Ok so here is my situation. I was really excited about thanksgiving this year. Its the first year that my daughter can eat real food and I am so excited and I have alot to be thank full for this year. Anyways so my Husbands dad is usually here for Thanksgiving and so we go to there house and then to my moms well my husbands dad wasnt supposed to be in town this year he works in Brazil and my husband got a new truck and he doesnt want to put too much miles on it to drive an hour to my moms and then back so... My mom was supposed to come here with my sister and we where going to do everything here. Well my mom keeps changing her mind and I bought everything for thanksgiving and I really had my hopes up that I was doing it at my house. Well yesturday my mom said she wasnt going to be able to come. This morning she calls me and says that my step dad is taking off work early to come and drop them off at my house and so we can all do thanksgiving together. So need less to say I was SOOOO excited. Well now my husbands dad is coming in to town and I didnt find out till like 5 minutes ago and so of course we are expected to come to ther house. Well I hate my husbands step mom but I still called her and asked her what I should bring since I was told before to bring cheese cake and pumpkin pie. But now she tells me they all hate pumpkin pie and already have a cheese cake which I am sure was bought at the store they dont know how to cook. So anyways I am sittting at my house pi@@ed off because I have a turkey and everything else to go with it probably spent over 100 dollars on stuff for thanksgiving. So I cant get ahold of my mom. My mom hates my husbands step mom because she is an evil little witch and treats me like crap and I have never done anything to her but get my husband out of there hair. So what am I supposed to do??????
I would have Thanksgiving at my house. These were the plans from the start, you have made all of the preparations, and your mom and sis are on their way over. I would tell my hubby that we are staying home and if he wants to, he can ask his dad to stop by for dessert later in the afternoon since they want to have Thanksgiving at their house. I would not cancel my plans to go running to the in-laws, especially if they did not make me feel welcome. Just my two cents.....
I agree and the lady doesnt even cook she buys everything at the store except for sometimes she makes mashed potatoes. "SOME TIMES" One time she had a bowl of whole potatoes whole onions and whole apples all together like we where really going to eat that.
Ooh, that would frustrate me to no end. If I had a backbone I would say, sorry but we're just going to stay here this year since I already bought the stuff. And say they are still invited if they want to come over. But I don't, so I would probably cave and just save the dinner stuff for another time. Sorry, I'm a wimp. So, if you can, I'd say take desireeds advice. Good luck!
Ok.. I am sitting here crying becuase I am falling apart. So many of you probably may or may not know I am a law student and so I took 6 quizzes and a 3 hour test as well as submitted about 7 different assignments and now there was a huge glitch with the online classes that I take and all of my work has disappeared. So need less to say they will probably make us re do all of them. I dont know what to do so I am going to the kitchen and making a huge batch of fudge and going to sit in front of the tv cry eat fudge and watch martha. And if his family calls I will probably tell them off. I have the worst attitude when I am upset. I will probably gain 50 pounds over the next 2 days.
OMG I feel for ya, really! I've lost coursework before, but THAT MUCH? Go, cry, eat, contact tech support for your school. Get in the habit of copy/pasting the answers into a word document, so you have them JIC something like this happens. Call your mom, tell her what happened and see if she can come over and save the day. ((HUGS!!!))
Ok well the school has this thing on there quizes and test that prevents you from copying anything so that rules that out. Tech support says that everything since last thursday is gone that 6 days of work. Oh by the way I take 5 classes. So 6 days of work in 5 classes is alot of work. Thank good I saved my assignments but as for the test and quizes go that is crazy and my teacher says that we have to retake them. WHAT retake them I spent over 12 hours taking quizes and test and now you want me to retake them hold on that is way to much.
Oh yeah belive it they want us to retake the test and quizes this calls for a strike. I am trying to make myself feel better kind of working till I get on the phone and someone brings it up again. I hate when people just dont understand and they tell you its no big deal. WHAT no big deal. Well thats how I feel. Some people dont get stressed out but I do. It is really not my week I tell you. So my husband is such a great guy though and he is going to tell his family we are just going to come by and say hi but no food for us. He wants my cooking. I tell you what I bet I get present out of this...
so where do you live?? 
What do I need now?? LOL.
Divorce both families and start your own traditions. Have dinner at your home, all are invited. If they show up, fine, if not you and your husband enjoy it by yourselves.
That's better advice than you know. I had a co-worker once who was in a panic about what she was going to do at Thanksgiving because ".... Gramma died! We ALWAYS go to Gramma's for thanksgiving!" Her tradition was "go to gramma's house" and she honestly had no idea what to do now that there was no Gramma's house to go to!
When I was divorced and remarried, my ex requested that I keep the kids on Thanksgiving and he get them all day the next Friday. That way we could both enjoy a full holiday dinner with them and they wouldn't be double stuffed from double dinners! It became the one holiday we didn't have to share and we made it ours! We created the tradition of the Thanksgiving Game ..... every year, we bought a new board game and all of us played it after dinner. That was 18 years ago and now our grandchildren are part of the after-dinner-games, too!
Traditions start somewhere! 
Divorce both families and start your own traditions. Have dinner at your home, all are invited. If they show up, fine, if not you and your husband enjoy it by yourselves.
Yup, this is the way to go. You can't please everyone (even if they didn't keep changing their minds!) and you'll get worn down because it's exhausting.
Politely listen to everyone, then follow your heart, and do what makes you happy. Others may not like it but they'll get used to it, and eventually even respect you for it.
Cheers, from
SwampWitch
p.s. Guess this is late... hope it worked out.
My In-laws did the same thing about Christmas once their kids got married and had multiple families wanting visits.
They decided to celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve, they did everything they used to do on Christmas, just one day earlier. Plus my In-Laws then got to go play golf on Christmas.
It's SO great! Even thought my MIL (who did everything) is gone, we still celebrate on Christmas Eve and then everyone can go to their other side of the family on Christmas. My kids LOVE the double celebration.
Thanks everyone!!!!! I made it through thanksgiving. My husband steped up to the plate and told his family we would only be coming to say hi and let them see our daughter but we are not eating. My mom made it to my house and I cooked up a storm. Made the best cheesecake I have ever had. Then went to his parents and he told them how much better he liked my cooking it was very funny. Anyways my school website is still messing up so I will probably have to be doing 5 weeks of work in 3 weeks. But trying not to thank about it. I just cant wait to be out of school for the holiday spend lots of time with my daughter and get lots of practice on decorating.
Sounds like you're husband's great, and I'm glad it turned out so well.
Cheers, from
SwampWitch
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