What Would Be Appropriate (Sp) For Taking To Someone Who...
Decorating By TiffTurtle Updated 17 Oct 2006 , 6:49pm by mbelgard
what would be appropriate (sp) for taking to someone who has had a death in their family? I know most people take reg food and all...would be ok to take a cake or is that out of line? just wondering what you guys thought. and this would be for somewho who is a LONG time family friend.
any suggestions? even if its not a cake idea? im open for it...
thanks
I am sorry for your friends' loss.
I don't think I would take a cake just because cakes tend to be more celebratory in nature but if you like to bake in general I think a basket of muffins or something along those lines would be appreciated. I think in general you want to give something to make it easier on them (i.e. casseroles, etc . . . to provide a ready-made meal) and muffins or something similar would be good for breakfast or snacking. And I think most people tend to do casseroles so it's something different. People just don't want to worry about / think about meals, etc . . . when their grieving.
I agree...perhaps something more savory would be more appropriate. Maybe even a banana bread or something.
I remember when I was dating my DH the very first month. I had a near-death experience. When her heard, he came rushing over and her brought Napoleans of all things!!
To this day (Thank God I am around) I joke about it with him...
Sorry for your loss.
Here I have had requests for cakes (from both the families and customers who want to take one) at wakes and funerals. A very simple design such as cornelli lace, flowers or a cross is what I often do. It's always appreciated. Of course I never charge for these cakes.
I think a pound cake or coffee cake is always acceptable. Family members usually don't have time to think about having breakfast and one of these would be quick to grab with a cup of coffee.
I had a friend who's son passed away and I made a carolina tarheels cake for his wake- I knew her well enough to know she would appreciate the fact that I remember his love for this team- She did and it made her smile
go with your gut and take whatever you feel is appropriate
Whenever there was a passing on of someone I have known, both sweet or savory items were brought to the family home, both as a comfort and as a convenience to the family.
It is true that often people will gather at the home of the deceased, or a relative's home, both before and after services. The last thing that someone wants to do is worry about at that time is what they are going to feed visitors.
Not only would either food be appropriate, but some paper plates, cups, napkins, or plastic utensils, a bag of ice, and a willing hand to help clean up afterward are also most appreciated.
Theresa 
Not only would either food be appropriate, but some paper plates, cups, napkins, or plastic utensils, a bag of ice, and a willing hand to help clean up afterward are also most appreciated.
Theresa
I agree with this . . . when my husband's mother passed away (he was in college but he's one of nine kids, the youngest of which was still in elementary school) one of the close, family friends brought a huge box of Tide to the wake to give to them . . . she said she figured they'd probably need it and it made everyone smile because it was so out of the ordinary.
I made a cake for my co-worker's Mother's funeral meal. It's the fourth from the bottom on the left in my pics. Her Mom loved pink so it was a very simple cake with a few roses. True, it was hard to know just what to do but they loved it and were very appreciative. Hope this helps.
my family has always made a simple carrot cake with a soft creamcheese frostig. it is a nice cake most people enjoy-however its not to fancied up- they might use as a desert when people come back to the house or church. my experience tells a little sweet is a nice thing
I haven't read all of the posts. I will speak from experience. When my MIL passed away. we were given tons of food. We loved it. No one brought a cake or any desert. I didn't do cakes then at all except baked a cake for my hubby & kids. I would say do a cake or other desert. If you do a cake; just simple cake & icing. It doesn't need to be decorated. Yes cakes are usually for more happy times. Where I'm from fried chicken, potato salad & banana pudding can't do any harm. Yes, that's also a "southern" joke. Seriously: If you feel you want to take cake; then take cake.
I'm sorry your friend is having to handle a death so close to the holidays. I pray blessings on your both.
My dad passed away a couple weeks ago and real good friend of mine baked a cake for us.I think taking a cake would be fine.Sorry for your loss.
A cake would be fine. I wouldn't get really elaborate with the decorations but you could do something simple if you wanted.
Around here people bring everything from food for meals to sweet snacks for the family to serve with coffee when they have people over.
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