Ok... here's my story....
Several weeks ago, I agreed to make two cakes for a friend of mine who has two little boys with very close birthdays. The cakes are scheduled to be made for their joint party on september 8th. This normally would be no problem... 
I am 36 weeks pregnant and have had no problems up to this point. This past week I have had some issues with my blood pressure and headaches and a fair amount of swelling. I went in today for my scheduled doctor appointment and was diagnosed with preeclampsia and have been put on bed rest until the baby is born. 
I thought to myself... i will still do the cakes- no problem. Then the doctor continued talking and informed me that induction is more than likely going to be the method of labor and will be determined after my next appointment- which is wednesday. So it looks like the possibility of me being induced on thursday or friday is fairly high. This means there is no chance of me being able to decorate those two cakes on friday night for the saturday party. 
I called my friend and told her that I wouldnt be able to do the cakes but I was really looking forward to it. She said it was no problem but im emotional and feel guilty because her boys specifically asked for my cake as opposed to a wal mart cake and I feel like I have let them down. And then after reading that, I feel like a bad mother by feeling guilty over my baby arriving at an inopportune time. I should be happy... instead I am a blubbering swollen butterball sitting in a recliner with a computer on my non exsistant lap and all I can do is cry... 
Im sorry im just venting... I guess the reason I wrote this is to for warn the pregnant ones to be leery of accepting cake requests in the last month of their pregnancy... I feel like a terrible friend and awful mother at the moment. 
Sweetheart, you are stressed, you don't need to feel guilty about anything. The only thing to focus on right now is do what the Dr. said. You and your baby's health are in the forefront right now.....your friends' childrens birthday cakes are not a priority, and your friend understands that. It's hard during the last couple of weeks, it will soon pass. I hope you have alot of family support right now, sounds like you could use it. Best wishes for delivering a healthy baby, and remember you take care of yourself, please, please stay on your bed rest.
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(if it is still allowed for a nonrelated man to do that! 
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you are neither a bad mom or bad friend....
tho', you do qualify as a horribly hormonal emotional basket case! 
but then, isn't that par for the course for someone as pregnant as you!? 
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baby is coming when baby needs to come -- so just relax --- your last opportunity for 18+ years!!!! 
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and there is "tomorrow" to make the cakes for the boys. don't sell them short, I bet they understand that your baby has to come first (literally and figuratively).
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so chin up, belly dropped and on to mommy-hood you go. ----
and NOW YOUNG LADY --- get to bed! where you belong.
after all -- it's Dr.'s orders you do! 
Just personal experience - we've lost more cakes in the oven (40+) than babies (2) "in the oven" - I'll take losing another cake anyday. You have nothing to feel guilty for at all. If I were your DH though - I'd make you a cake for being such a friend.l
I'm sure she understood. The health of yourself and your baby take precedence over those cakes. All you can do is follow your doctors orders and don't sweat it. Take care of you! Maybe after the baby is born you can make them a little goody for being so understanding. You aren't a bad mother, you are emotional. ((((((HUG))))))
Elle
I waw hospitalized at 27 weeks and had a c-section at 28 weeks two days before my daughter's 5th birthday. I had planned a beautiful cake for her party, instead it was a walmart cake with a plastic mermaid on it at the bedside. She loved it and still plays with the mermaid!
What I mean is the best laid plans do not work out but the most important things in life are you and your baby. Keep focused on that.
My little one is now 7 months old, happy and healthy thanks to the doctors making me go to the hospital when they did. The boys probably won't remember a cake a few months from now, but having a healthy baby is pricelss.
Let go of the guilt! (((hugs)))
Diane x
Awww...sweetie...this won't be the last time your kids don't cooperate with you! ha ha It's frustrating...I sympathise with you. I was on bedrest from month 3 to the end with my second child, meanwhile I had an 18-month old running around that someone ELSE had to take care of because I wasn't allowed off the couch. Needless to say, cakes should be the last thing on your mind...just take care of yourself and get that baby out and as soon as you see his/her screaming little face you'll forget all about the guilt over these cakes.
Good luck!
Speaking from someone who also had pre-eclampsia--take care of yourself and your baby first. The boys will have another birthday next year. I was a crazy emotional woman. I cried over everything the last month. Promise the boys they can come over and hold the baby after its born. Just think it could be born on one of their birthdays! Bet they would think that was neat!
