Wedding Coordinator Said My Cake Was Ugly!!!!!
Decorating By Florimbio Updated 3 Oct 2007 , 6:02pm by JenniferV
If she is a local, do a bit of discrete checking of her reputation. It sounds like pocket book sour grapes (no finders fee) or over inflated ego to me. She may have decided since she is a 'wedding coordinator' that only her opinion matters- forget the bride and groom's opinion.
As far as would I say anything to the bride; that's a tough one, a double edged sword. If the the bride thinks her day was perfect, why spoil it for her? On the other hand, that woman shouldn't get recommendations. Of course she may have ticked off other people too. That's why I would do a bit of discrete checking. You may not be the only one she has offended.
you've got to tell us what happends - this is bettern All My children!
but seriously- i know how you feel- never had anyone actually say anything so rude but just turning up their noses. I worried and worried till i hear from one Mo. of the bride- who said they all loved the cake. Who cares what snotty coordinators think! K
First, that cake is gorgeous! Simply great!
Next, her 'my two-year-old could do better' etc. comment was ignorant in the 'lacking knowledge' sense. Since it's highly unlikely that she herself could do that cake then neither could her (or any) two-year-old. Ignorant.
Third, what the bride and groom paid for the cake is not any business of the coordinator's or anyone else's. If, God forbid, this happens in the future, simply respond "This is the cake the bride and groom desired. If you have a problem with it, I suggest you speak with her."
Finally, when I'm in a situation where someone is trying to put me down I remember a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt - 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.'
Great cake!
You know, I saw the topic line, and my brain started picturing something.... funky. 
Then I saw the picture and literally shouted out loud "Is that woman insane?!" If only my cakes were so "ugly". I think that cake is absolutly gorgeous!
I agree with those who say to take the "I was concerned..." approach when talking to the bride. Comes across much professional than "Your stupid b! 
*# wedding cooridnator said the cake was ugly!" Though that way is slightly more satisfying. 
Ok I just opened the link & hubby looked over and said "that's an awesome cake".
He's right, it is. 
Now this woman could be on the cover of Victoria's Secret - but I would have said, "Ugly??? Have you looked in the mirror lately?"
Have you heard from the bride? I bet she loved it and if she didn't - they are PSYCHO! That is a gorgeous cake!
BTW, where did you get your topper? It's beautiful!
Don't you worry...keep on doing what you do because it's beautiful work - OH and $150? 
That's WAY too low a price honey - increase your prices, you're worth it!
Ok, I have not read all the posts on here but I'm betting they all say the same thing. That cake is AWESOME! It is beautiful and classy. I think you should call that banquet hall and let the management know what that coordinator said. Even if she is an independent wedding coordinator. That was rude, unprofessional and completely uncalled for. No ones opinion matters but the bride and groom and she should have kept her mouth shut. I'll bet the bride and groom loved it!! For the record I would have cried all the way home too!
Thanks everyone...I am feeling much more confident now
I e-mailed the bride...Gave her a heartfelt congrats, thanked her for letting me share in her day, and then asked if the cake was what she had invisioned? I hinted that someone said that it was not what she has wanted..I did not name names YET....I thew out the line...lets see if the Bride takes the bait, so I can throw the coordinator in to the fire, hehe... 
Thanks so much everyone for all the suport, CC'ers are the best...it is funny...I have told this story to my friends, hubby, etc...but they just do not "GET IT"...Our cakes are our art...you put so much of yourself into one, that IS upsetting when ya get a rude comment...Only fellow decorators will understand.... 
OMG! I can't believe someone would say that about your cake. It is a very beautiful cake and I bet the bride and groom were very happy with it. She is a rude, self-centered, jealous B*tch and do not listen to her or to anyone else that says your cake isn't lovely. I hope when I get a chance to make a wedding cake, my cake turns out as lovely and beautiful as yours.
OMG, just saw the subject line and had to see the cake!! That women is in no position to assess your cake, she is the wedding coordinator not thwe cake maker!! Who does she think she is?? You shud be so proud of yourself, that look like a bc cake to me? it looks fab and classy!! Well done, next time any further remarks you shud have walked out on her!! and let them deal with the situation, they would have had to call you back anyway as i don't think they would have been able to find a replacement cake so quick!
Cheers nauseen
I can't believe the nerve on some people. How rude!! Your cake is beautiful and for $150.00!!! That cake is worth much more than that. I am not an expert but that cake should run around $350. Did the bride like it??? I can't get over that woman, I thought rude people were only in Florida.
I live in Florida, and I am not a rude person.
First of all I want to say you did a wonderful job on the cake. It is beautiful. The bride got a lot of cake for what she paid.
