AS SHOCKED AS YOU & LEAVES QUICK!!! 
I'll have to agree, that this is not a coincidence. Is this woman stalking? Is it Fatal Attraction? Unfortunately, it sounds like you will have to talk to your husband and dig for the truth. This does not make it easy for you and I am sure your husband will agree. Since you'll are getting along better, I hope this doesn't destroy what you have worked so hard to achieve. Trust is so important in a relationship. I wish you luck, but I would definitely keep your guard up.
You guys are awesome! I'm pretty sure it's not a fatal attraction stalking. In our community there are subsudised housing scattered throughout the county. There is no specific place that these homes are. The government just buys bungalos and duplexes or builds them all over (nice part of town bad part of town doesnt matter) We happen to have one of these "low income" housing unites across the street. So the government put her trashy a$$ there. We moved here only 5 months ago so she didnt know where we live now.
I swear that things of this nature happen to me alot. I try to be an optomistic person but this is getting rediculouse. OO I forgot about the REAL kicker. She has 2 kids (from 2 different guys neither of witch were actial boyfriends ) One of these kids she tried to pin on my DH. Test proved otherwise but that put me right over the edge for a while.
The other bad part about her being over there is she is not the type to do things like...WORK! So here and her partner in crime (also has kids by 2 different people) hang out smoking and drinking and God knows what. I cant wait till the summertime to listen to their drunk a$$es hanging out on the pattio. This is a very small community and this particular street an any given evening if you listen out your window you can hear a converation in the other houses if their window is open. And i;m not talking a loud conversation either. The whole street is filled with kids to. Everyone has at least 2 and they all play together. Cant wait till that happens. Oh God this is not going to be fun. I try to be a good person! I realy do but I must have done somethinbg in a past life that i'm still being punished for. 
you haven't done anything, but i can tell you i would freak out myself. what are your instincts telling you. thats a huge sign.
OMG! You poor poor thing!!!!
I guess you're just being tested....in a very hard way. I believe we have to be taught "lessons" and if you don't learn it the first time around, you get "taught" again.....tbut the lesson gets harder & harder each time it's repeated....but that's just what I believe.
My initial thoughts were to tell you to stand your ground, etc., etc and don't let her control your life.......and "make" you move or similar.
If I was in your shoes I simply could not do it...there's no way I'd be able to look at her house, vehicle, children, HER or even things like "her" grass...ya know?? I wouldn't even want my children playing with her children......we're here for you to support you and talk about whatever to help you overcome this.....I just don't know what I'd do if I were in your shoes.
Thanks, tara, for giving me another good reason about living in the boonies....glad I'm not the only one that calls it that, lol! 
Good Luck to you and your family!!!
Well, If it were me, it would be impossible to just "move", so that option probably isn't the best. A few years ago, my husband had a questionable moment (althought he did not cheat, his actions were very unacceptable). This was with the neighbor's daughter (adult daughter). She also doesn't work, and lives with her parents most of the time. So, needless to say, she is next door ALOT. This happened when I was pregnant with my second son. Right after he was born, we went for a walk as a family, and as we left the back gate, there she was. She made a point to say hello to just my husband. I can't look at her, talk to her, etc. When I see her out in the back yard, I ignore her. When I pull out of my garage and see her next to her truck.....bad thoughts....hmmm, what if I "accidentally" hit her 
. I guess the only advice I have is for you not to give her the time of day. I know it's going to be difficult, but really, she's not worth your time or energy. Good luck, and hopefully her move won't negatively affect your life. Sometimes the best "revenge" is to let her see how happy you and hubby and children are now. Let her see that she was nothing in your lives, and that you've overcome.
I feel for you. A few years ago my dh was in a drunk mode too and had a little fun-ship as well, with the married lady two doors down from us. All reactions aside, all I can tell you is to pray about it. It's not easy anyway you slice it. For us, due to the fact that I didn't want to commit murder (to either of them) we moved. It definately wasn't an easy decision considering that we had our house built and had only been there for 1 1/2 years and we ended up getting screwed on the sale ($) just to get out of there, but it was worth it. Keep your cool and your head and know that God's not playing some evil trick on you, it'll all work out.
Do cake decorators have the biggest hearts or what? You guys are great. It's very comforting to know that there are people who know how you feel. I would never move on acount of her. I love my home and have only been her 5 months. There is a path in our back yard the leads right to me daughters school, i can see it from my dinning room window. We lived in the "bad" part of town since I was 17 and my daughter was born. We lived in a trailer and the school on that side of town was not great and they lost her once when she was sick (long story). This school is the best one in the community and the only one with french emersion. We are now in the nicest part of town in a 3 bedroom HOUSE. this may not be a big deal to some people but its huge for me. Im not going anywhere.
That said i think this lady's life (and i use the term lady ever so lightly) is punishment enought for her as far as i am concerned. She lives with her mother who takes care of her kids and neither one of them have ever worked. They are on welfare and have no vehicle. I see her around town all the time so its not like i never see her id just rather not have to look at her ugly mug from my home lol. And dear god she is ugly. (this also comforts my he he) My hubby and I have a pretty good sense of humor about everything in life and if you cant laugh at yourselfe or your situation what's the point? I'm over it and although it sucks and ill never forget it and hate that shes here my revenge is living here and being successfull in my life and happy with my hubby, and I have 4 of the most georgeous kiddies on the planet. (biased?? nooooo.)
i was going to attatch a pic but cant figureout how
Well good for you!!
Just stay positive and don't let her ruin your life at all!!
Everyone makes mistakes from time to time...some bigger than others... 
....I'm just glad to hear that you've overcome it and you're happier than ever...as you said in your first post.
Good Luck to you!!!
BTW....I'm SO SO SO happy that you love your childs school!!!!
I have 4 of the most georgeous kiddies on the planet. (biased?? nooooo.) i was going to attatch a pic but cant figureout how
can't attach pics in the lounge & can't post pics w/faces in the threads or gallery--BUT u can put a picture of them up as your avatar 
about the garbage outside your house, surround yourself & house in roses (love)--you're a brave person--CONGRATULATIONS on moving past all that has happened to you, i wish you the best in the months to come, i feel for you having to decide how close your children get to her's--IT SEEMS YOU HAVE ALOT OF STRENGTH, SO STAY STRONG
WEll you can try a poison cake ball welcome basket! (desperate housewifes style) 
I dont realy have any advice for you...I dont think I could deal with it.
But I do wish you luck!
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