Hello there from another pre-eclampsia member. My doctor put me in the hospital in order to keep me off my feet and protect my baby. That was the only way he said !! He knew that with twin girls and a teenager there was no way I was going to stay in bed!! He was right, I would not have listened!!
So don't feel guilty! You will have MANY more years to makes their birthday cakes.
Follow the doctor's advice!!!
Take care!! 
DanaJones,
O SWEETHERAT THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOUR BABY HAS ITS MIND OF HIS OWN AND THAT IS WITHOUT SAYING YOUR BODY HAS BEEN INVAITED BY A LITTLE SUNSHINE INSIDE OF YOU. A LITTLE GREEN ALLIEN I DO UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT YOUR GOING THRU I WAS HOSPITALIZED FOR 7 MONTHS 
YES 7 MONTHS MY BABY WANTED TO COME OUT AND PLAY EARLY . IT'S HARD BUT THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO. YOUR BODY NEEDS REST AND YOU WILL NEEDED IT BEFORE THAT BABY COMES/ I KNOW THAT YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT NOT BEING ABLE TO DO THIS BUT IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. YOUR NOT A BAD PERSON AND YOUR FRIEND IF SHE IS TRULLY YOUR FREIND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION AND HAVING KIDS OF HER OWN SHE TRULLY SHOULD KNOW WHAT THIS IS LIKE.
NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE YOUR FEEL DON'T WORRY PRETTY SOON YOU WILL SEE YOUR PRETTY FEET AGAIN . God SOON WILL BLESS YOU SOON WITH A LITTLE BUNDLE OF JOY. AND GIRL FRIEND THAT IS NOT A REGREAT THAT YOU WILL EVER ENCOUNTER. GOD ONLY PICKS GOOD PEOPLE TO CARRY LITTLE ANGELS INSIDE OF THEM AND YOU WERE A CHOSEN ONE. SO GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR LITTLE BABY AND SOON YOU WILL BOTH WILL SEE EACHOTHER FEET WELL YOU WILL SEE HIS TINNY ONES. LOL.
KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND GOD BLESS.
MICHELLE
I agree with everyone...don't feel guilty. Your health and the baby's comes first. This is beyond your control- you didn't intend for this to happen.
And, like Doug mentioned, you need to take advantage of the chance to relax. Once the baby arrives, all your energy, time, and even thoughts will be on the baby 24/7!
I know the boys wanted your cake, but in the end they'll have so much fun on their birthday, they won't let the other cake get them down.
Good luck with everything!
If she's a good friend as it sounds like she is, she is more concerned about your baby than cakes for her kids. They'll have more birthdays honey and so will your precious little baby! Don't worry, it's okay. And don't feel bad for being emotional. I cry at the drop of a hat and I'm not pregnant, LMAO!
Things don't always work out the way we plan, do they? It is not easy to deal with all of your feelings right now, believe me I know. I am a mom too. You have to remind yourself the best thing for you and your baby is to do exactly what the doctor ordered. Your baby is counting on you right now. You take care and keep us posted on how your are doing.
Thank you all so much!! All of your comments have made me feel a lot better... and yes doug... hugs from male friends are ok and appreciated!! Thankfully I have a wonderful husband and two other beautiful children who are great. Its just hard to face the reality check that one woman cant do it all no matter how hard she tries. I know everything will turn out just the way it is supposed to in the end. Thanks for the support from everyone!!! I feel better now that i have let out the tears!!!
I am 3 months pregnant and haven't had any problems so far. I also have 2 other kids, so follow Doctor's orders and get some rest. Your hormones are just raging. My hormones only made me cry one time very early in my pregnancy-before I even knew about it. My husband had gone to a movie with a friend and it wasn't over until about 10:45, so he wasn't home until 11:00. I went to bed at about 9:00 and woke up later and expected him to be there in the bed with me. When I saw that he wasn't, it scared me, so I got up and called his cell phone and he said he was on the way home-then the phone went out! When he got home I just started crying right there on his shoulder-and I hardly ever cry-even when I am pregnant! I figured later it was just my hormones. So don't feel guilty about the cake or being a mother-you want the best for your baby even if you have to sacrifice some things. I go September 10 to see if it is a boy or a girl-I can't wait!! This one seems to be the longest pregnancy for me for some reason Anyway, let us know how everything turns out!!
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