Second, I would have reacted the same way you did. I would have cried all the way home. The coordinator was TOTALLY unprofessional! But, even if they are rude to us, we as artist, decorators and professionals can't step down to their level as much as we would like to do just that. After I got done being hurt, I would be spitting mad, but would never let them know that they got to me. Most times it is just better to walk away.
If you had any doubts about your cake because of what one unprofessional person said, you should have your confidance restored by the many positive posts that your have recieved from your friends on CC.
JMO
Your cake is very beautiful! You should be proud of it. The Wedding Coordinator was very unprofessional to say something like that.
What !! Your should have said, " Oh my goodness, i was just about to say the same thing about the wedding coordinator ! You shouldn't have tried to read my mind, you got it all screwed up ! "
Your cake is beautiful, pay no attention to the idiot that thinks she's a cake decorator. If she was, then why didn't she make it ?
Florimbio, I hope you have taken the hugs and pats on the back here as they are intended: as our way of letting you know you are in the right here!
The problem with the coordinator is that she needs to learn to "edit" her thoughts before expressing them. No, you did not provide a "stand", but your solution is elegant in its own right.
I've been making wedding cakes for 31 years and I can tell you, they've not all been masterpieces in my eyes. In fact, there are some I have even refused to photograph, but the ultimate Judge of my work is the person who ordered and paid for the cake OR the person for whom the cake is intended (if it's a surprise or a gift). If that person's taste is not like mine, I do my best to make the cake representative of their own personal image.
Screw the coordinator to the wall: calling her company and speaking with the boss is a possibility. That lady should be made aware that her negative comments regarding the work of others should never be expressed in her workplace. Feelings can be hurt and reputations lost, and in this instance it should be HER reputation to suffer.
Your work is neat and very attractive. Be proud of your accomplishment and proudly display any thank you notes you receive for your work with pride at your tastings. Those are the referrals that ring true. An unhappy customer will not send you a glowing note of thanks. And those notes will ultimately reinforce to your customers what you can do for them.
HTH,
Happy Baking,
Odessa
That goes back to another post....I CAN'T BELIEVE THE NERVE OF SOME PEOPLE!!!!!
Your cake is absolutely gorgeous!!! That coordinator is no professional if she's acting that way! I would definitely let the bride know about the shoddy treatment. She may want to pass it on to her friends that this coordinator treats other vendors terribly!!!!
Don't let this inconsiderate woman get to you! You definitely did a wonderful job! The bride and groom were lucky to find you!
Keep your chin up and know that we're all here to support you!
Like RRGibson, I am also a wedding coordinator and this person you had to deal with was extremely unprofessional!! I'm willing to bet that she wasn't a true, professional coordinator at all, but a familly friend or a fly-by-night "coordinator". Wedding coordinators understand that in this business it's about referrals and so you are cordial, polite to all vendors. I have coordinated weddings that I personally didn't care for anything the couple chose, but it's their day, their dime and they're paying for my time & expertise, not my critisims (which if they wanted it would have been done in the planning stages, not on the wedding day).
All that said, I think your cake was beautiful, looks very elegant and for $150.00 !!! They got MORE than what they paid you for! Keep up the beautiful work
I live in Florida, and I am not a rude person.
I grew up in Florida and that descript could fit me fairly well. However, even I have enough class to wait until the person's back is turned before criticing their work.
I think your cake is just down right Gorgeous!!!!! That lady is just rude and nasty and I woouldn't let her comments bother you.You did a Great Job!!!
Keep On Baking,
Stacy
I can't believe the nerve on some people. How rude!! Your cake is beautiful and for $150.00!!! That cake is worth much more than that. I am not an expert but that cake should run around $350. Did the bride like it??? I can't get over that woman, I thought rude people were only in Florida.
Chericakes,,,,,Omaida didn't say all people in Florida are rude.........I'm sure she didn't mean to imply that either. I lived in Florida several years ago and only met one true Floridian the whole time I was there. All the rest were snowbirds.
Diane
It's been said so accurately so many times already, but that is a beautiful cake. Very impressive!
Like RRGibson, I am also a wedding coordinator and this person you had to deal with was extremely unprofessional!! I'm willing to bet that she wasn't a true, professional coordinator at all, but a familly friend or a fly-by-night "coordinator".
This is what it sounds like to me, too. When I have a bride bring her "coordinator" with her, I ask them "how long have you been in this business?" so I can find out if I'm dealing with a professional or a twit. The twits tend to feel that they are "in charge" of the wedding, so they think their opinion is the do-all-be-all and that everyone is dying to get the twit's approval.
I luv working with professional coordinators, but god save us all from the twits who think being a bridesmaid once or twice makes her an expert in all things wedding!
Like everyone else, I'm waiting on pins and needles for this bride's reply!
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