I have been with my husband for 7 years. NEVER in these 7 years has he shown any signs of jealousy. Monday my mother called me and said that J (my ex-b/f from 14-18 ) was coming to town and wanted to see US. His family are good friends of my family and have been for 30+ years. I talked to DH about it and he said he had no problem with it. We were kids, that was 14 years ago, no big deal. Well, I was really excited to see J I haven't seen him in probably 12 years. So Mom and J show up. . .DH is nice then . . .J says, "You are still just as pretty as you were the last time I saw you." I said, "Thank you, I try." Then just laugh. DH starts getting pi$$y, going in and out of the room, arms crossed, obviously bothered. J recognized this and said, "Mrs. R, we probably should get going, I have a meeting tomorrow and need to get to bed early." I walked them outside and told him it was nice to see him, told him to take care, hugged him and said good-bye. When I got back in the house you would have thought he caught me in bed with J! J had also been to see my grandmother, brother and the 2 sisters I have who live near. He didn't come here to see me specifically! I sat DH down and told him if he was going to have a problem with it he should have said no. I would have respected that. He admitted he was jealous and didn't like to see J put his hands on me (hugged me) and tell me how good I looked (you are still pretty). He just was sickened by the fact that he had to sit in the same room with a man I had sex with. Not only had sex with but was my first sexual experience (at 17). J was very respectful of myself and Dh. He was not creepy like feeling me up and giving me they eye. I see now that I should have just said no, I don't feel right about that. I never saw this coming! I deal with several people who had relationships with. 2 wives and an ex-g/f. I have no problem with them. I chose him and he chose me. Where did all this come from? I have ZERO feelings for J! I am not going anywhere, I love my DH dearly! I am having a hard time seeing things through his eyes. He's still pissed off and it's Wednesday! I got a whole 3 words this am. How's that for conversation? WTH?????
Elle
I know right? I usually lead the most drama fee life! The past month has been nothing but drama! I need a break already!
Elle
Your DH just needs lots of reassurance. Stroke him (literally and figuratively). Let him know how lucky YOU are that you waited for the best! Seeing J really made you appreciate your DH even more and what a lucky woman you are to have found him....glad you didn't settle for less than the best.....can't imagine your life without DH.......how you wish HE had been the one and only (everything else was a waste!)......tell him you adore him! No, this is not manipulation, it's thoughtfulness and caring for your DH's feelings. AND it's not a lie! Your feelings for your DH come through loud and clear!
Men can be just as sensitive/jealous as women. Let him know that he rocks your world!!!!! Then show him................oh, my!!!!!!
I think you DH needs a swift kick in the a**! Seriously, he'll get over it. I do agree with lsawyer's post though. Men have very fragile ego's.
Poor guy. 
He came home tonight and apologized for his behavior. He admitted that he was jealous and had acted childish over he whole thing. He said that J was very handsome, single and young with a great career and he well, felt 50, wrinkled and unaccomplished. He is none of that except the 50 part. 50 has been very hard for him. I'm 31 so have noooo clue yet!So I stroked his ego and. . . 
Told him how much I loved "doing life" with him. He's great now. I'm thinking flowers tomorrow. HAHAHAHA
Elle
Dueter, how funny. You read my mind! That was propbably the worse sexual experience of my life. HAHAHAHA...DH has come back to Earth. It is like wine!
Elle
You have NO IDEA what turing 50 means...it is devestating to deal with. It is probably hard for a 31 yr. old to understand completely. Turning 40 was no big deal, but 50 is different. You have a tendency to feel your life is half over, you feel old, you notice sagging skin, maybe a pot belly, the list goes on and on. If I were married to someone 20 yrs my junior and his high school sweatheart (who his family adores) shows up for a visit, I would feel the pangs of jealousy as well. After all she is YOUNG, BEAUTIFUL, WONDERFUL CAREER, yada yada yada. It's called mid-life crisis, it is hell for a few years until you accept aging, maybe men behave differently. I bought a new RED Chevy Camero Convertible shortly after turning 50, let my hair grow, lost some weight, started flirting and eventually got a divorce (which I very much regret). Stroke his ego, reassure him, believe me it's an act of love to be reminded that he is number 1 with you. One last note, I will be turing 60 in November, and ya know what...I don't mind a bit for some odd reason!
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